My tears have fallen every day for the past two years. A minute here and a moment there add up to a lot of tears. They happen without warning, a wave of sadness and grief, and then I sigh, wipe them away, and carry on. Grief is a journey that touches every life, often arriving when we least expect it and leaving us feeling vulnerable and unsure. Facing death or near-death situations can be a profound source of grief, but also a catalyst for personal growth and a deeper understanding of life. Despite the weight of my sorrow, I have never stopped searching for positive and sensible answers, often turning to God and seeking spiritual guidance for comfort and direction. Anger is also a natural part of this journey, and acknowledging it has been crucial to my healing process. Learning to overcome grief has been a journey that is filled with setbacks, realizations, and growth. After everything that has happened, I can finally say, I am on the right track! Let me share some of the lessons I’ve learned along the way.

This essay is a personal reflection on finding strength through grief, and the insights are presented to help others who may be facing similar struggles.

Grief is a journey that touches every life, often arriving when we least expect it and leaving us feeling vulnerable and unsure. Whether you are a young man facing the loss of a loved one, a daughter supporting her family, or an individual struggling to find your footing after a major change, grief is a natural response to loss. It’s important to recognize that this difficult time is not a sign of weakness, but a testament to the depth of our love and connection.

For families and individuals alike, grief can feel overwhelming, but it also presents an opportunity to develop inner strength and resilience. Each person’s struggle is unique, and there is no right or wrong way to cope. What matters most is allowing yourself to feel, to seek support, and to understand that healing is possible. By reaching out to friends, support groups, a helpful coach, or drawing on the guidance and love of a father—whether earthly or spiritual—you can find the strength to overcome the darkest moments. Remember, you are not alone—there are countless stories throughout history of individuals and families who have faced grief and emerged stronger. As you navigate this chapter of your life, give yourself grace, and know that support and hope are always within reach.

 

Understanding Personal Storms

Personal storms can be a catalyst for growth and self-reflection, allowing individuals to re-evaluate their priorities and find new meaning and purpose in life. By sharing their story and experiences with others, individuals can help others who may be going through similar challenges and find comfort in the knowledge that they are not alone. Just as a team faces challenges together on the field, supporting and uplifting each other, we too can weather personal storms more effectively when we unite and rely on collective strength. Facing personal storms can lead to different outcomes, such as increased strength, resilience, or sometimes vulnerability, depending on how individuals process and respond to adversity. The latest Sunday story of overcoming adversity can be a powerful reminder that anyone can find the strength to overcome their personal storms and emerge victorious. By holding onto hope and finding inspiration in the darkest moments, individuals can rise above their challenges and find peace, happiness, and fulfillment in their lives. Often, it is at a critical point during adversity that transformation or self-discovery occurs, marking a pivotal stage in personal growth.

Overcome Grief and Weather Life’s Storms

As many of you know, my challenges have been immense. My ultimate concierge has been battling dementia. At the same time, I have faced the heartbreak of estrangement from my loved ones. I never imagined I would take on the roles of caregiver and sole manager of our finances. Yet here I am, navigating these uncharted waters. Each person I have encountered has shown me the importance of human connections and support during these times of hardship. And after much trial and error, I am beginning to emerge victorious. I am truly grateful for the growth I have experienced and for the support I have received from others during these difficult times.

Now, as April arrives, I find myself wondering: How can I fill my cup with positivity? The earth is growing greener, the sun shines brighter, and as a devoted lover of Nature, I want to follow her lead. Each challenge I have faced has tested me and I haven’t run or tried to hide from my problems, but rather stood firm in the storm, determined to find solutions as part of the human experience. The journey was exhausting, and at times, I felt like I was drowning. I made mistakes (sometimes the same ones over and over) and I would berate myself for days. But I kept going. There were also times when all I could do was wait for clarity or strength to return, and those waiting periods became moments of reflection and personal growth.

The hardest lesson? Learning to do it all alone. For years, my husband and I shared responsibilities. Now, the weight rests entirely on my shoulders. I have become the decision-maker, the problem-solver, the caregiver, the financial manager, and the emotional backbone of our home. It has been daunting, overwhelming at times, and yes, there were days I questioned whether I could manage it all. But I have proven to myself that it is possible. With each challenge faced and every new skill learned, I’ve discovered a quiet resilience within me. I am still the loving wife and nurturing woman I’ve always been, but now, I carry a strength I never knew I had.

