Many have asked me how I’ve become such an authentic version of myself! So here’s how you can start working toward your authentic self, darling.
When you walk up to a woman at a meeting or meet her at a party or walking down the street, you are unconsciously registering information about her because of the way she is dressed and the manner in which she carries herself. In other words, you are already forming opinions about her.
I am visualizing first-time meetings I have had with strangers that ultimately became friends. When I see a woman coming toward me she is announcing important information or misinformation about herself without saying a word…her age, her style, her personality – cool or warm. And, she was assessing me as well. By the time we stop and chat, each of us has formed an idea about the other.
If you read my words carefully you will note I mentioned the word ‘misinformation.’ You see darling, not every woman is able to announce who she really is because she has not laid claim on her true authentic self…yet.
Are You Being Authentic?
I can say this with clarity because I have met so many women and have been fooled by some, though not intentionally. So sit back and ask yourself if you are the real you or if “another woman” is portraying the authentic you. This can be a very positive discovery because you can begin to rid yourself of that “other woman” and love yourself for who you are. You may be a quiet woman and have personal moxie or you may be that woman who presents herself with a, “Hello world, here I am.” Feeling this authenticity within is an emotional cleansing and a very powerful moment.
So darling, listen to subtle signals the woman within is sending you and you will begin to reflect your own best image… your authenticity.
Now for the fun part. Go into your closet and clear out the fashion clutter that is not authentic to your style.
This is my advice: Ask yourself, “What is my authentic signature?” I will give you a hint by expressing mine.
My Authentic Self
My authentic self, my outer signature style, is simplicity with a flair. My outer appearance makes this statement without one word coming out of my mouth. I live by a strong set of standards that are set in stone (simplicity), and I sprinkle them with my personal adoration of life, family, people, curiosity, intention, style, culture, and on and on. My accessories, say to another woman, “She knows who she is and she has an attitude! She owns her personal flair!”
Now pinpoint who you are. Once you have, you have succeeded. And please take your time. You will be able to move into a mindset to clear away clutter while identifying the colors and styles you cannot live without that represent your authentic self. Suddenly you will see clarity in your closet. It will begin to resemble your authentic essence! In other words, you are about to reassess and revise part of your style.
Part with Mistakes
Now it is time to part with fashion mistakes (we all make them) that are taking up space. I know this is daunting and hard psychological work but once you start and finally accomplish this difficult feat, I promise you that there are few things as satisfying as bringing order into a chaotic closet. Oh, and I almost forgot my dresser drawers!
Redoing a closet and drawers takes planning. Before I begin this task I have at my disposal extra-large plastic garbage bags and Alexa playing soft Hawaiian music. I begin to tackle my closet and drawers by discarding clothes and I lay them on our bed. I begin to make three piles of giveaways. One for my family (my daughters, granddaughter, and daughter-in-law), one for The Real Real (shoes), and I donate to strangers I will never meet but I know I will make them happy!
Edit, Edit, Edit!
Now begins the hard part. I try on clothes and decide what goes. First I edit out sweaters, purses, scarves, hats, and shoes with one thought in my mind: “Does this make me feel fabulous? Does this outfit represent who I am? Is this blouse trendy? Is this outfit self-defining?”
Be willing to experiment with what works. How about a t-shirt with a dressy designer jacket. Oh! If you are in love with an outfit that is too small only go up one size. Most fashion is a show-off for the season, style is forever.
I have one strong message for you, darling. Style is a philosophy…your philosophy. Possess it! Own it! It represents a big portion of your inner power. It is your true authenticity.
Will you try to find your authentic self this spring? Let’s discuss this in the comments at the bottom of this page. I want to hear from you!
If you enjoyed this article, please subscribe. You will get each daily story delivered straight to your inbox.