An impending hurricane swirling towards Florida throws a friend and me into a whirlwind of worry. Her children and granddaughter, new residents of the Sunshine State, face the unknown with limited support. It’s a scene that stirs an old memory, a timely reminder of the strength and spirit we discover when confronted by the unfamiliar.

If you’ve ever been in the midst of a hurricane (in this case I mean this literally!) then you will understand that it is a time when untold stories come out. Thankfully, I was not in harm’s way, but a friend’s loved ones were.

She and I were in deep conversation about a massive hurricane headed toward Florida. Her children and baby granddaughter had just moved to Florida and the opinions of ‘what they should do’ were coming from all directions. Her “baby” and her baby granddaughter were in a new area, with little support, facing the unknown. Let’s be honest, it was a scary prospect.

Their ages and the tales of this new, unsettling experience brought back an old memory that I shared with my girlfriend.  The memory I shared with her was a poignant reminder that we find our strength and feed our spirit when we face the unknown.

My girlfriend said, “You have to write a story about your experience.” And that is what I am doing.

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Finding Strength and Spirit: My Story as a Young New Mother

At the very young age of 21, with a new baby girl, six weeks old, I moved to Georgia.

When I moved to the military base, Fort Benning in Columbus, Georgia, I did so without my second Lieutenant husband, who had orders to precede me by two weeks. I knew no one and I had never been on a military base. I had never flown alone with an infant. I had to recognize the physical and emotional challenges of traveling alone with a newborn, understanding how my body and mind would be tested in new ways.

My mother said, “You can’t take care of your goldfish, how are you going to fly across America with a newborn to a military base in Georgia!”

Flying alone was a new experience, and the physical demands on my body during travel and new motherhood were intense. Every step required strength and resilience, both physically and emotionally.

Looking back, I realize that this move revealed an inner strength and resilience I didn’t know I had. The experience shaped me, helping me grow into a person who could adapt and survive in unfamiliar circumstances.

How would you have reacted to my circumstances at the age of 21? Would the idea of bravery or stepping outside your comfort zone have inspired you to take such a leap?

Would you have made the move with feistiness, moxie, and bravery?

And then ask yourself, at this very moment in time, if you are stretching yourself at your present age, past 50?  Would you move to a new community, start a new business, travel to Rwanda in Africa to visit the silverbacks (read about my experience here!)?

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Motherhood

Motherhood is one of life’s most profound and transformative experiences. It brings with it a whirlwind of emotions—joy, fear, self-doubt, and ultimately, a deeper understanding of oneself and the world. As Laila Ali, a trailblazer in women’s boxing, once said, “Finding strength in the spirit” is essential for navigating the complexities of motherhood. The holy spirit, a guiding force for so many, offers comfort, wisdom, and peace during this journey, helping mothers tap into their personal power and sidestep feelings of uncertainty.

For the vast majority of mothers, the desire to be a role model and inspiration for their children is a driving force. Embracing a spiritual life allows us to find meaning and strength even in the most challenging moments. By nurturing our spirit and focusing on the wisdom and power within, we can overcome self-doubt and fear, and discover the joy that comes from living with purpose. Motherhood is not just about caring for another life—it’s about growing, healing, and finding strength in the face of the unknown.

My Strength, Spirit, and Spiritual Life

I told my friend, recounting the experience, “I never doubted myself. Sure, I was afraid of the unknown. But, I had no fear of failure.”

And then I explained why…

The town I grew up in, Kankakee by the Sea, was my most important teacher on the subject of survival. The town, thank God, taught me to adapt as a young girl to every situation that requires true grit, an ability to stretch myself without breaking, a positive attitude that I will succeed. After all, I believe that grace and grit are important traits for empowered women.

I faced situations that exceeded reasonableness for a young girl, but I left the town with a feeling of positive power and an earthiness in my soul—a deep connection to the earth that grounds me and reminds me of where I come from. I carried that winning energy with me, knowing that these experiences matter in shaping my journey.

That small town way of thinking, to this day, keeps me grounded, kind, and open to meeting people from all walks of life. I am always conscious of my mindset and approach to new situations, understanding how important it is to be aware of my inner state. Thank you, Kankakee by the Sea.

This was who I was as the young woman who flew to an unknown military base in the South. I may not have had the prowess to know how to clean my fish bowl, but I knew how to survive, and thrive. I never knew exactly what to expect, but I embraced the unknown with openness. What I knew was that I would participate and enjoy my new surroundings — even with cockroaches — which I outlived (I killed them with spray starch)!

