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Show Yourself Love: There is Only One You!

Do you know how to show yourself love and cultivate personal happiness? There is only one you after all, don’t you deserve to be adored?

Darlings, you are at the stage in life when you probably have the time to indulge yourself. Do you feel you are egotistical, self-centered or self- absorbed if you take your time to “smell the roses?”

Many women feel trapped in their lifestyle after they are greater than 50. I don’t, because my mother and other women were my role models; they knew how to cultivate personal happiness, at times, against all the odds.

I watched, listened and learned from them. For those of you who did not have a role model and feel trapped and anxious to indulge in yourself, maybe I can lend a helping hand. Remember, you have MOXIE! Every woman does.

HOW I INDULGE MYSELF

Showering love on my ultimate concierge and my pooch, America brings me great satisfaction.

I pamper myself by soaking in a hot bath on a cold day and munching on popcorn and binge-watching two or more seasons on Netflix or Amazon Prime with my ultimate concierge.

My soul is soothed when I am building relationships with women of all ages and forming women’s groups.

Exploring nature every day is a balm.

I indulge myself exploring the world while watching National Geographic, and when I can, I hop on a plane and indulge in my wanderlust. Sentimentality and empathy for all things large and small brings me joy. I hang out with happy and interesting people and toxic and unhappy people (unless someone needs me).

I ‘dare myself to dare.’ I feel empowered by speaking my mind and reaching for the stars even when I am afraid. As a woman greater than 50, I am fearless walking out the door in the newest fashion or hottest color of red lipstick. I have earned the title of a woman with MOXIE! and so have you.

Why? Because at our age we are beautiful blooming flowers. We are no longer rosebuds. We know what makes us tick. You know what makes your heart sing. Indulge yourself in your dreams and goals so you lead an emotionally charmed life and show yourself love.

ASK YOURSELF WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY

Everybody has something that brings feelings of joy. Without a doubt, no two women are alike. Therefore, I want you to pull out your pad and paper and answer the two questions below.

1. What are five things in your life that give you joy that you are not doing now?
2. What changes are you able to make that will improve your lifestyle?

honey good journaling show yourself love

Pull out a journal or a pad of paper to uncover what you brings you joy.

WHAT I THINK HOLDS WOMEN BACK

1. As little girls we learned how to indulge others.

We took care of our dollies and watched our mothers cater to our father, our siblings, other family members, and us. We were given an A+ by our mothers as the caregivers of others. Those are good reasons we continue to place ourselves on the back burner. We indulge in other’s needs over our own because we continue to think it is a selfish act to put ourselves first. Wrong! You deserve to show yourself love.

2. Identifying ourselves by our relationships.

Many of you have pigeonholed yourselves, and are identifying yourself by your relationships with your adult children. You have allowed yourself to be constant caregivers to them and your grands. Everything in moderation should be your rule of thumb. You should give love to them and but prioritize the time to love yourself.

3. Never learning to say “No”

Maybe you continue to say ‘yes’ to your extended family and friends when what you really want to say is a resounding, ‘no.’ Learn to say no. I know it takes courage. You will be respected for voicing your feelings. It will be refreshing, and you will feel powerful in taking a stand.

4. You are afraid to venture out.

This is not a weakness. It is natural to have mixed feelings when we change course. Focus on the reason you want to explore the unknown, and add the word, desire, to your vocabulary.

THERE IS ONLY ONE YOU, SHOW YOURSELF LOVE

Maybe you might consider joining Celebrate Life, my private online networking group. You will learn what other women are talking about and thinking about. Or…

I could go on and on.

Write down ‘your’ five joys. Write down your five ‘needs’ that are attainable and will add more joy to your life.

Darling, question yourself and question your motives. Live into your answer. I assure you, it will work. If you will work to show yourself love…it will work.

How do you show love for yourself? How do you take care of you? Please share your thoughts with me in the comments section below.

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December 3, 2023

Advice, Passages After 50, Self Care

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  1. Suroia Mali says:

    Thank you Honey for this wonderful article.

  2. Linda says:

    “What Makes Me Happy. “ well, this is where the rubber meets the road. I Know what makes me happy, but that happiness is difficult to attain when I am a caretaker for my husband (dementia), take care of our dog and am Still trying to rebuild our house after Hurricane Harvey hit one and a half years ago. There are small bits and pieces of happiness now and then, but mainly it is one long slog. I am so overwhelmed that I don’t have time to figure out how to find that happiness on a daily basis. I just forge ahead every day.

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      I think you should be proud of yourself that you are forging ahead. That should give you a feeling of pride and a tinge of happiness. I know what overwhelmed feels like. It is very painful. If you do not have family support or friends that have the time to give you support please join a group in your area of like-minded people. It has been proven that people who join groups find happiness sharing with others. Join our private network bemoxie!now.com that is for honey good women and their friends. There is a sign-up on the https://www.honeygood.com site. Warmly, Honey

  3. Marion says:

    Just what I needed to hear…you are an inspiration Honey! Thank you 💐

  4. Jeanne says:

    The moxie site says I am registered but I do not know how to follow the site. I have not gotten any posts either. Please help

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      I just signed you up for https://www.honeygood.com. You were not sighed up. So happy to help you. Wait for a few days on Moxie sign-ups because we are making it easier. I am so happy you want to be a part of Honey Good. Warmly, Honey

  5. Cecelia says:

    I love what you say…we are no longer rosebuds but blooming beautiful flowers. So true

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