I loved writing this post on how to feel sexy after 50. I hope you’ll love it too, darlings! And more importantly, that you’ll feel inspired.

Feel Sexy After 50

I asked my ultimate concierge what makes a woman sexy after 50…

He answered, “How she carries and presents herself.”

“Be more specific,” I replied.

He answered, “You. The whole package.”

I gave him a kiss and thanked him for adoring me. His description of what makes a woman sexy after 50, “the whole package,” is spot on.

FEELING SEXY AFTER 50 IS BELIEVING IN YOUR “WHOLE PACKAGE”

I am aware that many women after 50 feel invisible. They think they have lost their sex appeal. Negative attitudes about aging and sex can deeply impact how women feel about themselves, often leading to a diminished sense of confidence and desire. They notice the lack of stares as they walk down the street. Our culture has been the culprit. Bluntly put, older women haven’t been en vogue. Many women have felt this way, but changing attitudes and self-perception can help restore confidence and a sense of sex appeal.

Marketing has changed direction, my darlings. Have you noticed? Older women are now en vogue! Younger people realize we have something to say and so much to offer! Don’t forget to celebrate your achievements and self-worth—embracing these is essential for feeling confident at any age.

70 IS THE NEW 50, 60 IS THE NEW 40, AND SO ON…

We have been welcomed back into American society as “visible, vibrant, and sexy women over 50.” Embrace this welcome turn of events with your head held high and in perfect posture. Walk down the street with a smile on your face. And feel sexy and vibrant because you, my darlings, are worthy of attention! Mature women are redefining what it means to be sexy, showing that confidence and attitude matter more than age. Women over 50 are in!

For the thousands of you who are feeling invisible and sexless because of your age, now is the time to rejuvenate. Not only your appearance but your attitude. Adopting a sexy mindset is key to feeling vibrant and visible, just as thousands of other women over 50 have done.

I have a few personal thoughts on how to be a visible, vibrant, sexy woman after 50. As my Ultimate Concierge wisely said, “It’s the whole package.”

If you feel you have lost your visibility and sex appeal, is it because you are unable to embrace your age? Or because you need a life change? It doesn’t matter what age you are—confidence and attitude are what truly count.

MAKE A PLAN

If you are one of the thousands who feel they have lost their vibrancy and sex appeal, you know that you, and you alone. More importantly, you are in control of making that important shift in your life. You have choices.

It’s time to take note of your options and make a plan (here are my tips to build your self-confidence). Consider pursuing interests or activities that excite you, as engaging in your passions can enhance your social connections and overall well-being. It’s time to feel your sex appeal. A woman who feels sexy is sexy.

You are the “in” generation now! Grey hair is in, maturity is in style, older women are featured in magazines and big-brand ads. There are a million products, gyms, nutritionists, dermatologists, and stylists in every city. Your excuses have vanished.

Do you think you look great and are in good shape, yet feel you have lost your sex appeal, visibility, and vitality? Then it’s time to look within yourself and figure out the cause. Might it be that you need a purpose? Try being interested in exploring new passions or hobbies, as this can boost your confidence and sex appeal. The ball is in your court. Make that plan.

Read this post on body confidence, it has the best tips!

IT’S ATTITUDE, DARLINGS!

I have written about the importance of a woman’s inner beauty. I will always believe that 80% of your beauty and sex appeal comes from within. The remaining 20% is your “look.”

A woman’s attitude — her moxie — gives her confidence. Her femininity and grace and loving manner are great attributes. Her smile and warmth attract others of all ages.

Enthusiasm, curiosity, and purpose radiate attractiveness and, yes, sexiness. Combining that inner being with her outer look makes her one hell of a visible, vibrant, and sexy woman with verve! That will make you sexy after 50.

I am smiling!

Sure, we all have those days when we feel overwhelmed and we need a “little lift.” Sometimes, you have to pretend to feel confident and sexy, even if you don’t at first—acting as if can help you embody that feeling until it becomes real. It’s also normal to feel sad or down at times, especially with all the changes that come with age, but self-care and support can help you through it. I suggest a boost from the outside. Shop for a new red lipstick or make an appointment for a massage. Change your hairstyle, wear lingerie even if no one will see it. When I am feeling out of sorts, a phone call to a best girlfriend always lifts my spirits—a supportive friend can make a big difference. Friends and social connections are so important for boosting self-esteem and overall well-being.

