It is a foggy Saturday morning. I am sitting at my desktop whose name is, 21. My laptop is 13 and my travel computer’s name is 12. I refer to them by their size to tech teachers. “I am having problems with 21,” I say in desperation. “She is not syncing with 13! I don’t know what to do! I am having a meltdown.” I have come to the conclusion that computers, just like human beings, have problems with relationships and life situations when they don’t sync! What can be done?
For me, the situation in Elsewhere is unprecedentedly scary, anxiety-provoking, and uncertain. I believe you all feel the same.
In Sync with Reality
My thoughts have been negative because of my reality. My feelings of anxiety and unease have become more and more layered as I am forced to feel entirely ‘new’ fears. Connections with loved ones have been taken away from me. Masks have been forced on me. Eating outside in the cold Chicago weather is new to me. Holiday gatherings are forbidden to me. My hands are raw from constantly washing and sterilizing them.
The new negative words in every citizen’s vocabulary is fear and anger instead of love and joy. I see my rights taken from me. Normalcy and safety have been upended. The realization that many citizens in Elsewhere are unaware of what is taking place, slowly but surely, in the world, drives me mad. I see COVID-19 as the perfect storm for governments around the world to take control of our lives. Naive people laugh. I am not laughing. And, I am afraid one day for our children and grandchildren it will be fight or flight.
How to Sync Your Life With Elsewhere
Unpacking my 83 boxes after moving from Shangrila has been cathartic. Alone with my treasured possessions, I had time to get in touch with my feelings. This is very important, darling, because your thoughts will emerge instead of remaining pent up inside.
It took me six weeks to figure out my silver lining during this time of chaos. I asked myself, “What do I have 100% control over?” Over six weeks I lived into my answer. Myself! I cannot control what is going on in Elsewhere but I have 100% control over my personal actions. I will nurture myself to remain physically strong. And, I will delete everything I am uncomfortable with that is within my power; New stations I oppose; People who disappoint; Projects that stress me to the nines; I will add to my lifestyle habits that will make me strong; People who are loving and bright; Projects that ‘light my fire.’
Suddenly, with thoughts of a silver lining, I am able to see the forest from the trees. And, I am able to feel the positivity I had lost for a short time. Darling, I believe in me. And, I believe in the positive actions I am taking.
Learning New Skills, etc…
I began taking Yoga. And, I am learning the importance of breathing, I am learning how to become aware of how I sit and stand and walk, and now I can catch myself when I am in a bad position. Yoga started on a downswing; which I admitted to my teacher because I know it is important to be authentic and not fear expressing my feelings. Darling, I wanted to quit at times and I told her. I believe my authenticity created an honest conversation that created a desire to hang in there. Consider yoga; it is a wonderful practice.
Socialize. Conversing is important to me. I am a conversation junky. And, I have missed the jibber jabber of talking to many people. You and I have had a social void for nine months. Yesterday I heard a man talking about his chili recipe. I never saw him in my life. So, I told him I loved chili; and guess what? We exchanged emails and when I opened 21, there were two chili recipes from Mark! Converse with people when you are out, darling. We are social animals.
Look forward. Last night we sat outside for dinner with friends. My girlfriend, who is normally full of life and now full of sadness suddenly blurted out, “I bet we have a roaring 20s when this Pandemic ends.” I felt so alive listening to her words. “OMG, I think you are right.” So, darling, look ahead with positivity that there will be a surge of happiness when things return to normal and everything we took for granted will now be filled with baskets of gratitude.
You Can Get Through This
Nurture the you in you, daily; in some ways or in many ways. Do what is good for your soul. Be kind to yourself. Be introspective of your needs. Take pride in what you do. You can feel emotionally happy within your core if you are authentic to your needs and desires.
I am going to make Chili after I walk America. I will share my new friend Mark’s recipe next week. Bye for now.
What do you do to stay in sync in Elsewhere? I would love to hear your thoughts. Please write to me in the comments at the bottom of this page!
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