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A Woman’s Style Is Her Biography

A Woman's Style Is Her Biography

A Woman’s Style Is Her Biography

A woman’s inner and outer style is her biography, her profile. A woman with style first and foremost has an intangible inner style, such as loyalty, warmth, curiosity, positivity, and other important values and standards. These intangible qualities exhibit bright colors around her, creating her outer style. This is luminance, an aura, a field of energy, of bright light.

This type of woman has the capacity to radiate her inner style into all walks of her life. She executes style in a grand way because those around her feel she owns her distinctive traits, her personal quality of originality, and her intellectual and spiritual curiosity. It is her mode of behavior that gives her that outer style. A gorgeous dress can look drop dead on a hanger but means nothing until it is on the woman who gives it her unique inner and outer style; Her charm.

Love Yourself at Every Stage

In order to look your best darling, you have to feel your best. Your goal is to continue to love yourself at every stage of your life. Be grateful. If you are at a fork in the road, feeling blah about life, no matter your age, please work on your inner feelings. Without positive inner thoughts you will not have outward charm; that twinkle in your eye, that tall stance no matter your height and that big smile that makes those around you happy.

If you aren’t feeling your best it is time to commit to some life changes; perhaps a meditation class that will give you the serenity to think about where you are at this time in your life. Your goal is to push yourself forward, not to become stagnate.

How about considering a class in Art History or an exercise routine program for you. Leave your home to walk your pooch or go to the market with a touch of makeup and lipstick. Your goal… to feel uplifted.

Build Self-Esteem

When we were younger women it was natural to lack a degree of self-confidence. We were still building our self-esteem. We learned from our triumphs and we learned from our errors in many categories. Then, when we became intellectually astute, we learned to rely on our common sense and most of us grew spiritually.

As women age, their self-confidence and contentment seem to wane because they are feeling loss; retirement, a move from their neighborhood, children moving away, divorce or death of a parent or spouse, and… their looks. The loss of a feel-good attitude coupled with aging sets them on a downward spiral of loneliness and invisibility.

Many women continue to thrive and bloom because they tune into their inner beauty. They are beautiful because they are genuine, creative, and warm. They shine from within.

Reflecting On My Youth

I sit here reflecting on my youth. Growing up in Kankakee by the Sea was an eighteen-year lesson. To survive in a minority is difficult because you always feel a little set apart. I learned to have attitude, faith, tenacity and was blessed to have a nature that saw the glass half-full. Therefore, my disappointments never won over my will to move forward. I saw challenges as positive goals. My relative’s praise gave me self-confidence. That self-confidence gave me an attitude to live outside the box and try. My successes gave me self-esteem. I owe this to my family because I trusted their words. I was lucky. Our parents were our first teachers and I believe they play a big influence on how we see ourselves all of our lives.

Today as a grandmother I don’t think about the grey in my hair or my age because I don’t have time. I live for every new opportunity. I challenge and try and prepare. Whether it is playing in my closet with accessories to feel my Moxie when I walk out the door, or a new and challenging project, my rule of thumb is to not let the fear of the unknown stop me.

 

Being an Authentic Woman

I think it is very important to be an authentic woman; first and foremost be true to yourself. That is your internal power. If you are going through a hard time aging, acknowledge those feelings and over time you will figure out how to shift. I had a friend who moved away from Manhatten to a special retirement community and thrived. She belonged.

I have an assignment for you. Now, I would not ask any of you to do something that I had not done. And I have to be honest with you… this assignment was very, very hard for me. It took two days of thinking! Once I figured it out I wrote, WHY I AM FIERCE AFTER 50 in 10-minutes! The only clue I will give you… I was authentic to myself.

I will post what I wrote this Thursday on Ask Honey. This gives you two days to write your version. I would love for you to send your written thoughts to me on, Ask Honey. Then I will post them. You may remain anonymous if you wish. Your thoughts will be different than mine and that will help other women over 50 sit down and write their feelings on why they are fierce after 50.

Get quiet and listen to yourself as you thread your thoughts, good and bad through the life you have thus far woven. You will produce the story of the woman you are. Be authentic and true to yourself. This is inner style. Your style. You own it. Bloom!

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July 7, 2020

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  1. regina doar says:

    Dear Honey, I would love to answer that but unfortunately I can not . Just enjoyed your blog and read it every day. Love what you are wearing, Just thinking of you makes me smile. xoxo regina I still feel one day we will meet in our beautiful Chicago

  2. Brenda Pinto says:

    Such uplifting words… thank you Honey!

  3. Linda Weprinsky says:

    Not totally there but I love what you wrote. Thank you so much for your articles. You give me strength!❤️

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      You give me strength because you appreciate me. I appreciate you!!! Thank you so much. Go girl go. Warmly, Honey

  4. Virginia says:

    That is a tough one, Honey…but there’s the key…if it’s a difficult question to answer, it surely then must be answered. Working on it now!

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Good girl! You will be happy!!! Nothing good happens by accident. We all have to work on what we want. The rewards are great. Warmly, Honey

  5. Diane says:

    Thank you…..

  6. Randi says:

    Where did you get that gorgeous skirt? It looks great with the animal print belt.
    Thanks,
    Randi
    Randimcallister@gmail.com

  7. Glenda Young says:

    Love this article, working on mine. Enjoyed meeting you today on my first zoom meeting.

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      I enjoyed meeting you, too! As I mentioned, Southern women are my ideal. One of my closest girlfriends is from Virginia. She taught me how to get the best hotel room, the importance of taking care of yourself and of course I admire her southern charm. I could go on and on. I am sure I will learn from you, too. Welcome to GRAND and Zoom (when you can make it.) Warmly, Honey

  8. Andy Burger says:

    Not many people wear them nowadays, but tell you what! If she is bringing a small clutch purse, she can fold the gloves neatly and bring them. If other women are wearing them or she really feels that they suit her, then she should put them on. If not, just keep them stashed away. Nobody will ever know!

  9. Pamela Smith says:

    I loved this article!

  10. I am glad life is exciting and rewarding for you. Thanks, honey

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Thank you for your kind words. Your style, inward and outward beauty is your biography, too. Warmly, Honey

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