A woman who practices the art of bending is a powerful force. She understands that positive bending leads to a charmed and richer lifestyle. This woman flows with the tide and bends with the wind. She is wise. To a point, she follows rules. She also makes her own.

The woman who leads a rigid lifestyle after 50+ is often not a happy person. It is her rigid disposition that often turns neutral circumstances into something full of anger and despair, confusion and frustration.

On the one hand, a woman who has the capacity to bend with life’s challenges leads a far more tranquil, curious, forgiving, empathetic, flexible, loving, joyful existence. She leads a luxurious lifestyle because she knows how to navigate situations. This woman sees her emotions, thoughts, and feelings as the color grey, not the color black. She bends. And, it feels oh so good.

On the other hand, the unbending woman tends to be one who follows rules instead of her feelings thereby preventing her from leading an honest and tranquil life. She is fearful instead of curious. She does not entertain her possibilities of stepping outside the box; thereby missing out on life’s adventures and pleasures. This unbending woman is unable to easily forgive or forget and lacks the capacity to show empathy towards others. She is more concerned with the rules of life than her emotions that should dictate her life. These are negative qualities that prevent a woman from leading a charmed and joyous lifestyle after the age of 50+.

Peer into your looking glass. What type of woman are you? In what area do you see personal self-growth?

How can the unbending woman learn to bend?

1. Practice forgiveness. Call someone and say you are sorry. When you do this you will begin to experience the marvelous feeling of positive bending.
2. Step outside of your comfort zone. Challenge yourself to bend with the wind with a new activity. Travel? A yoga class? A book club? A move you desire?
3. Become emotionally committed. Consider bringing a pet into your home. A pooch’s needs will acquaint you with bending in a positive manner. There is nothing like the feeling of unconditional love, empathy, and joy. You will surrender your rigidity.
4. It will never break you emotionally to bend. Instead, it will instill strength you did not realize you have. Think of yourself as a reed in the water. A storm hits the area. You bend in all directions but you do not break because you are flexible. Think of yourself as a large tree with an unbending trunk who is stuck in your unbending way of life. The same storm with lightning strikes you and you break in half. Does that tell you something? It sure does explain the importance of the art of bending.
5. Being pliable is a pleasure. It does not mean you are weak. It means you are open to discussion. This also means you are open to bending when you are confronted with life situations. You do not resist a problem. Instead, you bend into it to find a solution. I call this resilience. You can adapt and change.

Are you the reed in the water or the large tree? I know I am the reed. Why? I don’t know. But, I do know this — I am grateful.

Do you see yourself as the bending reed or the rigid tree? Let’s start a discussion in the comments. I love hearing from you!

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