It’s easy to give advice to a troubled friend, “Learn to count your blessings.” But how? How does one focus on the good — so that it may grow — and minimize the negative?
Each week I look forward to getting a manicure. I don’t believe in the more creative options such as gels or acrylics so my stay is short (like my nails!) but always delightful because the shop is so charming all done up in pinks and fresh white paint…and to add to the atmosphere there is soft background music.
Yesterday proved to be different, very different because I could not help overhearing the woman next to me lamenting her woes in great detail for the entirety of her manicure.
I thought to myself smiling, “This client is smart because her manicurist is certainly a lot less expensive than a psychiatrist or my husband’s term for a shrink… a stretch!”
I continued listening to her bemoan her troubles because our tables were almost touching. She was confiding in the manicurist as though she were a female, Sigmund Freud, the Father of Psychiatry. Her therapy and manicure would cost $22.00, without a tip!
For more of my thoughts on how I stay positive, you may enjoy reading How I View Life Through Rose-Colored Glasses and You Should Too!
Learn To Count Your Blessings
I wanted to enter the conversation and say to her: “I’m sure you are juggling a lot of things in your life, but perspective really is everything. Try to learn to count your blessings, instead of your woes. That is the key to making the blessings begin to multiply.”
While I am empathetic about the woes of this woman sitting next to me, it’s also essential that I protect my own well-being. It can be difficult not to let the attitudes of others bring you down. Do you agree?
Instead, I go into my private zone and think, rather than talk! I rehash my morning in my mind, and recall the thoughts I had in my favorite reflection tank…also known as my shower!
“Become aware of your daily blessings and count them!” — Honey Good
I remember feeling peaceful as the warm water, from my rainforest showerhead, cascaded over my body. My mind was crystal clear as I cleansed myself of all unnecessary clutter.
What was so serendipitous about today’s trip to the manicurist was that I counted my blessings this morning in the shower!
What blessings did I count? The little ones. A memory of the night before flashed into my mind. It was my husband opening the car door for me! I remembered thanking him and most importantly feeling very much loved and respected by this man I chose to be my partner decades ago! I smiled.
The point is this, we must learn how to count our blessings even in the toughest of times. It is a skill that can be practiced and perfected but we must be disciplined. We must hold ourselves to the highest of standards, looking for the good in people and situations as often as possible. This is how we can learn to count our blessings.
Is The Glass Always Half Full?
No, I am not a Pollyanna, always excessively cheerful or optimistic. But I do — as often as possible — try to see my glass half full. What I am offering you today is what I have learned. I am offering you, my imperfect application of wisdom.
I truly appreciate my blessings and find joy in those fleeting moments during the course of each day. It may be my dog, America, licking my leg, a text, an email or a phone call from a child or grandchild, the taste of my early morning hot coffee, hearing my husband’s voice, or looking at the gas gauge on my car and noticing my husband filled the tank.
I offer you this suggestion:
Become aware of your daily blessings and count them! They are right under your nose. Blessings do not have to be big, they are small snippets that may last but a second. The small, wonderful moments are little mental treasures. Please recognize them, because they will either give your body a feeling of great physical relaxation or put a small smile on your face.
Do something good today…voice this snippet of wisdom to your grandchildren or to a girlfriend who is using her manicurist as her therapist. 😉
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Well said and appreciated. My husband and I express what gives us joy and our gratitude throughout every day. It helps us be intentional in thought throughout our day and life. Thank you for the reminder. You are a ray of sunshine in my life.
I just love everything you said. Cherish each and all blessings no matter how small. Love you Honey.😊
I know you have conquered your heartaches with grace and courage. I like this essay very much and I think you are right. Greetings.
Thank you, Mirna. I know you are a member of GRAND, too. I am glad. Warmly, Honey
Yes, we do make issues appear when we reach out It is all about listening to your heart when serendipity appears and going for it. Warmly, Honey
I do count my blessings every day! I even write a Gratitude Journal that helps me focus on the good.
It’s usually the little things that make my day. A bird in the back yard, a flowering tree in the Spring, the tulips in pots in my front yard, etc.
Maybe I should add that I have been a kidney dialysis patient for 5 1/2 years & still have lots to live for & enjoy.
It’s all a matter of perspective & attitude.
We are kindred sisters.i count my blessings daily and appreciated the benefit of nature.Warmly, honey
Yes, it is the little things we can pay attention to and be grateful for. We sometimes miss them because we are looking for the “big things”
I love all the examples you gave.
I appreciate the quiet mornings with my coffee before my husband wakes up.
…..favorite cookbooks and old magazines I love too much to throw away.
…Visiting the botanical gardens in our city
….walks in nature
….my old old faithful dog
I feel good already!
I am smiling. We are lucky that we are grateful to appreciate the meaning of gratitude.I am glad you are feeling good.So am I. Warmly, Honey