Let’s talk about the one thing you must do after a breakup…
It’s over. You forgot how excruciating breakups are. The minute you open your eyes in the morning, the heaviness rushes back into your chest and it hurts so much that you can barely breathe. That is if you’re lucky enough to be able to sleep at all.
Almost everyone has this experience at least once. Life can be challenging and none of us gets through it without a few bruises. Unfortunately, heartache is part of the deal.
If you’re going through this right now, first of all, I’m sorry and I’m sending you love. I know how it is and I’ve been there.
Mourn The Loss
One of the best things you can do for yourself and your future is to take the time to mourn your loss.
A breakup is a real loss and it can be difficult to navigate in the world in which we live. We’re often encouraged to just get over it and go out and find someone new. There isn’t much space for grieving in our culture in general.
There are no rituals for breakups, such as wakes or funerals. We’re usually expected to navigate these very real losses all alone.
Have a Relationship Funeral
Having a relationship funeral can help. Set aside some time to cry, feel sad, and say all the things you wanted to say to the person who broke your heart. You can light a candle, burn some incense, and write a letter to your ex (I don’t recommend that you send it, this is just for you).
When you’ve written everything out, you can get up, shake it off, take a few deep breaths and write a letter to yourself from him. Say all the things you wish he would have said to you, such as; he really did love you, he’s sorry, he wishes you well.
Play some sad music, call a friend, let yourself lay face down on the floor and totally ruin your makeup. Have at it.
Write What You’re Thankful For & Your Lessons
When you’re done, you can pick yourself up and write out what you’re thankful for and what you learned, and say goodbye.
You can burn the things you wrote outside and release them to the four winds, then go back inside and get some Epsom salt and light a Himalayan salt lamp. Get into the shower and scrub yourself with the salt. Start with your neck and go down. Then run a hot bath and sit and soak. This can be very soothing.
There are no quick fixes for heartbreak, but these suggestions can help you process the loss. It sure beats burying the pain and having it come back later. Do yourself a favor and deal with it now. Your future self will thank you.
Please know that I’m pulling for you and that better days are coming soon.
Have you recently gone through a breakup or heartbreak? What are some of your suggestions for dealing with it? We’d love to know. Please write your thoughts in the comments at the bottom of this page.
Author bio: Renée Suzanne is a coach for smart, successful women who want to find love. She helps women go from heartbroken to happily married. She believes that true love is possible for anyone who’s willing to create the conditions in her life for it to flourish. She’s been featured in The Huffington Post, Glamour, and Tiny Buddha. When she’s not saving women’s love lives you may find her curled up on the couch with a glass of wine and a good book or out on a hike with her husband. Her two books, “Beloved – How to go from relationship challenged to relationship-ready” and “Ten things you can do to upgrade your love life” are available on Amazon. Want more love in your life? Check out her free audio course at reneesuzannecoaching.com.
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