Breaking the Glass Ceiling

Women of my generation did not aspire to break the “glass ceiling.” It was an invisible barrier that prevented us from stepping into leadership roles or claiming our independence outside the traditional roles of wife, mother, and caregiver. We were taught to nurture, to support, and to quietly hold everything together behind the scenes. Over time, however, women have become leaders in their families and communities, guiding others through personal storms and inspiring those around them. Just as David was anointed king despite being the youngest and least expected, we too can rise to leadership and strength, even when the world overlooks us. Times have changed, and so have I. Over these past two years, through immense personal challenge, I have cracked my own glass ceiling, not with loud protest, but with perseverance, grace, and grit, accepting the reality of my human experience.

What have I learned? That I can still be loving and nurturing when the moment calls for it. When it doesn’t, I must think with my mind, not my heart. I must stand tall in my truth, set boundaries, and make decisions that protect my well-being. In the quiet moments, I find myself reflecting deeply, navigating through waves of emotions and poignant reflections.

“To thine own self be true.” -Shakespeare

Those words are no longer just a quote, but a compass that guides my every step. I am still the very feminine Susan “Honey” Good. I still wear lipstick, I still love a beautiful table setting, and I still lead with love. Now though, I carry something new within me, a quiet strength. A strength that feels like the wind blowing through my hair on a beautiful April day. A strength rooted in clarity and self-trust.

Darling, are you living authentically? Are you listening to your inner voice (the one that whispers when the world gets loud)? If you hesitate, if you feel a flicker of doubt, it’s time to pause and take stock of your life. Reclaim your power, define your happiness and start living on your terms with grace, with courage, and above all, with authenticity.

The Role of Caregiver

I have always known the truth of the saying, “Growing older is not for sissies.” We all know that illness will eventually touch someone we love, but nothing can prepare us for the moment it arrives.

Last week, I texted a friend: “I am my husband’s caregiver, but I am also his forever soulmate.” His response struck me:

“Even though you have hired a caregiver and Shelly is your soulmate, YOU are his caregiver!”

Of course, I knew that, but hearing it reaffirmed what I already felt. Being a caregiver is all-consuming. I manage my husband’s medication, therapy, meals, and, when needed, consult with Dr. Smith to coordinate his doctor’s appointments and ensure he receives professional medical guidance. I ensure he drinks enough water, monitor his weight and blood pressure, and make medical decisions. Every detail falls to me. It is crucial to talk about our experiences and share memories to keep the connection strong and provide emotional support.

Embracing the Journey of Healing

Healing from grief is not a destination, but a journey—one that unfolds day by day, sometimes moment by moment. It requires us to tap into our inner strength, to acknowledge our struggles, and to accept that recovery is a process filled with ups and downs. Along the way, it’s essential to develop self-awareness and to recognize that it’s perfectly normal to feel vulnerable or uncertain.

One of the most powerful sources of inspiration can be found in the stories of others who have walked a similar path. Their experiences remind us that we are not alone, and that overcoming grief is possible. By sharing our own stories and listening to those of others, we build a network of support and understanding that can help us through even the most challenging times.

As we embrace our shortcomings and learn from our mistakes, we begin to develop new skills and passions that bring meaning to our lives. This journey of healing is also an opportunity for personal growth and development, allowing us to discover strengths we never knew we had. With each step forward, we gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world, and we move closer to a place of hope, recovery, and renewed purpose.

A Personal Story: A Young Man’s Journey Through Grief

Recently, I heard the story of a young man whose journey through grief touched my heart and reminded me of the incredible inner strength we all possess, even in the most difficult times. Life had thrown him into a storm of loss and uncertainty, and for a while, he felt adrift—overwhelmed by feelings he could barely put into words. Yet, in the midst of his struggle, he found comfort in the pages of a good book, its words offering inspiration and helpful guidance on how to cope with the pain he was experiencing.

This young man’s story is one of resilience. With the unwavering support of his family and friends, he began to recognize the power within himself to overcome his struggles. He learned to speak openly about his feelings, allowing himself to be heard and understood. Through honest conversations and the gentle encouragement of those around him, he discovered that seeking help was not a sign of weakness, but a courageous step toward healing.

As he navigated this difficult time, he realized that hope could be found even in the smallest moments—a kind word from a friend, a note of encouragement, or the simple act of being present with his emotions. His journey was not easy, but it was transformative. By sharing his story, he hopes to inspire others to reach out, to recognize their own strength, and to know that they are never alone in their struggles.

His experience is a powerful reminder that, no matter how dark life may seem, there is always a path forward. With the right support, a willingness to learn, and the courage to speak our truth, we can overcome even the most daunting challenges. Let his story be a beacon of hope for anyone who is struggling—proof that healing, growth, and inner peace are possible for us all.

