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What to Do When Your Adult Child Won’t Speak to You

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Dear readers, I am frequently asked this question: “What do I do when my adult child will not speak to me?” Adult child estrangement is affecting millions of mothers worldwide. Good mothers like you and I. Mothers who love their adult children fiercely, who don’t know what they have done wrong, and would move mountains to have a healthy relationship with their adult child again.

You might be thinking, “Honey, you are wrong. I don’t know anyone who has been rejected by their adult children!” Consider this: the reason you’re unaware is because these mothers feel ashamed and embarrassed and therefore, they remain silent. If you are suffering because your adult child won’t speak to you, I ask you to stop feeling ashamed and to speak up. You are one of millions of other mothers who are silently struggling, lonely, and heartbroken.

The rise of adult child estrangement

An early morning, not long ago, I climbed out of our warm and comfy bed. After I made coffee, I jumped back into bed with my ultimate concierge, grabbed my laptop (as I always do) and clicked on my email.

I saw messages from a few of my early-riser girlfriends, my grandson Joe, and a new email from a website I had not heard of previously.

The first few words of this email captured my attention, so I clicked through to the website. The title of the first story was, “What To Do When Your Grown Up Kids Won’t Talk to You.” Directly under that story was another one talking about the same subject, “Why Some Grown Kids Cut Off Their Parents.”

I continued to read the first story which began like this, “In the painful days after my husband’s death, I crafted a eulogy that concluded with a thought from the ‘Book of Laughter and Forgetting,’ by Milan Kundera. The key sentence in the eulogy: Love is a constant interrogation.”

I immediately connected with the writer’s story about losing her husband. Because I, too, have lived through the tragedy of watching my children lose their father while facing my own widowhood. Read more about my experience here.

Blending families and adult child estrangement

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My second husband, Shelly, is also a widower who has children who lost a mother.

In addition to losing a parent, our children have had to deal with the joy and conflict that comes with the blending of a family when their parents remarried. Blending a family can be tumultuous. Life changes for adult children the second time around. The older children move through the experience of trying to blend with another family, and yet, sadly, families are never completely ‘whole’ again after one parent dies. 

Family relationships as a woman over 50 can be complicated!

Solidarity in adult child estrangement is comforting

It doesn’t fix the problem to know that you aren’t alone in adult child estrangement, but it does bring courage, hope, and solidarity. I continued to read this woman’s story, relating to the words I read and feeling seen.

I want sorrowful and good mothers living through the ordeal of being “cut off” by their adult children to know they are not alone. Good mothers should know there is an epidemic and they are one of many afflicted.

To me, deliberate loss of touch with a mother leaves me horrified. If only every adult child could understand what a gut-wrenching experience this is for their mother. I feel a child who does this has personal problems.  Of course, if there is psychological, sexual or physical abuse from a parent, the adult child has the right to disengage.

When faced with rejection, a mother asks herself, “Did I fail? Didn’t I teach my children the importance of compassion, empathy, respect, values, and the art of communication? Why do some adult children cut off their mother? Why can other children with more serious struggles with their parents stay connected through thick and thin?”

Two schools of thought on adult child estrangement

This is my belief on the subject

I believe that no matter what happens, your mother is your mother. The Ten Commandments state to honor thy father and thy mother. As a daughter, I had many stormy days with my mom, but I would never think to cut her off completely. I would argue, but never take flight! And, right or wrong, I apologized. Period.

The other school of thought

After being baffled by the dynamics of my own adult child estrangement, I hunted down expert guidance on my situation. What I discovered from learned psychologists and psychiatrists is that adult children take flight because they feel a sense of relief, their expectations are too high or they lack the means to communicate.

Why? They lack the fortitude and skills necessary to address and resolve any problems or conflict with their mother; it is too much for them to handle.

I question if they really take flight. I don’t believe they can. They are left with the unresolved and have to be feeling anxious at times and stressed. They want to feel disconnected, but they never will be free of their mother.

What can a mother do when an adult child will not speak to her?

1. Stay Connected

Maintain a relationship with the other members of your family. Demonstrate to your grands and others that you will never “take flight.” Explain to them they can show loyalty to their mother and grandmother.

