A Woman’s Style Is Her Biography
A woman’s inner and outer style is her biography, her profile. A woman with style first and foremost has an intangible inner style, such as loyalty, warmth, curiosity, positivity, and other important values and standards. These intangible qualities exhibit bright colors around her, creating her outer style. This is luminance, an aura, a field of energy, of bright light.
This type of woman has the capacity to radiate her inner style into all walks of her life. She executes style in a grand way because those around her feel she owns her distinctive traits, her personal quality of originality, and her intellectual and spiritual curiosity. It is her mode of behavior that gives her that outer style. A gorgeous dress can look drop dead on a hanger but means nothing until it is on the woman who gives it her unique inner and outer style; Her charm.
Love Yourself at Every Stage
In order to look your best darling, you have to feel your best. Your goal is to continue to love yourself at every stage of your life. Be grateful. If you are at a fork in the road, feeling blah about life, no matter your age, please work on your inner feelings. Without positive inner thoughts you will not have outward charm; that twinkle in your eye, that tall stance no matter your height and that big smile that makes those around you happy.
If you aren’t feeling your best it is time to commit to some life changes; perhaps a meditation class that will give you the serenity to think about where you are at this time in your life. Your goal is to push yourself forward, not to become stagnate.
How about considering a class in Art History or an exercise routine program for you. Leave your home to walk your pooch or go to the market with a touch of makeup and lipstick. Your goal… to feel uplifted.
When we were younger women it was natural to lack a degree of self-confidence. We were still building our self-esteem. We learned from our triumphs and we learned from our errors in many categories. Then, when we became intellectually astute, we learned to rely on our common sense and most of us grew spiritually.
As women age, their self-confidence and contentment seem to wane because they are feeling loss; retirement, a move from their neighborhood, children moving away, divorce or death of a parent or spouse, and… their looks. The loss of a feel-good attitude coupled with aging sets them on a downward spiral of loneliness and invisibility.
Many women continue to thrive and bloom because they tune into their inner beauty. They are beautiful because they are genuine, creative, and warm. They shine from within.
Reflecting On My Youth
I sit here reflecting on my youth. Growing up in Kankakee by the Sea was an eighteen-year lesson. To survive in a minority is difficult because you always feel a little set apart. I learned to have attitude, faith, tenacity and was blessed to have a nature that saw the glass half-full. Therefore, my disappointments never won over my will to move forward. I saw challenges as positive goals. My relative’s praise gave me self-confidence. That self-confidence gave me an attitude to live outside the box and try. My successes gave me self-esteem. I owe this to my family because I trusted their words. I was lucky. Our parents were our first teachers and I believe they play a big influence on how we see ourselves all of our lives.
Today as a grandmother I don’t think about the grey in my hair or my age because I don’t have time. I live for every new opportunity. I challenge and try and prepare. Whether it is playing in my closet with accessories to feel my Moxie when I walk out the door, or a new and challenging project, my rule of thumb is to not let the fear of the unknown stop me.
Being an Authentic Woman
I think it is very important to be an authentic woman; first and foremost be true to yourself. That is your internal power. If you are going through a hard time aging, acknowledge those feelings and over time you will figure out how to shift. I had a friend who moved away from Manhatten to a special retirement community and thrived. She belonged.
I have an assignment for you. Now, I would not ask any of you to do something that I had not done. And I have to be honest with you… this assignment was very, very hard for me. It took two days of thinking! Once I figured it out I wrote, WHY I AM FIERCE AFTER 50 in 10-minutes! The only clue I will give you… I was authentic to myself.
I will post what I wrote this Thursday on Ask Honey. This gives you two days to write your version. I would love for you to send your written thoughts to me on, Ask Honey. Then I will post them. You may remain anonymous if you wish. Your thoughts will be different than mine and that will help other women over 50 sit down and write their feelings on why they are fierce after 50.
Get quiet and listen to yourself as you thread your thoughts, good and bad through the life you have thus far woven. You will produce the story of the woman you are. Be authentic and true to yourself. This is inner style. Your style. You own it. Bloom!
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