You don’t have to worry that it’s only traditionally “beautiful” women who have a ticket to visibility and sex appeal. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Put that smile on your face and care about others. That is how to be — and remain — a sexy woman over 50. And remember, self-care practices are not just about looking good—they are essential for your mental health, helping to reduce stress and improve your mood.

THE SECRET INGREDIENT: SEXUAL DESIRE AND INTIMACY AFTER 50

As we reach a certain age, many women notice a shift in their sexual desire and the way they experience intimacy. But let me assure you, feeling sexy and confident doesn’t have an age limit. In fact, for countless women over 50, this chapter of life brings a newfound comfort in their own skin and a deeper appreciation for their sexuality. The secret ingredient? Embracing self-care, nurturing your self-esteem, and adopting a positive attitude toward aging and your body.

Feeling sexy is so much more than what you see in the mirror. It’s about your inner radiance, your confidence, and the way you carry yourself. Sexy women over 50 know that sex appeal comes from within. Prioritizing your physical health, practicing self-care, and making time for activities that make you feel good—whether it’s yoga, dancing to your favorite music, or simply getting enough sleep—can do wonders for your mood and your sex drive. Lowering stress and focusing on your own needs is not selfish; it’s essential for feeling sexier and more alive.

Sexual desire is a beautiful, complex part of life, and yes, it can change with menopause and shifting hormones. But that doesn’t mean your sex life is over—far from it! Open communication with your partner, exploring new ways to connect, and even trying something playful like new lingerie or sex toys can reignite your passion and help you feel more connected and confident. Remember, intimacy is about more than just sex; it’s about closeness, laughter, and sharing your authentic self.

Look at incredibly sexy women like Helen Mirren and Jane Fonda. They radiate confidence, style, and a sense of freedom that comes from embracing their age and their unique beauty. They remind us that feeling sexy is about attitude, not age or body shape. Wear clothes that make you feel good, experiment with your style, and don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone. Whether you’re dressing up for a date night or simply for yourself, the key is to focus on what makes you feel confident and beautiful.

If you want to feel sexier and more fulfilled, start by listening to your own desires. Take care of your body and your mind, nurture your self-esteem, and don’t be afraid to try new things. Whether it’s a new hobby, a new look, or a new approach to intimacy, every step you take is a celebration of your sexuality and your life.

Ultimately, there’s no single formula for sexiness. It’s about embracing your own journey, your own body, and your own desires. By focusing on self-care, self-confidence, and a positive mindset, women over 50 can unlock the secret ingredient to sexual desire and intimacy—and feel absolutely sexy, vibrant, and fulfilled at any age.

BE SEXY AFTER 50 – FOLLOW AND MAINTAIN A FORMULA

Older women who are determined to maintain their visibility and sexuality do this. The key is to define, follow, and stick to a formula that works for you. And, if you do, a little voice inside will say, “I like the woman I have become.”

That is the ultimate in sex appeal, darlings. That is confidence. Confidence is the key to feeling sexy after 50!

So I ask you to find your formula. No one formula fits all. But you know what you have to do. Hopefully, you will.

It may be a life-altering change. Or it may be an attitude change. It may be time to put yourself first and take care of yourself. Or it may be all three.

ASK YOURSELF IF YOU’D LIKE TO BE 40 AGAIN

I think if you ask yourself that question you may learn more about yourself.

Would I rather be in my 40s again? In all honesty, I would like to go back in time, but not for the reasons you think. My experiences have been both marvelous and devastating. They have molded my inner being and made me a loving, confident, content, and proud older woman… with grey hair!

Why would I like to go back in time?

I would like to relive every day beginning with the first day I met my ultimate concierge. I wish I could repeat every minute of every day with him. He fills me up in every way and, darlings, he tells and shows me I’m sexy!

What makes you feel sexy after 50? Let me know if the comments at the bottom of this page! 

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