2. Seek Support

Talk to a therapist or join one of the many support groups that are available. Come join my private Facebook group: Estranged Mothers and Grandmothers: Millions Strong

3. Remain True to Yourself

Don’t let anger rule and don’t cut off your adult child. Continue to send birthday cards or a small sentimental gift. It’s important to stay in touch with your other children and your grandchildren. This will bring you comfort.

4. Don’t Air Your Dirty Laundry

Avoid alienating your grandchildren. Keep the details of your estrangement out of the conversations with your other children or grandchildren. Pitting family members against one another or expecting them to take sides will only cause heartache.

5. Be An Example

Hopefully, one day your adult child’s door will open and when it does, you must be the bigger person. Bite your tongue and listen with an open mind and heart. It may be very hard, but don’t get caught up in your feelings. Be empathetic to your adult child. Be an example.

6. Live a Full Life

Until reconciliation happens, you must live a full life. You did not leave your child. You are a good mother and a good woman.

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Adult child estrangement can never sever the mother-child bond

In an article about adult child estrangement, Elizabeth Vagnoni, a mother estranged from her two adult sons, wrote: “76% of adult children say that being estranged has affected their well-being, even though it appears to have been their choice.”

I agree. An adult child cannot escape the mother-child bond.

That is why you should hang in there.

Adult child estrangement is such a complicated topic and no two experiences are the same. Each family is unique, and each adult child and mother has their own view of events leading up to a splintering.

But I want to leave you with a few thoughts:

1. If your child reaches out to you, establish a shared set of future boundaries.

2. If your child does not reach out to you, don’t close the door. Consider writing them a personal letter.  “Let’s find common ground to resolve our conflicts. I love you and miss you.  I need you. Let’s talk.” Do not expect a response. You opened the door and hopefully one day he or she will walk through it.

3. Lastly, do not demean yourself. Never feel ashamed. You are not the only one experiencing adult child estrangement. Many professional doctors say our generation of parents spared the rod and spoiled the child. They may be 100% correct.

If there is someone in your life experiencing adult child estrangement, consider sending them this story!

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February 21, 2024

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  1. Sandy Spinks says:

    Hi my name is Sandy my oldest son who was born on my 20th birthday ( same time , length and weight) I have another son who was born 18 months later his name is Drew, they are 40( 41 in February) and 39( 40 in August . My son and I have always been close, my story is a very long story. My Mother died March 8 , 2017 two months later my son Christopher stopped speaking to me, cut off most communication, he was living with his girlfriend who did not want him to be as close as we were ( I live in Cleveland Ohio and my two sons live in Texas , Chris and I pretty much talked every day until she came into picture, the first time I met her ( they were already living together) she told me that I would never have the relationship that they had, I told her I agreed because I was his Mother and she was his Girlfriend, she got furious and me and my husband had to leave and go stay with our Other son ( no descent hotel available on such short notice) who wife just had our first second grandson , which my son Chris girlfriend made it clear that don’t expect any grand children from them ( kids icky) again trying not to write a book , my oldest son was informed his Grandmother my mother was dying and I was coming home to Louisiana to say goodbye, his girlfriends 30 th Birthday was coming up and he had promised to take her skiing in Denver . The whole family was gathered to say goodbye to my beautiful mother ( she was kept on Breathing machine until the Family ( my two brothers and two sisters my nieces and nephews and my youngest son could be there . Christopher said he couldn’t leave Lisa in Denver to make it in time to say goodbye, so the Apple of my mom’s eyes had to say goodbye FaceTime, so my youngest son was my Rock holding me together through this difficult time, in the day my Mother died the girl was skiing and a guy slammed into her and broke her wrist ( she had to be rushed into surgery, so of course my son wasn’t going to leave her so he missed my mom’s Funeral, came a couple of days after she was buried ( I cleaned out my Momma’s apartment) he was very upset we went to Cemetery, the girl friend was angry he came to be with me, so that May me and my Husband ( Chris and Drew’s stepdad) who Drew adores , we stayed with Drew and his family, we invited Chris and Lisa to come eat ( boys always loved my cooking, we tried to spend equal amount of time with Drew and Chris so we met them the next day to take them to dinner, she let me know she didn’t want to talk about my mother and she kept whispering in my son’s ear . We were supposed to met them and before we left, when I texted Chris to make a time and place he said Lisa had already made plans , I was very upset and my feelings were very hurt, so that was the last time we spoke ( I tried calling, she would answer and hang up I wrote serval emails and letters ( he said I didn’t) they were married 3 years ago ( I was not invited) his horrible Ex Stepmother and drug addicted father were , my youngest son and rest of family and friends tried to talk to him , I have pretty much cried every day, he won’t get me a exclamation, we just got back from Texas visiting my youngest son and grandsons ( 35 minutes away from Chris) he said he was good with out seeing me , I feel horrible that my youngest son had to hear me crying at night, this is a hurt like no other , I’m not a toxic mom , yes I made a lot of mistakes, I Al ways told my boys how much I loved them I still do, I send messages to Chris how I loved him from his first breath ( best birthday present ever) and I will love him my last . 7years this May , I don’t know how to fix this . I had a sister 9 years older who molested and tried to drown me ( she has mental issues) did not speak to her for over 20 years ( she was the only one that lived near my Mom , she didn’t leave my mom’s side and held the phone up so I could let momma know I was on my way! My last words to my mom was I thank her for her forgiving heart ! So it is hard to grip that this child that came out of my body can’t forgive me . I loved my momma even though she knew what my sister had done and she would go into another room when my dad would beat me and my sister who was two years older than me and tried to protect me , my oldest sister was my dad’s pet . Again long story. Just looking for advice, I know in my heart I was a better mother than mine and would never think of hurting my mom like this .

