Traveling to Bali cemented my belief in karma and serendipity. Come along and I’ll tell you why.
“I believe learning never stops. Thank goodness!” – Honey Good
My Ultimate Concierge asked me if I would like to travel to Bali, Indonesia. “Would I like to! I would love to!” I felt my heart go pitter-patter.
Shelly had a real estate convention. Afterward, he suggested we spend some quality time together, connecting and discovering Bali.
“Let’s stay a week after and spend alone time together,” he said.
I smiled and went to work with my well-traveled, travel agent. Darling, I have learned to use only a well-traveled agent who works in a large company. Just my advice. Anyway, I charged her with finding a perfect spot, away from the roaring crowd. She found a Shangri-La in the middle of a rice patty!
SERENDIPITY IN BALI
First I would love to tell you about the magical island of Bali. One thinks of Bali as an enchanting island in the middle of the Indian Ocean. A romantic paradise with fragrant flowers and lush foliage. And a community of citizens who have earned the well-deserved reputation of being the kindest human beings on earth.
That is why my heart will always beat with pleasure when I think of Bali. Thankfully, I have captured its essence forever. Along with some insight from three women I had the pleasure of meeting.
Looking back, I believe 3 women in Bali were meant to pass through my life because of circumstances beyond our control. Though I do believe in serendipity; that we make things happen. When you will it, chances are you will get it. I try try try to always see my glass as half full.
Instead of enlightening you about the geography and culture of Bali, I prefer to tell you three stories. Of three women and the emotional effect they had on me. Hopefully, they will affect your thinking, too.
3 WOMEN, ONE SENSE OF CONNECTION
The first special woman I will introduce you to is Parmini. She is a 30-year-old Balinese woman, married with a 6-month-old daughter. Parmini works as a private concierge at the resort where we stayed on Bali. Her lessons enhanced my belief in myself. She was the first greeter I met at our resort.
Sue is an American woman in her 80s who lived in Tokyo for several years. She was invited by the Prime Minister of Japan to work on his think tank. She speaks a multitude of languages and has lived on the island of Bali for over 20 years. Why did she move to Bali? Stay tuned, darlings, as I share her story and the impact she had on me.
Maya is from Romania and now resides outside Chicago with her husband and two little ones. Serendipity, my darlings. She is under 30-years-old, an attorney by degree. She’s the owner of a tea company that produces luxurious and natural teas. So, what drew me to her? Her purpose and passion.
Each of these women is exceptional. And, I think good karma had a hand in our meeting in Bali. Serendipity in some form!
“Hinduism teaches us to be emotionally disciplined.” – Parmini
At our resort, in Ubud, Bali, guests are assigned a concierge for their stays. Out of several concierges, Parmini was assigned to be ours. I said to my husband, “Now I have two concierges in my life,”
Parmini asked me why I had two. I explained to Parmini why I call Shelly my “Ultimate Concierge.” We all laughed good-naturedly at my good luck!
Parmini was the first person to greet us at our hotel. Her wide smile, her twinkling eyes and warm personality put me on an immediate high. Around my wrist, she tied the meaningful Balinese string to guard and protect me. Parmini and I bonded instantly. And, I felt that our connection was meant to be. Serendipity.
We spent almost one week together at the resort. She drove for us and made our dinner reservations. She came to our little home in the rice paddy to regulate the air conditioning or adjust the television.
Her assistance didn’t end there. Parmini also helped me with my iPhone or arranged for a driver for us to go into the town of Ubud, known for its culture. I was drawn to her and she was drawn to me. She told me several times, “Honey, I feel your strong energy.” I told her how fond I was of her and quizzed her about her family and customs. We drew close. When we left one another it was with a hug.
Next, Parmini explained to me that the Balinese people are of the Hindu faith. They believe that the sum of their actions in this life and past lives will determine their fate in future lives. This has a profound effect on their actions. THEY THINK TWICE BEFORE THE TALK ONCE.
Parmani said, “Who knows when you might need that neighbor! We always do unto others as they would want others to do unto them.”
The Hindu faith has produced a community of people on Bali. These people I can best describe as being emotionally disciplined. Because they know every action has a reaction.
The emotional attitude of a Balinese woman is not simple at all. She is mentally strong and knowing. She is disciplined.
LESSONS UPON LESSONS
On our last day together, Parmini told me that she followed me on Instagram and wanted to email me little stories of Hindu life on Bali.
You understand darling, one can have friendships that are multigenerational. It is healthy. We teach. We learn. They teach. They learn.
On our last day together before we said our goodbyes, I felt this young woman of 30 could give me sound advice. I told her of my three-year ongoing problem. I did not mention how I have been handling the situation, nor did she ask.
She told me that if she were in my shoes she would hold her thoughts private and remain silent. I asked her, “why?”
“Because,” she responded, ” I believe one should not lower themselves to the other person’s level. We believe in the end the truth will be known. It is a person’s karma.”
I told her I have taken the high road and kept my silence for three years. But that I question if I should continue to do that. With her laughing eyes and a marvelous big smile, she nodded, yes, and then took my hand and squeezed it. This young woman reinforced my decision.
I had no idea I was basing my actions on the Hindu faith… emotional discipline. Our meeting was meant to be. It was our karma. Our fate. Serendipity.