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How to Feel Sexy After 50

How to Feel Sexy After 50!

how to feel sexy after 50

I asked my Ultimate Concierge what makes a woman sexy after 50… 

He answered, “How she carries and presents herself.”
“Be more specific,” I replied.
He answered, “You. The whole package.”

I gave him a kiss and thanked him for adoring me. His description of what makes a woman sexy after 50, “the whole package,” is spot on.

Feeling Sexy After 50 is Believing in Your “Whole Package”

I am aware that many women after 50 feel invisible. They think they have lost their sex appeal. They notice the lack of stares as they walk down the street.  Our culture has been the culprit. Bluntly put, older women haven’t been in Vogue.

Marketing has changed direction, my darlings. Have you noticed? Older women are now in Vogue! Younger people realize we have MOXIE!

Seventy is the new 50, 60 is the new 40, and so on…

We have been welcomed back into American society as “visible, vibrant, and sexy women over 50.” Embrace this welcome turn of events with your head held high and perfect posture. Walk down the street with a smile on your face, and feel sexy and vibrant because you, my darlings, are worthy of attention! Women over 50 are in!

For the thousands of you who are feeling invisible and sexless because of your age, now is the time to rejuvenate not only your appearance but your attitude, just as thousands of other women over 50 have done.

I have a few personal thoughts on how to be a visible, vibrant, sexy woman after 50. As my Ultimate Concierge wisely said, “It’s the whole package.”

If you feel you have lost your visibility and sex appeal, is it because you’ve let yourself go a tad or because you are unable to embrace your age or because you need a life change?

Make a Plan

If you are one of the thousands who feel they have lost their vibrancy and sex appeal, you know that you, and you alone, are in control of making that important shift in your life. You have choices. It’s time to take note of your options and make a plan. It’s time to feel your sex appeal. A woman who feels sexy is sexy.

You are the “in-generation” now! Grey hair is in, maturity is in style, older women are featured in magazines and big-brand ads. There are a million products, gyms, nutritionists, dermatologists, and stylists in every city and town to reach out to. Your excuses have vanished.

If you think you look great and are in good shape, yet feel you have lost your sex appeal, visibility, and vitality, it’s time to look within yourself and figure out the cause. Might it be that you need a purpose? The ball is in your court. Make that plan.

It’s Attitude, Darlings

I have written about the importance of a woman’s inner beauty. I will always believe that 80% of your beauty and sex appeal comes from within. The remaining 20% is your “look.”

A woman’s attitude — her MOXIE — gives her confidence. Her femininity and grace and loving manner are great attributes. Her smile and warmth attract others of all ages. Enthusiasm, curiosity, and purpose radiate attractiveness and, yes, sexiness. Combining that inner being with her outer look makes her one hell of a visible, vibrant, and sexy woman with MOXIE! It makes me smile.

Sure, we all have those days when we feel overwhelmed and we need a “little lift.” I suggest a boost from the outside. Shop for a new red lipstick, make an appointment for a massage. Change your hairstyle. When I am feeling out of sorts, a phone call to a best girlfriend always lifts my spirits.

You don’t have to worry that it’s only “beautiful women” who have a ticket to visibility and sex appeal. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Put that smile on your face and care about others. That is how to be — and remain — a sexy woman over 50.

Follow and Maintain a Formula and be Sexy After 50

Older women who are determined to maintain their visibility and sexuality do this. The key is to define, follow, and stick to a formula that works for you. And, if you do, a little voice inside will say, “I like the woman I have become.” That is the ultimate in sex appeal, darlings. That is called confidence.

So I ask you to find your formula. No one formula fits all. But you know what you have to do. Hopefully, you will. It may be a life-altering change. Or it may be an attitude change. It may be time to put yourself first and take care of yourself. Or it may be all three.

Ask Yourself if You’d Like to be 40 Again

I think if you ask yourself that question you may learn more about yourself.

Would I rather be in my 40’s again? In all honesty, I would like to go back in time, but not for the reasons you think. My experiences, both marvelous and devastating, have molded my inner being and made me a loving, confident, content, and proud older woman… with grey hair!

Why would I like to go back in time?

I would like to re-live every day beginning with the first day I met my Ultimate Concierge. I wish I could repeat every minute of every day with him. He fills me up in every way and, darlings, he tells and shows me I’m sexy!

How do you work to feel sexy after 50? Let me know if the comments at the bottom of this page! 

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This article was updated on 6.21.20



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