I have written previously about the wonderful group of women who meet each month at my home to discuss relevant topics we confront during the second half of our lives. At one point during yesterday’s discussion, one of my friends mentioned being curious. Upon hearing the word, I felt a rush of joie de vivre because first, the word puts me on a high, and second, I want to share the importance of being a curious woman after 50 with all of you. A curious woman is eager to know and eager to learn; she is intrigued and inquisitive.
She becomes a woman of substance in her own mind and feels her relevancy and visibility.
With tongue in cheek, I want to mention the quote, “Curiosity killed the cat” because I am not referring to your curiosity of other people’s affairs. I am talking about inherent qualities some of us have that open positive and productive doors. We should not be passive women. We should also not be negative women. But rather, we should be curious women! Isn’t that a grand idea?
The Benefits of Being a Curious Woman After 50
Everyone who is lacking purpose and positivity should add a little ‘awe’ into their life. Being curious is awesome. It gives us joy, excitement, knowledge, anticipation and even the feeling of serenity. Can you sit back for a moment and consider something that piqued your curiosity recently? Can you remember the emotional feeling of awe? It is pure wonderment. For instance, you can’t put down a great book late at night because it has you curious or you are going to meet your newborn grandchild and you are tantalized with curiosity. You see, darlings, even those of you who do not think you have a curious side are still curious at times.
For those of you, and I know plenty of women, who have but a few spurts of curiosity, I think fear prevents you from being more curious explorers. I have friends that are stuck in their same old routines because they fear taking a risk. New challenges would never enter their minds; they are afraid of uncertainty. They can’t see the opportunity to grow through learning and discovery. And so many other women are set in their own opinions.
My friend who mentioned the word ‘curious’ at our group meeting yesterday is the oldest woman to climb up the steep trails to visit the Silver Back Gorillas in Rwanda. She could have been carried up in a hammock, as many older people are, but not this woman. And, my darlings, nothing stopped her. Not fear, not arthritis, not her husband who did not even want to go. Instead, she lived out her dream because she was curious.
I am fortunate to have a role model, a mother, who left her mark on me. Nothing escaped her curiosity. I observed her learning this and trying that and going here and there and laughing a lot. She questioned. She propelled herself forward, saying, “Let’s see what happens.” That’s curiosity.
My Advice To You
So this is my advice. Be bold. Take risks. Don’t be confined. I know many of you haven’t lived out your own dreams because you are scared or stuck in your opinions and a set way of life.
But NOW is Your Time…
The children have left. You may be retired. You have time for yourself again. Be grateful. Get familiar with your new needs and think outside the box. You have freedom. What are you going to do with your time? You are going to become a curious woman after 50.
- Curious Conversations. Ask questions of your friends and others. You will learn. Yesterday I asked my friend about her upcoming trip to Dubai. She told me she and her husband were going to a Spa in the desert. My ultimate concierge and I were in Dubai five years ago. We are going back in May. Because I had a conversation and was curious about her trip, look what I learned.
- Give Something New a Try. I started writing a journal in my sixties. Now I own a website, and I am a full-time writer. I understand the Internet and all social media platforms. All of this happened because I was not afraid to be curious and try to learn new skills.
- Don’t Be Afraid if You Stumble Into Something New. Open yourself up when you stumble, by chance, onto something. This has happened so many times in my life. I stumbled into forming my Focus Group. I invited a few women to a one-time meeting at my home because a young advertising man wanted to learn what women over 50 found interesting. After the meeting I was curious if women over 50 would like to meet monthly and discuss life issues. I thought about it for two weeks then said to myself, “Why not!” I made the appropriate phone calls and not one woman turned me down. We are now in our third year, and every woman has stayed with the group.
My Takeaway For You
Be curious, darlings. Don’t fear opening a new door, even if it leads to the unknown. You don’t want to look back with regret, and you don’t want to look forward to nothing. Ride your wave.