    • Susan Good says:

      As a mother and grandmother for 8 years of 2 estranged daughter, one the leader and the other the follower, I have learned that to survive you have to go through the mourning process of loss, even though they are alive. You are fortunate to have your other son and grandchildren. I have neither. Revel and be grateful for their love and count your blessing. Put your energy into love; not misery and accept what you cannot change. You are making yourself a victim. After seven years it is time to understand that your son and his wife are the victims. Not you. Warmly, Honey

  2. 2015392 says:

    “Your mother is your mother?” That is a dangerous statement. When your children become adults, you need to treat them as equal. When there is inequality in a relationship that leads to abuse. Many mothers miss this point not realizing that they are denying the son or daughter from becoming a real person. Your motherly care is just sending the wrong message. that “I am your mother I always know what is best for you”. Not true. They are adults and they dont need your “wisdom” in order to survive.

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      I agree with every word you wrote, 100%. I remember when I was a young girl and into marriage my mom and I use to have words because as you mentioned many mothers miss the point.My mother is my role model in many areas but trust me…I am my own person and fought to be. I was not by any means a shrinking violet!! At the end of the day after our argument, even when I was right, I would pick up the phone and call my mother, many times wanting to bite my tongue. Why? Because my mother…is my mother. Warmly, Honey

  3. Kathy says:

    Yes, it’s difficult ; especially since it’s my only child who was diagnosed with manic depression in his teens. ( He is 30 years of age now) I raised him as a single parent since he was 2 years of age. His father would pop up for a few weeks and then disappear for years. He only needed a place to stay between girlfriends, I wasn’t the perfect parent but I tried to encourage him to live a better life. Tried to become a role model by completing college in order for us to live in a better neighborhood. I even purchased a home which I was very proud of. But, he was never happy and blamed me for his decisions and behaviors- even on social media which I found to be immature and demeaning because so had a reputation to maintain within my colleagues. He knew this and was done maliciously. But still I reached out to him. I would provide him with money but later cut this off because I suspected it was used to maintain his girlfriend’s drug habits. This made me to be the bad person and he estranged himself one more time. It’s been a year now. For the most part I’m actually ok. I see a therapist and the fact that I stopped giving him money ( for reasons mentioned) has stopped the guilt I had . For some strange reason , this all returned the self confidence and pain I had because of all that happened. Him deciding to cut all ties is really a sign of immaturity on his end. He has three years of college but decided to quit school and live a life I did not want for him. It’s sad but I now understand it was his poor decision , not my fault. He will regret the decisions he has made for himself. I worked hard for him to have something better. It was thrown to the side. Again, it’s sad. I do agree that there will be moments , like holidays that you will miss your love one and wonder how they are doing, but you have to take care of you. Look for distractions during the holidays. Enjoy them with your other family members. Let them know it’s a delicate topic for you and will only bring pain , so be respectful and allow you to enjoy the moments with them. Because , they are family too. Another alternative would be to go out with friends etc. I’ve even prepared before any holiday by preparing a special meal for myself, bingeing on Netflix etc and staying away from videos related to the specific holiday celebrated. Believe me this works more than you may think. It’s taking care of yourself and not allowing negativity destroy your day or being. Estrangement is like a death. The problem is that it is a “ death” of a being who is still alive and disowning you. So ask yourself “ Will I allow this to destroy me or will I go on with my life.” Because, just like I told my son when he would speak angrily about his father “ I understand how you feel, but while you are angry and acting out- he is going on with his life. You are only hurting yourself. So, stop hating him and yourself and take care of you. “ Well, now my son and I are estranged and it’s time to use this philosophy for myself. Love yourself. If your love one comes back- celebrate. But do not destroy yourself with pain and guilt. Bottom line, you are the parent who loved and took care of your child. They should respect this.

