Self-confidence cannot be bottled. Wouldn’t it be marvelous if a woman could purchase a bottle of confidence? It would be her personal elixir to spritz on when she felt the desire to speak out but lacked self-confidence.
I believe there is confusion between self-esteem and self-confidence. Self-esteem is closely connected to your relationship with your first critics, your parents, and close relatives. If you were showered with unconditional love and approved by them you are apt to have high self-esteem.
Self-Confidence is Not a Gift From Others
Self-confidence is not a gift from others. It is a gift you give yourself when you choose a course of action that turns out to be very effective. Eleanor Roosevelt said, “You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
When you persist and meet success with a new project, you experience an exuberant feeling of joy. You are proud of yourself and you may not have trusted your ability because it was new but you went for it, you aspired, and met success. So remember your action to take action; to aspire is as important as the result of your achievement.
A Few Tips On How To Improve Self-Confidence
A self-confident person is not always the best event planner, chef, salesperson, or athlete who climbed Mount Everest. These individuals took time to perfect a skill. They aspired. They worked hard and under their professional umbrellas, they are confident. And, they have a good head start but there is much more that goes into the making of a self-confident woman.
I have noticed that a self-confident woman senses her working capital. And, I am not talking about money. Her capital is based on her positive experiences. But I wonder if she takes the time to note her self-worth? Does she realize her many small accomplishments that are worthwhile? Does she notice that amazing women choose to be her friend? And does she notice her warmth and loving ways attract even the check-out lady in the market? Does she notice how her children respect her? Or does she note that people of all ages ask her for her opinion? If you are that woman, start noticing right now and become aware of the woman you are, and begin to feel your worthiness.
Edit Your Lifestyle
It is important that you succeed at things that matter to you. In other words, eliminate from your life what is not beneficial to you. Edit your lifestyle and decide what you want your life to look like. You have created your new purpose. All you have to get over is what Eleanor Roosevelt said, “You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
Yesterday my granddaughter texted me. She has a new beau. She told me about him and ended by saying, “I am afraid I will make another mistake because I made two bad choices.” I texted her back and said, “I can solve your problem for you! Listen to your heart, it knows.”
As she begins to listen to her heart and finds fulfillment, her belief in her actions will return. She is now at the beginning of a marvelous journey!
Listen to Your Heart
Later that day I was with another young woman who had been with someone a long time. She wants to meet someone but she told me she is afraid because she is a bad picker. I told her the same thing I told my granddaughter: Listen to your heart, it knows.
How many of us have not listened to our hearts? I imagine all of you, and I, of course, include myself in that as well. Now, I listen and act. I must tell you that my little heart has served me well. It has never led me astray. And, it will not lead you astray either.
What are some of your tips to improve self-confidence? Please share them in the comments at the bottom of this page. We can all help each other!
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