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The power of positive words

Honey Good speaks about the power of positive thoughts

This morning, the effect of positive words triggered profound happiness in a body that was not feeling well. I lost my voice and have a cold and a cough. I am feeling quite sick and I have no appetite. My husband, my ultimate concierge, was insistent that I eat and surprised me with breakfast in bed; brought me a colorful flowered box of Kleenex knowing the flowers would put an immediate smile on my face, served me hot tea and lemon, forced me to take Tylenol and swallow cough medicine while I sat up in bed like a Queen Bee or dozed off with my computer in my lap. Every word that came out of his mouth was kind, loving and filled with concern. Every word that came out of my mouth was loving and thankful. That is how it should be.

In the midst of his caregiving and all the tumult taking place in our bed, our doorbell rang and in popped an unexpected friend and neighbor. “What happened to you?” she asked.” Before I could answer, my ultimate concierge said, “Honey’s sick and has me playing wife today.” Such an unexpected statement sent laughter through the room. My friend responded, “You are not Mr. Good; you are Mr. Great.” More laughter from the three of us.

It was over the above conversation, emails and phone calls from family and friends during the day that turned my attention to the meaning of words. Every conversation was caring and lovely. I glanced down at the mug, from Ireland (I have a collection of cups from all over the world to remind me of memories with my husband), in my hand that had drawings of four leaf clovers and a saying that read: “Where ever you go whatever you do may the luck of the Irish be always with you.”

I stared at my cup in all white and forest green and thought to myself, “Our lifestyles are centered around communication.”

Spoken and written words feed our emotions. Thank goodness for positive words. Without positive language we would not laugh, learn, show gratitude, express hope, love and trust, or be able to communicate hope, joy, or sadness.

Words affect the quality of our daily lives. Communication, is our greatest source of happiness and can be our greatest source of unhappiness. Almost every minute of our day is filled with words and it appears we are having difficulty as a Nation and as individuals in using the uplifting positive words in our dictionary.

Words exude positive and negative energy and power. They uplift us; they uplift our lifestyle. Or, they destroy us. They destroy our lifestyle. I don’t believe in the saying: “Sticks and stones will break our bones and words will never harm us.” That saying is a bunch of “fooey.” Of course words hurt and harm us as individuals and a society.

So, how do we master the use of positivity during times of conflict and turmoil in our personal lives. Nothing is solved with a negative approach. Negative words fuel more anger. Just turn on your television.

I took a two-day course in the Art of Negotiation at the Karrass School of Negotiation. The course was geared towards business but I took away some skills on how to use the art of negotiation through the positive word.

So, on this cold rainy afternoon as I stare out my window, propped up in bed with lots of soft down pillows plus one ‘my pillow,’ that my husband ordered on TV; (he loves to order items he sees on television,) my flowered Kleenex box, my Irish mug, my laptop, my pooch, who I described as a crippled child, nestled into my side, a show playing on Netflix (Call The Midwife) and my ultimate concierge next to me, I mull over the meaning of how to use positive words during conflict.

My goal is to be able to deal with misunderstandings, be a better negotiator because anger like joy is an emotion that arises in all of our lives.

The use of positive words in conflict

  1. Validate a person’s view point. The person should validate my viewpoint. This is a positive beginning with family members, friends and co-workers. I said, validate, not necessarily agree.
  2. Avoid negative words.
  3. Suggest alternatives.
  4. Sound helpful.
  5. Manage your emotions. Take a deep breath.

I want to leave you with words I love darlings, all positive words. Might you incorporate them into your positive word vocabulary?

ageless, achievement, abundant, awesome, appreciate, bloom, blessed, balanced, decent, dazzle, empathize, encourage, fabulous, friendship, family, generous, harmonious, happy, flourish, illuminate, inspire, joyful, kind-hearted, laughter, learn, live, love, marvelous, motivated, noble, nature, optimism, open hearted, open minded, positive, powerful, polite, queenly, respectful, reason, rapture, resilient, respect, rainbow, smile, stable, sparkle, sweet, smart, savour, trust, thrive, vitality, values, vigor, worth, wow, wonder, worthy, yes, yes and yes!

