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How to Feel Sexy After 50

Feel Sexy after 50

I asked my ultimate concierge what makes a woman sexy after 50?

He answered, “How she carries and presents herself.”
“Be more specific,” I replied.
He answered, “You. The whole package.”

I gave him a kiss and thanked him for adoring me. His description of what makes a woman sexy after 50, “the whole package,” is spot on.

Feeling Sexy After 50 is Believing in Your “Whole Package”

I am aware that many women after 50 feel invisible. They think they have lost their sex appeal. They notice the lack of stares as they walk down the street.  Our culture has been the culprit. Bluntly put, older women haven’t been in Vogue.

Marketing has changed direction, my darlings. Have you noticed? Older women are now in Vogue! Younger people realize we have MOXIE!

Seventy is the new 50, 60 is the new 40, and 50 is the new 30.

We have been welcomed back into American society as ”visible, vibrant and sexy women over 50.” Embrace this welcome turn of events with your head held high and perfect posture. Walk down the street with a smile on your face, and feel sexy and vibrant because you, my darlings, are worthy of attention! Women over 50 … are in!

For the thousands of you who are feeling invisible and sexless because of your age, now is the time to rejuvenate not only your appearance but your attitude, just as thousands of other women over 50 have done.

I have a few personal thoughts on how to be a visible, vibrant, sexy woman after 50. As my ultimate concierge wisely said, “It’s the whole package.”

If you feel you have lost your visibility and sex appeal, is it because you’ve let yourself go a tad or because you are unable to embrace your age or because you need a life change?

Make a Plan

If you are one of the thousands who feel they have lost their vibrancy and sex appeal, you know that you and you alone are in control of making that important shift in your life. You have choices. It’s time to take note of your options and make a plan. It’s time to feel your sex appeal. A woman who feels sexy is sexy.

You are the “in generation” now! Gray hair is in, maturity is in style, older women are featured in magazines and big-brand ads. There are a million products, gyms, nutritionists, dermatologists and stylists in every city and town to reach out to. Your excuses have vanished.

If you think you look great and are in good shape, yet feel you have lost your sex appeal, visibility, and vitality, it’s time to look within yourself and figure out the cause. Might it be that you need a purpose? Darlings, the ball is in your court. Make that plan.

It’s Attitude, Darlings

I have written about the importance of a woman’s inner beauty. I will always believe that 80% of your beauty and sex appeal comes from within. The remaining 20% is your “look.”

A woman’s attitude — her MOXIE — gives her confidence. Her femininity and grace and loving manner are great attributes. Her smile and warmth attract others of all ages. Enthusiasm, curiosity and purpose radiate attractiveness and, yes, sexiness. Combining that inner being with her outer look makes her one hell of a visible, vibrant and sexy woman with MOXIE! It makes me smile.

Sure, we all have those days when we feel “punk” or overwhelmed. We need a “little lift.” I suggest a boost from the outside. Shop for a new red lipstick, make an appointment for a massage. Change your hair style. When I am feeling out of sorts, a phone call to a best girlfriend always lifts my spirits.

You don’t have to worry that it’s only “beautiful women” who have a ticket to visibility and sex appeal. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Put that smile on your face and care about others. That is how to be — and remain — a sexy woman over 50.

Follow and Maintain a Formula And Be Sexy After 50

Older women who are determined to maintain their visibility and sexuality do this. The key is to define, follow and stick to a formula that works for you. And, if you do, a little voice inside will say, “I like the woman I have become.” That is the ultimate in sex appeal, darlings. That is called confidence.

So I ask you to find your formula. No one formula fits all. But you know what you have to do. Hopefully, you will. It may be a life-altering change. It may be an attitude change. It may be time to put yourself first and take care of yourself. It may be all three.

Ask Yourself if You’d Like to Be 40 Again

I think if you ask yourself that question you may learn more about yourself.

Would I rather be in my 40s again? In all honesty, I would like to go back in time, but not for the reasons you think. My experiences, both marvelous and devastating, have molded my inner being and made me a loving, confident, content and proud older woman … with gray hair!

Why would I like to go back in time?

I would like to relive every day beginning with the first day I met my ultimate concierge. Twenty-some years when I was in my 40s, my husband walked into my life. I wish I could repeat every minute of every day with him. He fills me up in every way and, darlings, he tells and shows me I’m sexy!

  1. I agree with you and your hubby Honey, keeping up with yourself in every way, “the whole package” is the key to feeling and looking “sexy”. My sweetheart looked over at me the other evening and said to me, “you are my Cover Girl”, then leaned in and kissed me. I think I’m doing something right. What more can I say.

  2. Hi Honey..Had to respond to this sexy after 50!!Yesterday,Saturday,shopping in a very lg. have everything store.Leaving the restroom and someone,kind of a little to my back left says,”I said to myself,that is a really good looking woman”I turned and saw a man with a cart ,hooked up to an oxygen tank and immediately said Thank you,I’m 74!!I was really surprised,flattered and wow,I haven’t heard that in a long time.We chatted for a few minutes about his health issues,he was 69 and on the mend,and I shared a little of my last few years of health issues that seemed never ending and destined to put me in bed for the end of my time!!He said he was in therapy and I shared that I ate well,exercised..4 classes a week.That happening was one of the warmest and good feeling encounters that I have had in a long while.We walked away together,chatted about a few buyables and he said he was off to find his wife somewhere in the store.I said thank you for the compliment and we went on our ways.I can’t explain the feeling of that encounter…was like I met one of my angels..warm,kind,natural,making me feel good about where I was at 74.Thank you Honey for all that you write,from the heart,I look for you every morning.🥰

    1. What a lovely story. Thank you for sharing it with me. A smile can go a long way and so will a few kind words. Now you know for sure that you should put yourself out there. You will shine. You have MOXIE! Warmly, Honey

  3. I agree! You and Shelly are inspiring. How I wish that I and others find someone who sees them and appreciates them in the same way. This must make your life that much fuller and brighter.

    1. It sure does. To know you are loved is the best.Until that happens love yourself.Your vibes will attract others. Warmly, Honey

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