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      You have realized the importance of accepting what you cannot change. You have learned that the situation is about your son’s actions and not yours. Most importantly, I noticed after all your pain you wrote, “If your loved one comes back, celebrate.” Yes, you have learned and I respect you for your wisdom. This problem is universal.And, I do agree,children should honor and respect their parents. Warmly, Honey

  4. Holly says:

    Our youngest son walked out of our lives two years ago and has blocked all communication from us. I was able to speak to him when I stopped by his home with baked goods. I told him how much that he was loved and missed asking him to come back into our life. He looked at me and asked” what have you learned from this separation?”. I suggested that we go to family counseling or speak with a pastor. He bulked at both. He is combative and argumentative toward me but not his father. He has been this way his entire adult life. His father is not well and I can’t help but think that he doesn’t want to be bothered with giving me a hand with his care. I have read books on child estrangement, listened to lectures and am praying without ceasing. I don’t know where to turn.

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Unfortunately Holly, you are going to have to learn to accept what is not in your power to change.We cannot make our children do what they do not want to do. You have tried and tried and he has rebuked you. You can keep trying.You can talk to professionals who can help you put your life first and the problem secondary. You can look for a group who discusses parental abandonment. I know how you feel. Even on my good days my daughter continues to disrupt my life.You have no idea what she has put me through. I only scratched the surface in my story. I ask myself, “Why me?” I will never find justification in her behavior. I no longer consider her my daughter because her cruelty is unforgivable. In my wildest dreams I never dreamed this could exist. So, we share a grief. My suggestion again: concentrate on what gives you joy. This is now about your survival. Warmly, Honey

  5. Janice Ryan says:

    All situations are different. My daughter married a narcissistic man child knowing what he was and knowing we were less than thrilled. She is now divorced officially for 2 months. We sent her a letter asking her if she will ever speak to us again, no response as of yet. Invited her for the holidays aa well. Most children who cut off their parents are immature and selfish. I will not wait until I am on my death bed begging to see her. She decided to do this, I will not give in to her tantrum and stubbornness. Anger is what has made me strong and kept me from going down a dark path that I have been down before because of her. We have no one to mediate for us, my brother I thought was but ended up I found out he doesn’t care. My husband and I have been estranged from our daughter for 6 years. It was because of her husband she cut us off, we don’t know what the problem is now that he is gone.

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Yes, all situations are different except one: Honor thy father and thy mother. Give her time, especially since it appears you had a nice relationship before her marriage.Two months is a short time to heal from a divorce; aside from the fact that deep down she is acknowledging her parents were right. Send her little notes. “Just want you to know I am thinking about you.” I love you. Mom. Maybe send a special sentimental I love you gift the following month. And, don’t mention you were right about her husband. She knows. If she does not come around, it is her problem not yours and accept what is and live your life to the fullest. Hope this helps. Warmly, Honey

