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Groups For Women: The Music That Makes My Heart Sing

my girlfriends as a woman after 50

Finding groups for women near you or online will help ease your loneliness.

Soothing Melodies – Can Music Ward Off Loneliness?

I think music is a connection with other people, both literally and figuratively. Let me explain.

Listening to any form of music can soothe any type of mood.

On a personal note, I am far more drawn to the composer’s music than to a lyricist’s lyrics.

A composer’s music puts my mind in a variety of moods. Initially, music draws me to my present self, wherever I happen to be at that moment. I forget the rat race and all of my stress drifts away as I float into a relaxed, contemplative state of mind. Physically and emotionally, music transforms our mindsets.

Though at times we can find ourselves lost in the melody, but still lonely in the silence between the notes. Perhaps the music is highlighting a yearning for deeper connection, a desire for a symphony of strong women in our lives.

Maybe we’ve been looking for companionship in the same places for too long. It’s time to spread our wings and explore new avenues, new harmonies. Women’s groups, social clubs, (or try a new hobby) even online communities – these can all be fertile ground for cultivating friendships with women who enrich our lives, just like the different instruments enrich a composer’s masterpiece.

Feeding Our Souls With a Symphony of Sisterhood

Of course, the type of music we listen to feeds our souls in many different ways. It can disrupt, create a sense of calm, or even release different types of energy.

It can spur creativity or even make us laugh, just like the women in our lives.

Each woman, like a unique instrument, brings her own energy and perspective to the symphony of our lives. This beautiful blend is what creates a truly rich and fulfilling experience.


The Power Rests Within You

In the end, music can’t make us do anything we do not want to do. Therefore, darlings, the most positive strategy to combat loneliness is in your hands. It is in YOU!

For those of you who are searching for a strategic type of music to listen to in order to combat loneliness on a short term basis, I suggest listening to blues. The blues have an uplifting quality and melodies that allow you to fully experience your loneliness. I think the lyrics of most blues songs teach us about endurance. Overall, this type of music has an uplifting effect that helps those of us who are lonely get out of our cocoon moods.

But remember, there’s no one who can keep you out of the cocoon for long periods of time aside from you!

We Are All More Alike Than We Think

Music connects us to other people — in this case I mean literally. Going to small concerts, listening to music with a large number of people in the audience, or taking dance classes, or music classes can definitely help. In this instance, music becomes a positive strategy to fight loneliness because you are getting out of your cocoon and actually taking charge of your life.

As I have mentioned in my musings, loneliness comes in all shapes, in all forms and at all ages; no one is immune. At one time or another, everyone faces loneliness because of our personal experiences.

Many of us are able to rise to the occasion and our loneliness passes relatively quickly. Others are more in the middle lane. And then there are those of us, young and old alike for a thousand different reasons, who struggle to fight the loneliness.

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Examining A Loneliness Poll

Over the past few months, I have thought a lot about the topic of loneliness. Today I saw a new poll on loneliness, performed by the American Psychiatric Association (APA), and was stunned to find that young people feel more lonely than people closer to me in age! And all-in-all, 30% of people report feeling lonely every week, and 10% of people every day!

Loneliness is a very complex topic. For example, women across all age groups are lonelier than men except for one particular group: single women! Married women are lonelier than married men and single men are the most lonely of all!

Two extremely important facets to take into account: on a very positive note, women communicate they are lonely. On a negative note, women tend to have one-on-one friendships and oftentimes miss the exchange of group conversation and interaction.

I enjoy my relationships with all sorts of women. I feel emotionally warm sharing my thoughts and listening to other women’s feelings. Learning from other women and helping other women have always been essential parts of my life. I love the interaction of words and the sounds of laughter when I am in a group of women. After all, my motto at Honey Good is women need women.

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Why Women Need a Chorus, Not a Solo

Imagine an orchestra. Each instrument, unique in its tone and timbre, contributes to the richness of the music. A powerful symphony wouldn’t be possible with just violins, nor would a gentle melody be complete without the occasional flourish of a brass section.