Self Care

Self-care is essential for navigating personal storms and finding strength in difficult times, as it allows individuals to prioritize their own needs and well-being. Engaging in self-care activities, such as exercise, meditation, or spending time in nature, can help reduce stress and anxiety and promote emotional healing. By taking care of their physical and emotional needs, individuals can better cope with the challenges of personal storms and find the resilience to overcome them. Although our abilities may feel limited during difficult times, self-care helps us tap into greater reserves of strength and move beyond those limitations.

Self-care can also involve seeking support from others, such as friends, family members, or support groups, and being open to receiving help and guidance. Prioritizing self-care can help individuals find a sense of control and agency in their lives, even in the midst of personal storms, and can promote a sense of hope and optimism for the future. By making self-care a priority, individuals can reduce their risk of burnout and compassion fatigue and maintain their overall well-being.

Self-care can also involve setting healthy boundaries and learning to say “no” to things that drain one’s energy and say “yes” to things that nourish and uplift. By practicing self-care, individuals can develop a greater sense of self-awareness and self-compassion, which can help them navigate personal storms with greater ease and resilience. Self-care can also involve seeking out new experiences and challenges that promote personal growth and development, such as learning a new skill or hobby. By prioritizing self-care, individuals can find the strength and resilience to overcome personal storms and emerge stronger, wiser, and more compassionate.

Take Control and Overcome Grief

Learning to advocate for him was not easy. I had to push doctors for appointments and answers, learn when to call for in-depth discussions (late afternoons are best, I’ve discovered) and overcome my fear of asking the same question repeatedly until I understood. But in the process, I earned the respect of his doctors by accepting the reality of our situation and embracing the full spectrum of our emotional experiences. I am glad to have recognized my own vulnerabilities, as it allowed me to rely on greater strength and find spiritual growth.

I have finally taken control of the household and financial responsibilities that once belonged to my husband. It has been a steep learning curve, but I am doing it. In these challenging times, I find spiritual rest and renewal in my faith, which gives me the strength to carry on. Turning to scriptures has provided comfort and guidance during my most difficult moments. In my next Sunday Story, I will share what I have learned. HINT: I broke through the glass ceiling!

Also, I learned difficult financial lessons. I no longer pay caregivers in cash because it’s dishonest, and without a signed 1099 tax form, I cannot claim my husband’s medical expenses.

Before hiring anyone, I make my expectations clear. They must sign a 1099, provide personal references, use public transportation (I no longer cover parking fees– thank you, CPA, for that wisdom!) and most importantly: My husband is their primary responsibility, not their phone!

Darling, over the past year, I have learned to speak up, set boundaries, and care for myself. As I break my glass ceiling, the wind rushes through, reminding me, once again, to be true to myself.

Overcome Grief of Estrangement

The deepest wound, the one that never fully heals, is estrangement. My daughters have buried me while I am still alive. I have missed cheering on my grandchildren, and they have missed knowing their grandmother—together, we are missing important moments and connections that can never be replaced, a sense of loss that lingers deeply. For years, I was paralyzed by grief and anger. There are no words to describe the pain. Unexpected events can happen, dramatically altering one’s emotional landscape.

One day, a wise woman told me, “You will find love elsewhere.”

At the time, I didn’t understand. But slowly, a light flickered. I realized that what I missed was not just my family, but the feeling of love. Another woman advised me to “Surrender to their toxicity.” At first, I saw surrender as weakness, but then I understood: Surrendering did not mean giving up! It meant choosing to replace a poisoned stream with fresh, flowing water.

These realizations have helped me heal, though I know I will never fully recover.

I am not alone in this grief. In my private Facebook group for estranged mothers and grandmothers (this community has grown to 21,000 women without a single advertisement) the numbers continue to rise. Every day, more women join, each carrying the same invisible wound. Estrangement is an epidemic of silent suffering, a heartbreak that society rarely acknowledges. There are no sympathy cards for the mother whose child has turned away, no casseroles delivered to the grandmother mourning the loss of a grandchild’s laughter. Instead, we grieve in isolation, left to navigate the unspoken pain of being cut off from those we once held closest.

In our shared sorrow, we have found something precious– each other. Within this community, we lift one another up, offering understanding where the world offers none. We remind each other that while the loss is deep, so too is our capacity to heal, to find love elsewhere, and to reclaim our joy.

