Every Woman Has Attitude!
Attitude is a composite of a woman’s walk, her talk, her thought, her actions, her positivity, her negativity and everything else in-between. It is her make-up and after 50 she knows how important attitude is. She knows her choices are the foundation that makes up her attitude. She knows her attitude tells her world around her how she thinks and feels. Most importantly her attitude portrays her self-image. After 50 she has a range of possibilities to explore.
And, with a positive attitude, the sky is the limit. GRANDWOMEN gotta have a positive attitude!
Two women dream of building a new business. Naturally, they are both very apprehensive. That is where their similarities end. The woman with a positive attitude fights through the red tape, educates herself and never allows any upset to distract her from her goal. It is her positive attitude that creates a mindset that nourishers her to the finish line. The woman with the negative attitude never gets to first base.
A woman’s positive attitude also draws people to her. She radiates happiness, amicability, and contentment that transcends to those in her company.
Leading a Happy Life
A woman with a positive attitude can have limited resources and live a wonderful and enriching life. She knows her limits and makes wise and positive choices for her benefit. This woman has the right type of attitude and will lead a happy and healthy lifestyle.
She appreciates nature and feels joyful when she looks up to a sky filled with twinkling stars. A woman with a positive attitude loves the area she chose to live in, her tiny home with a little garden and a library nearby. She rescues a pooch to nestle in her arms while all the while being very mindful of her needs and limited resources. Her wise choices and positive attitude bring her far more joy than some women who have all the trappings. It is all about attitude.
What Do You Do?
Do you wake-up each morning looking forward to a positive day or do you wake-up each morning thinking of only your personal woes? Or, do you wake-up each morning with a purpose or do you wake-up each morning saying to yourself, poor me?
You are the mistress of your choices and you make choices every single day, every week, month and year of your life. As well, you control your happiness and contentment and you must not forget that as long as we live, stuff is going to happen and with the right attitude, you will survive.
Widowhood and Attitude
When I was widowed in my forties I had no control over my husband’s sudden death but I did have control over the way I handled healing faced with the most devastating event of my life. My manner of dealing with the shock of losing Michael was positive. I made all the right choices.
Looking back I still cannot comprehend where I got the wisdom to understand how to grieve. Every measure I took was so intuitive. I had no older family members nearby who experienced loss to lean on. We lived in Honolulu far away from those I loved.
I think I was an old soul with a young heart. I was then and I am now. No one would think I am, even those who I hold near and dear because I don’t project that image.
It was my old soul that knew my attitude and my choices would lead me and my daughters through the rainstorm we faced. I thought through my choices and acted with one goal in mind… ultimately peace and recovery for my girls and me.
Knowing What Was Right For Me
I moved from our home in the mountains in Honolulu to a small place near the sea. I filled my pied-à-terre with personal memories and orchids. As well, I walked four miles in the early hours of the morning and four more miles in the early hours of the evening with my pooch so I could think, rid my stress, keep myself healthy and grieve in the parks and along the sea.
I stayed alone for a year, except for my daughters, my pooch and my parents who visited us in Honolulu. But I knew I had to go through the four steps of mourning if I was to recover my loss. I did it my way, the right way.
Darlings, I survived because my conscious mind knew, and led me to make the right choices. And, I allowed my thoughts to direct me through this storm. My entire recovery period had to do with my attitude. Every move I made was positive from moving out of our home, to moving into my pied-à-terre, to walking, to staying alone for a year.
A Turning Point
On the final day of mourning, one year to the day, my daughters and I went to our synagogue to pray. We sat in the front row. I remember the Rabbi asked the congregation to rise and when my girls and I stood up for a final prayer for my husband, I was so overcome by my loss and the last year of my life, that suddenly out of nowhere, literally buckets of uncontrolled tears drenched my face. I could not stop the tears, I had no control. Instead, they took complete control over me and when they finally subsided, I felt each of my girls squeeze each of my hands and I felt a feeling of relief fall over my entire body.
It was not for some time that I recognized that my attitude and my choices were my two best friends. They led me through the rain and eventually to see the sunshine again.
Nothing is worse than loss. I told you my story so you can understand how a positive attitude (doing what was best for me) and my choices (to stay alone for a year) led me to recovery.
Attitude Is Your Magic Word
I think the word attitude is every woman’s magic word. You are the magician who determines if you are going to have a positive attitude. What does that mean?
I believe in the Law of Attraction. I believe if you have a positive ‘attitude’ and know the you in you, great happenings await you. Your attitude is your mark. You own it. It is more important than being a gifted adult, a gorgeous woman, a champion tennis player or having a skill unmatched by none.
There is an old saying, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” It is all about your positive attitude and the positive choices you make.
There Are Ways to Change a Negative Attitude
- Get out of the path of negative people. Change lanes and seek out positive friendships.
- Write down three positive thoughts first thing in the morning.
- Join a group. Women need women.
- Rescue a loving happy pooch, kitten or bird?
- Involve yourself in a purpose you can wrap your arms around. Possibly a little garden? Or possibly give your time to an organization that makes your heart sing.
You Are A GRANDWOMAN
If you are troubled by your attitude you are capable of change. A GRANDWOMEN accepts her challenge. She now has a purpose and she faces a challenge. But, if she knows herself, and she should after 50, she will make the right choices. And, little by little, she will see the light. You are a GRANDWOMAN.
For those of you who have positive attitudes, and know exactly what choices benefit you, tell your grands a story of how you survived an ordeal because of your positive attitude and the choices you made. You are a GRANDWOMAN.