  6. Jody Henson says:

    I’m not sure if this comment will reach you because I’m technically challenged and after divorce and more than 10 years of estrangement from my 34 year old son, 32 year old daughter and 3 grandchildren, I’ve become mentally and physically heartbroken. I feel dead but still wake up to this horrible pain every day. All I do is think pray and cry over them. I keep hoping it will end soon and cant believe I’ve lived through it this long. I’ve seen every website and read every book including the bible. I look for new websites to read every day and write letters and texts till my mind is overwhelmed and I give up. They have me totally blocked from reaching them and I cant find out their address. My sister is the toxic 3rd party invader of my life and family. I never knew how bad she envied and hated me. She wanted my life and I loved and helped her all our lives together. She didnt have kids or a family so she silently eased her way in when I was at my weakest during my divorce. My life consists of taking care of my 82 year old mom with dementia and I had my 21 year old son at 40 years old. He lives with me after being taken from me in the divorce. We are trying to get back the last 10 years we lost but he’s sad that I’m not the same as I was then. It hurts him that I’m depressed over his brother and sister and thinks he’s not enough for me. I do feel feel like a failure as a mom, wife daughter and sister even though I know better. So much more to my life and not all negative but when I think of the beautiful memories of being a Christian stay at home mom with all the blessings of a home and family, it doesn’t help. I feel bad for all the moms on this site and pray the best for all of you. I hope yall are loving yourselves and being strong. Dont let yourselves get this far down because it makes it that much harder to get back up. I’ll continue to pray for all moms, our children and grandchildren to be together again soon. Thanks for sharing your stories as they helped me a lot. Jody

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Your story is heartbreaking. This is not about your motherhood. This is caused by disrespectful and unkind adult children who probably are blaming you for their unhappiness. You must stop blaming yourself for the sake of your son and your own well-being.What did you do wrong? Nothing. You did your best.There is not a book written on how to be a perfect mother. I know the hurt and dismay of your children’s actions will not end. But, you have a choice to make. I suggest you use all your mental strength and change your attitude. Being depressed will not bring them back. It will only hurt you and your son. Give him all the love you have in your heart. He needs you. you need him. Warmly, Honey

  7. Kay says:

    I was divorced when my youngest daughter was 11 years old. I raised her on my own and had help from my wonderful parents. My x husband had no time for her in spite of being financially stable he spent his money on women and fun I had to work hard to provide medical insurance and all her needs I did without but would do it all over again. She is now married with two grown daughters and 1 six year little boy. After many years of treating me cold and mean to me she cut me out of her life completely. Blocked me from everything and won’t let me see my grandson. Since she has been an adult she has blamed me for anything and everything that has gone wrong or just because she is in a bad mood. She has told my granddaughter she will never ever speak to me again. I sometimes believe she even blames me because her father doesn’t want anything to do with any of the children. She will not tell any family members why she is angry with me. I wish I could understand.

    • Susan Good says:

      I have the same situation. I wish I had the answers. We estranged parents can only account for our actions. We have to find the formula to accept what we cannot change. For myself, that is my goal. I suggest you concentrate on what brings joy in your life. I don’t know how these adult children can live with their actions. Warmly, Honey

  8. Julie says:

    My husband is estranged from his mother. It is very painful for the adult child as well. She left our family for another man. It broke my husband’s heart when she left his step dad for this man and 36 years earlier left his bio father when he was only 4 or 5 years old. We tried really hard to heal with her, but she kept lying about things. My husband couldn’t take the lies anymore. Whenever we heard from her it was the same thing and it was killing him. He was all broken up remembering when she left his bio father and now it was happening again to his step dad who raised him. Before the estrangement and we were trying to heal our family she came and visited us. It ended with her walking out on us in the middle of the night after my husband and she were talking about things. He confronted one of her lies and she left. They haven’t seen each other since that night. It’s been 2 years now. She last spoke with me on the phone for my birthday a year ago. I pleaded with her to talk to her son, but not to wait for his birthday and rehash on that day. She didn’t. She texted him the day before and he didn’t want to deal with all of it on his birthday. A few days later he learned from a family friend she had gotten married to the man she left his dad for 4 months earlier. He was devastated. We got a letter from her a month later telling us of her marriage. My husband couldn’t respond. He was devastated. Our daughter was due to get married a few months later and our family was in turmoil of her coming to the wedding and bringing her new husband. Because my daughter was so worried about everyone being upset, I had to write my mother in law a letter and ask her not to come. I didn’t want to do that, but I had to for my daughter, husband, and father in law’s sake. I feel so horrible and wish every day that things were not in this state. I love my mother in law. I miss her. But I am also so baffled by her behavior. She was never like this before. Always a loving giving mother. Then one day she met another man and left her family. But from her perspective we were the ones who abandoned her. I am completely heartbroken by this situation. I write this to give another perspective about the parent adult child estrangement thing. Whenever I search on the internet it’s the kids who leave the parent, but not in our situation. I’m so sorry for each broken family that I have read about on the internet. I pray God will bring healing and reconciliation in each family. I think about my mother in law all the time. My own mother died in 2012 and I miss her so much. I just can’t understand anyone throwing a family member away. My poor husband is so confused. He feels tremendous guilt and anger. He loves his mother deeply, but he doesn’t trust her. He loves the LORD Jesus and desires to live as His follower. He forgives his mother, but doesn’t feel safe letting her in. I hope this reply will be helpful to someone out there. Actually I truly hope it reaches my mother in law and softens her heart with understanding for her son. We love her so much and wish everyday that things were not as they are. May God bless each of you.

