I would love you to do a little homework. It’s good for your soul. Jot down, in a short paragraph, how you keep the romance alive and its effect on your emotional wellbeing.

Well…what did you come up with?

How To Keep Romance Alive: My Personal Approach

I am a romantic woman in every sense of the word. The following is me…

A romantic woman is a woman who appreciates keeping the romance alive. Feeling romantic is a large part of her lifestyle. She allows herself to feel the rush, in all forms, of profound romantic elation. Appreciation is essential in experiencing romance, as it deepens emotional bonds and fosters mutual respect in relationships.

What is profound romantic elation? First and foremost, it is in her capacity to realize the importance of having a romance with life; ranging from the intimacy of her love affair with her husband to motherly love and to the love she feels for her grands. It is also her passion for an art piece or symphony. Appreciation and happiness are essential in all relationships, not just romantic ones, as they help maintain emotional satisfaction and well-being. It may be in the intense joy of smelling the fragrance of her new perfume or witnessing a stunning morning sunrise. Or maybe it’s experiencing the sound of a chirping bird or the wet kiss of her pooch. Romance can be found in the connection from a kind-hearted friend or the allure of a trip to an exotic place.

She keeps the romance alive by being an observer and listener to all sounds and all things. Romance is a feeling so positive, it lifts her up to new heights. It is her ability to love and take in all that life has to offer and she blooms because of it. Her attitude is all about keeping romance in her life, alive. Nurturing relationships and expressing appreciation leads to lasting happiness and a vibrant connection with others.

How I Keep Romance Alive With My Ultimate Concierge

My love affair with my husband, my Ultimate Concierge, is constant. There is no one I love more than my husband. He has, as I often write, earned my devotion. He is always all around me.

Keeping romance alive over the years is ever-evolving because the passing of time changes a couple’s lifestyle. Long term relationships require ongoing effort and intentionality to maintain connection and intimacy as life evolves. I hate to see this happen, but this is life.

I wish I could go back to the first minute I laid eyes on my husband and relive every second. As I write this, I feel a sadness come over me as I think back to what was and wish it was…what is. It reminds me of the importance of talking about the future and having talked about our dreams and plans together, which helps keep our bond strong.

Walking down the street hand-in-hand is a perfect romantic dalliance. The truth is, dating and hoping to keep the spark alive takes real effort as the relationship matures. When I think about time, and the time we have spent together, it changes the dynamics of how to keep a romance alive but it does not change the feeling of deep love, deep respect, and deep friendship.

We Think Alike; Therefore We Are In Sync

Being in sync keeps the romance alive because we enjoy the same type of lifestyle; our attitudes toward life are the same. As partners, communicating openly and, importantly, listening to each other is what keeps us aligned. Therefore we are in accord on 99% of issues.

We are the same religion, we have the same core values, we enjoy the same type of friends and love adventure and, thank goodness, our politics are the same. I am smiling.

As the saying goes, we are a ‘match made in heaven.’ Our biggest differences: I like to spend money like all women do. He likes to save money like all men do. It is a good balance. I am the cockeyed optimist and he is a careful optimist and that is good, too.

We Are Physically & Emotionally Attracted to One Another

This keeps our romance alive. He tells me I look pretty. I tell him “I am so attracted to you, I can’t stand it!” We always hold hands and every day we tell each other, “I love you.” Showing love through these small actions helps us maintain a strong connection. This keeps the spark alive, naturally.

Sensitive to Each Other’s Feelings, We Are One

My Ultimate Concierge and I share our most intimate feelings and rise to the occasion to help one another. Taking time to understand what is on the other’s mind deepens our emotional connection and brings us closer. I melt over this quality in a man. This is key in keeping our romance alive.

Understanding Our Love Languages

One of the most beautiful discoveries in my long-term relationship has been the power of understanding our love languages. Research shows that each person has a unique way they feel most loved—whether it’s through words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, or gift giving. Early on, I realized that my husband and I express and receive love in different ways, and learning to speak each other’s love language has truly kept the spark alive in our relationship.