Learning to Let Go

Letting go is one of the most challenging—and liberating—parts of the healing process. It means recognizing the feelings and emotions that have held us back, and making a conscious decision to release them. This doesn’t mean forgetting the past or pretending our struggles never happened; rather, it’s about developing the awareness and control to move forward without being weighed down by old wounds.

As we learn to let go, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and experiences. We create space in our lives for joy, connection, and growth. Letting go allows us to see the world with fresh eyes, to bring gratitude into our daily lives, and to appreciate the people and moments that truly matter. It’s a process that takes time and patience, but with each step, we develop a greater sense of control and awareness, and we begin to rebuild our lives with hope and intention.

Creating a Support Network

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned on this journey is the value of creating a strong support network. Life’s struggles can feel insurmountable when faced alone, but with the encouragement and guidance of family, friends, and trusted individuals, we can develop the inner strength needed to overcome even the toughest challenges.

A support network is more than just a group of people—it’s a lifeline during difficult times. Whether it’s a friend who listens without judgment, a family member who offers practical help, or a mentor who shares wisdom and advice, these connections provide a sense of belonging and security. They remind us that our feelings are valid, that we are heard, and that we don’t have to carry our burdens alone.

Building a support network also helps us develop essential skills, such as communication, empathy, and problem-solving. These skills not only strengthen our relationships but also empower us to face life’s obstacles with greater confidence and resilience. By sharing our struggles and learning from others, we foster personal growth and create a foundation for healing and transformation.

Investing in a support network is an act of self-care and self-love. It allows us to feel more connected, less isolated, and more capable of navigating whatever life brings our way. When we surround ourselves with positive, supportive people, we gain access to valuable resources and a sense of community that can make all the difference during difficult times.

Remember, developing a support network is not just about receiving help—it’s also about giving back, offering our own strength and understanding to others. In doing so, we create a circle of support that uplifts everyone involved. By prioritizing these connections, we take a powerful step toward living a life that is true to who we are, filled with purpose, meaning, and the strength to overcome any storm.

Finding Purpose and Meaning

In the aftermath of loss, it’s natural to question the meaning of life and our place in the world. Yet, it is often through our greatest struggles that we discover our deepest passions and sense of purpose. Finding meaning is a deeply personal journey—one that involves recognizing what inspires us, what brings us hope, and how we can use our unique skills and experiences to serve others.

As we reflect on our values and interests, we may find new opportunities for growth and development. Whether it’s through a new career, volunteering, or simply being a supportive friend, each of us has the power to make a positive impact. The process of learning and embracing new passions can bring a renewed sense of motivation and fulfillment, even in the face of adversity.

Remember, your purpose may evolve over time, and that’s perfectly natural. Stay open to new experiences, keep learning, and allow yourself to be inspired by the world around you. In doing so, you’ll find that hope and meaning can flourish, even after the darkest storms.

Hope: The Light That Guides Me in the Storm

Some mornings, I stand by my window on the 71st floor, gazing out at Lake Michigan and it reminds me of the Pacific. The vastness, the movement, the endless horizon– it all mirrors the waves of my emotions and I wonder: How will I keep surviving so many storms at once? How will I overcome grief and rise above the responsibilities and the loneliness? The reality is that experiencing both joy and sorrow is part of being human. The answer is always the same. Finding spiritual rest and renewal in faith provides the peace and strength needed to navigate these challenges. Trusting in the Lord brings guidance and strength during life’s storms.

Hope.

There are days when grief suffocates me, wrapping itself around my heart like an iron grip. To overcome grief feels impossible in those moments because the reality is that grief is the hardest emotion to bear. Grief only touches those who love deeply and love is the strongest force of all. Even in my darkest moments, I remind myself:

“I hold tight to hope because hope propels me forward. Hope lifts me from despair. Hope is my guiding light.” In moments of silence, I listen to hear the gentle encouragement of hope guiding me onward.

Amen, Amen.

Grief and personal storms are an inevitable part of life, but they do not define us. Through each struggle, we have the opportunity to develop inner strength, deepen our understanding, and discover new sources of inspiration and hope. By recognizing our feelings, seeking support, and embracing the journey of healing, we can overcome even the most difficult times.

Letting go of what no longer serves us and finding purpose in our experiences allows us to move forward with gratitude and resilience. Remember, you are not alone on this journey—there is strength in vulnerability, and there is power in sharing your story. As you continue to navigate life’s storms, may you find comfort in knowing that you are absolutely capable of overcoming grief and finding joy once again. Stay true to yourself, embrace each new day, and let hope be your guiding light.