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    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Hi, Are you struggling with your picture on just this post or on all your posts? We are not having a problem on our end but we will check the picture. If you are having a problem on all the posts it is your internet. Warmly, Honey

  10. Anita Powell says:

    This is a very complex problem and growing.. I haven’t seen my adult daughters who refuse to let me see my grandchildren as well. It has been six years. A vital part of my heart is in sorrow and pain and I see no intervention in sight. They refuse any type of communication and have blocked me from everything in their life. I was close to my first daughter’s children and miss them terribly. I identify with your post today and thank you for the story of the red string., I never take it off. My prayers are with you and your precious mother. Shalom,dear Honey

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      I am so glad I heard from you. I received your gift and keep it in a special place. I lost your address so I could not write you a thank you note. Children in many families have no respect like we did for our parents. Many no longer honor their father and mother. You are, unfortunately, not alone. I read the stats. This serious situation is in epidemic proportions. This is about your daughters, not about you. Live your life. I was happy to send you a red string.Never take it off. It will fall off on its own. My last one lasted over one year. Warmly, Honey

  11. Rebecca says:

    My mother passed away recently and I now have a sister who has said awful things to me and about me to others. We are no longer speaking. It hurts because I no longer have any family that I grew up with. I understand that this is a little different from your message, but unfortunately there are all kinds of issues in family relationships that can cause great pain. I am very fortunate to have a loving husband, three wonderful children, and five fantastic grandchildren who all care about me! But the pain is still there and to be honest it is very hard to not grieve the loss of a living sister.

    • Susan Good says:

      I agree with you. There are different types of family estrangement and they all hurt. Please join my new group Estranged Mothers and Grandmothers: Millions strong. Send the note you sent above in the group and you will probably hear from siblings going through your experience. You are very fortunate that you have a loving husband and family. Revel in that love and think of possible ways you might end the estrangement with your sister. Warmly, Honey

  12. Julie says:

    a family member abused my daughter, he has passed. I didn’t know that he did, basically i didn’t get it till she was a teenager. It has caused significant problems within the family and now estrangement with most of my children. I have tried to rectify this to no avail.

    • Susan Good says:

      Please join my private free Facebook Group: Estranged Mothers and Grandmothers: Millions Strong. There is much engagement between the estranged moms. I think they will as a group contribute to your need for help. This is a sad time in our lives. Groups help. Women need women. Warmly, Honey

  13. Sarah says:

    As a parent, it’s very important to do your own work while waiting for them to reach out. Best not to intrude in their lives in anyway if they requested so. By doing so you are disrespecting their boundaries, which is most likely on their list of grievances. Be self-reflective, insightful and work on yourself before blaming your child and moving on. This process can take years. Lots of wonderful podcasts and blogs that have been helpful for families truly seeking reconciliation but that begins with you as the parent taking a step back to do your own work. Joshua Coleman, Kreed Revere, Janet Steinkamp have successfully reconciled with their own children and now helping other parents. Their podcasts were so eye-opening and incredibly helpful.

    • Susan Good says:

      Thank you for your comment.Your advice is appreciated. Please consider joining my private facebook group:Estranged mothers and grandmothers: millions strong. Warmly, Honey

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