For me, quality time is everything. I feel most appreciated when we spend time together, whether it’s a quiet evening at home or a spontaneous surprise date. My husband, on the other hand, lights up with physical touch—a gentle squeeze of the hand, a warm hug, or a kiss on the cheek. By understanding and honoring these differences, we create a stronger bond and keep the romance alive, even as the years go by.

Sometimes, I’ll leave a little note with loving words for him to find, or plan a small gift giving moment just to see his smile. Other times, he’ll surprise me with a date or simply hold my hand as we walk, reminding me why I fell in love with him in the first place. It’s these small gestures, tailored to each other’s love languages, that make us both feel loved and appreciated. In a long-term relationship, taking the time to understand and speak your partner’s love language is one of the most meaningful ways to keep the romance alive and create a relationship that feels as fresh and exciting as it did on your very first date.

We Spend Time Together

This is very important in keeping the romance alive. We enjoy dining alone, watching Netflix and Amazon Prime, while we munch on popcorn. Setting aside time each week for spending quality time together helps us enjoy each other’s company and strengthen our bond. Furthermore, we travel together and share everything. Enjoying alone time is the ultimate compliment a spouse can give to their spouse. Taking time to rest and recharge together is also essential for a healthy relationship.

The Importance of Date Nights

If there’s one ritual that has kept the spark alive in my marriage, it’s our commitment to regular date nights. Life can get so busy—between work, family, and the endless to-do lists, it’s easy for couples to drift into routine. But carving out time for a dinner date, a weekend getaway, or even a simple walk together has been essential in keeping our romance alive.

Date nights don’t have to be extravagant. Some of our most cherished moments have been spent cooking a new recipe together, laughing over a movie, or taking a stroll hand-in-hand under the city lights. The key is to spend quality time together, away from the distractions of daily life, and to focus on each other’s company. These moments allow us to communicate, share affection, and create new memories—reminding us of the fun and excitement that brought us together in the first place.

We love to mix things up, too. Sometimes it’s a surprise date to a new restaurant, other times it’s a planned weekend getaway to recharge and reconnect. No matter what we do, making time for each other keeps our physical affection alive and our relationship strong. It’s in these moments that we break free from routine, try new things, and rediscover the joy of being together. Prioritizing date nights has helped us build a happy relationship that continues to grow, no matter what life throws our way. If you want to keep the romance alive for the long haul, never underestimate the power of a simple date night to reignite those sparks and deepen your understanding of one another.

We Add Excitement to Our Life

My Ultimate Concierge and I don’t allow our marriage to become stagnant. We remain interested in the hunt of life. This keeps the romance alive. We each bring ‘the new’ to the table. By breaking out of our routines and trying new activities, such as taking a cooking class together, we create excitement and enrich our lives.

We Accept the Challenge of Aging

As couples age, vulnerabilities begin to appear. This is very difficult to accept. Challenges like work, obligations, and children can make it difficult to maintain romance and intimacy.

A husband retires, he enters a new passage of life. One spouse no longer has the same physical prowess. Another spouse’s competence is faltering. This is hard on both of them.

The challenge is to have patience and take care of one another and be “helpmates.” When I broke my ankle, my husband was my Joan of Arc for six months. This kept our romance alive. I revered him. Taking care of one another keeps the romance alive.

We keep our romance alive because we are part of one another. My Ultimate Concierge and I started out on the right foot…we were in sync, but that does not mean that every moment of our marriage is filled with romance. We have trials and tribulations, like everyone. Not everyone faces the same challenges, and sometimes just spending time together after a long day can help keep the romance alive.

My Ultimate Concierge and I have the essential components that keep our romance alive. We are collaborators and lovers in every sense, and we work at our marriage and we don’t let anything or anyone come between us. In short, we are committed.

My Life is a Romantic Adventure

My life is wonderful even in its less than stellar moments. I see my life as excitedly diverse and at other times very delicate, and even in its less than stellar moments, I enjoy everything I can take out of it.

There is so much I take in every day. Nothing escapes me. So many things to delight in. I don’t just live, I have an infatuation with life, and I want you to have the same joy! Keep romance alive in your relationship, always hold onto hope, remember that life’s moments are precious, and never forget to laugh together.

How Do YOU Keep The Romance Alive in Your Own Relationship?

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