Just like a great orchestra, a fulfilling life thrives on the harmony created by a variety of women. The women in your life, much like the instruments in an orchestra, don’t all have to be the same. In fact, their differences are what create a symphony of support and growth.

By embracing vulnerability, we open ourselves up to the wisdom and experiences of others, even those who may seem different from us on the surface.

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The Comforting Melody of Women Who Share Your Passions

Some of the women in your life will be like the violins in your orchestra – those who share your passions and interests. These are the friends you can drag to that new pottery class with, the ones who understand your obsession with true crime podcasts, or the ones who are always down for a spontaneous girls’ weekend.

These “in-sync” friendships offer a sense of comfort and belonging. You can share your latest ideas, bounce off creative sparks, and celebrate each other’s victories. They’re the familiar melody that carries you through life’s ups and downs.

The Unexpected Harmony of Women Who Challenge Your Perspective

But the symphony of sisterhood needs more than just a comforting melody. Enter the brass section – the women who challenge your perspective and push you outside your comfort zone. These women might have different life experiences, political views, or even hobbies.

Women’s groups, with their diverse membership that can span generations, offer a golden opportunity to do just that. That’s why I love my private Facebook groups, there are women from all walks!

While these friendships may require a little more effort to cultivate, the rewards are immense. I especially think we should look outside of our own age group from time to time. Imagine a young professional, eager to navigate the corporate world, befriending a seasoned businesswoman who can offer invaluable career advice. This younger woman gains a mentor, while the older woman might be inspired by the fresh perspective and energy her younger friend brings. These cross-generational friendships are the notes that, when played skillfully, create a richer and more dynamic symphony.

Women Who Offer Unwavering Support

No orchestra would be complete without its percussion section – the steady beat that keeps everything moving forward. These are the women in your life who offer unwavering support, no matter what life throws your way. They might be your mom, your sister, your best friend from college, or even a mentor you met through a women’s group.

They’re the ones you can call at 3 am when your world feels like it’s crumbling. They’re the ones who celebrate your successes, big and small, with genuine enthusiasm. They’re the unwavering rhythm that provides the foundation for your life’s symphony.

Loneliness and Friendship After 50

The Power of the Chorus and the Strength in Numbers

The magic of an orchestra truly comes alive when all the instruments come together in a chorus. This collective voice can be powerful, moving, and inspiring. The same is true for the women in your life.

Women’s groups offer a unique opportunity to experience the power of the chorus, often with a multi-generational membership. Whether you’re discussing life’s challenges, celebrating personal victories, or simply sharing a laugh, the collective energy of a supportive group of women can be incredibly empowering.

Imagine a book club where a young woman, just starting her family, can learn from the experiences of a seasoned grandmother. The younger woman might gain valuable parenting tips, while the grandmother might discover a new perspective on raising children in a different era. These cross-generational connections create a beautifully blended chorus, where each voice adds its own unique richness to the song.

Finding Your Perfect Blend

The key to a fulfilling life isn’t surrounding yourself with clones of yourself. It’s about creating a symphony of strong women, each with their own unique melody, that together create a beautiful and powerful harmony.

Embrace the comfort of shared passions, learn from the challenge of differing perspectives, rely on the unwavering support of your closest confidantes, and revel in the strength found in connecting with a diverse group of women, across generations. After all, the most beautiful music is often born from the most unexpected combinations.

Empowered women seek to share their lives with women of all walks of life. Would you agree? 

June 2, 2024

Passages After 50, Relationships

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  1. L says:

    Hi Honey

    Love this topic i started listening to cello lately i think the reason behind it is brings back memories of my grandfather playing the violin .everytime we would go visit him he would bring out is violin and we would get so happy 🙂 we would be dancing and jumping while he was playing .:) this topic started the day with a warm smile 🙂

    The cello brings me calmness even if it has a intense sound 🙂

    Enjoy your day honey xox L

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      You made my day with your comment. I awakened to it this am. When my ultimate concierge and I go out in the evening we play music for symphonic music for our pooch, America. When we arrive home, I leave it on for myself for a while. Have a nice day. Warmly, Honey

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