Spiritual Life and Guidance

A rich spiritual life is a wellspring of strength, especially during the unpredictable journey of motherhood. The holy spirit, as described by Jesus and throughout the Bible, is a source of comfort, wisdom, and power. In the book of Acts, the holy spirit is portrayed as a guiding force, empowering believers to live with courage and purpose. When we seek guidance from the holy spirit, we invite peace and joy into our lives, even when we are facing suffering or adversity.

Cultivating a spiritual life means opening ourselves to a deeper understanding of who we are and the world around us. It’s about finding meaning in the everyday moments and recognizing the profound impact of faith and spiritual guidance. By embracing the spirit, we can overcome challenges, heal from past wounds, and move forward with renewed strength and wisdom. Ultimately, a spiritual life brings us closer to peace, purpose, and a sense of belonging in this vast world.

Role Models and Inspiration

Role models are essential in shaping our journey, especially as mothers. Laila Ali, a legend in women’s boxing, stands as a testament to the power of perseverance and the courage to overcome challenges. Her story is one of resilience, determination, and unwavering belief in herself, even in the face of self-doubt and fear. Drawing inspiration from women like Laila Ali reminds us that we, too, can find the power within to rise above obstacles and pursue our dreams.

The holy spirit also serves as a source of inspiration and guidance, helping us to stay focused on our goals and to overcome the fears that can sometimes hold us back. By looking to strong role models and embracing the spirit, we can develop the courage and confidence needed to navigate the complexities of motherhood. Every story of triumph, every moment of courage, becomes a beacon of hope for others walking a similar path.

How I Survive — and Thrive — Even Today

As we age we have a choice. We can stay in the race and continue to dream big dreams. I intend to do just that.

I am still that young girl walking alone with my baby into those gates at Fort Benning looking only forward to the unknown, embracing the search for meaning and purpose that each new chapter brings. How many of you feel that same way? Many of you, I’m sure, can relate.

I know I am older but so what? My gray hair does not bother me not nor do my lines. I lead a beautiful life and refuse to give in to self pity, choosing instead to face each day with resilience.

Every day is, in fact, unknown. Accepting the reality of life’s unpredictability allows us to grow. The knowledge gained from past experiences informs how we approach the present. And that is where you bloom. Strength and spirit flourish amongst new experiences. Open up your arms, at every age, and welcome the adventure with a grin and a wink. I know I will.

Navigating Motherhood

Navigating motherhood is a journey filled with both challenges and triumphs, and it requires a blend of wisdom, compassion, and courage. Embracing a spiritual life and seeking guidance from the holy spirit can provide the clarity and strength needed to face each day with confidence. The breath brings life and energy to our bodies, and by focusing on our breath, we can find moments of calm and peace, even amidst the chaos of daily life.

Women’s boxing, with its emphasis on straight talking, mental power, and resilience, offers a powerful metaphor for motherhood. Just as a boxer must listen, adapt, and stand strong in the ring, mothers must draw on their inner spirit and energy to overcome adversity and achieve their goals. By cultivating a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world, and by listening to the wisdom of the holy spirit, we can develop the courage and compassion needed to thrive.

Ultimately, motherhood is about growth—learning to overcome challenges, heal from setbacks, and embrace the joy and meaning that comes from serving and loving others. With faith, understanding, and a willingness to listen and learn, every mother can discover her own unique path to peace and fulfillment.

How to Find the Silver Lining and Bloom Where You’re Planted

Life, like a hurricane, throws unexpected things our way. But we can cultivate a sense of optimism to find the joy in the unexpected. It’s not about ignoring challenges; it’s about choosing to focus on the possibilities, the chance to grow and explore, and embracing the truth of our situation with honesty and openness.

This youthful spirit, this ability to see the bright side, is a quality that transcends age. Even when faced with difficulties, there’s always a chance to find the silver lining. Sometimes, words are simply not enough to express the depth of our feelings or the hope we hold onto.

Are you looking through rose-colored glasses at your current situation? Perhaps there’s a hidden opportunity waiting to be discovered. Maybe a local class you’ve been meaning to try, a volunteer opportunity that piques your interest, or a hidden gem in your own city waiting to be explored. A single word of encouragement can inspire change. Let things happen naturally, allowing unexpected opportunities to unfold. Embrace the unknown, big or small, and keep your spirit youthful and optimistic, uplifting your spirits along the way.

Life, at any age, is a journey filled with unexpected turns. But by choosing to see the world through a lens of possibility, just like we did in our youth, we can find the strength and courage to navigate any storm, be it a literal hurricane or the everyday challenges life throws our way.

I am smiling.