I hope you have a positive day and a positive week ahead. Use positive words and be aware of all the positivity in your life.

October 15, 2017

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  1. Nancy says:

    Sorry to hear you are not feeling well .
    Get well soon !

  2. Ginny Baker says:

    Thanks for your lovely , nice snd inspiring post today…
    I loved reading all the postive words and actually I wrote all of them in my journal…
    That really felt good to do!
    I do believe in the power of the pen…so with that thought in my mind , I believe what you wtite down will be your thoughts .
    Feel better soon and I so adore how your ultimate concierge takes such care of you.
    I love how you appreciate him.
    I think my husband is loving, kind and caring so it is a blessing.
    Thanks for sending an email everyday. I love love love all your postings.
    Love and Aloha from Hawaii
    Ginny Baker

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Thank you for your kind words. I am so glad you wrote down the word in your journal. We are both lucky to have caring husbands. And, thank you for reading HG. Aloha, Honey

  3. Pam Davis says:

    This is wonderful !! Love all the positive words! And live your blog. Hope you get to feeling better soon.

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Hi Pam, I am so happy you enjoyed my musings. Words do make the world go round, hopefully in a positive manner. Thank you for your good wishes. I am getting better. Warmly, Honey

  4. Newman Ruth says:

    I hope you recover soon, but with all the love surrounding you– you will! I watch and enjoy Call the Midwife too. It’s beautiful in the desert????????????

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      I read it was 95. Beautiful. I am recovering. I did too much too soon. One of my daughters flew in. A granddaughter flew in. Friends and other family visited. I pushed myself too much, I guess. And, I never stopped writing because I love this part of my life, so much. I am feeling better this morning. My husband loves the Midwife!!! Have a lovely day. Susan

  5. Vanester Swain-Hardison says:

    Susan you are in my prayers. You are blessed.

  6. Cheryl says:

    I so enjoyed your “words” today. Honey! Hope you and yours have a positive, pleasant day.

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      I am so glad you enjoyed my words today. How special. Words do make the world go round. Hope you have a wonderful week. Happy Monday. Warmly, Honey

  7. Virginia Rice says:

    Just the words needed to start the week, nothing beats a positive attitude Thank you and get well soon

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Positive words. Positive life. I love the words I wrote down and use them without realizing. When we talk positively we feel positive. Happy Monday. Warmly, Honey

  8. Sharon says:

    Many “positive” and healing thoughts headed your way, Honey! Thank you for this story.

  9. Lisa Rubin says:

    I’m certain, with your Ultimate Concierge, you’ll do just fine. While I am kept very busy as a Community Health Nurse in the Chelsea, NYC area, you don’t need me. Just keep doing what you are already doing and you will be up in no time!

  10. Sherri Gold says:

    You even write well when you are ill, Get well soon. Wish we were best friends–you are wise, have an impact on my life, and you have great clothes to boot! Sherri Gold

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Dear Sherri, We are friends, from a distance. That is special, too. Written words many times have more meaning than spoken words. Thank you for the lovely compliment. Warmly, Honey

  11. Loulie Blanchfield says:

    Dear Honey,
    You do write so well, even when you are ill. Do let your loved ones take good care of you–we all love you so much and want you to feel well and strong again soon!
    I, like Sherri Gold who wrote Oct. 16, at 6:06 pm, wish WE were best friends too!!You ARE wise, kind, and generous with your love. Your words do have an impact on my life, every day.
    Thank you ever so much Darling Honey! ~~Loulie

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Darling Loulie, I am so glad you read my musings. Thank you for the supreme compliment. I am so proud you are one of my ‘darlings.’ Warmly, Honey

  12. Marlene Hanson says:

    I am a new subscriber and am beginning to gaze upon your special ability to see and express the emotions of life. I to believe positive words grow and bloom
    in our every day lives, they keep blessings flowing. Hope you are better today. I am so looking forward to the beginnings of our journey.
    Marlene from the Land of Oz

  13. Susan "Honey" Good says:

    Dear Marlene, I love the word bloom. I am so happy you are now a part of our sisterhood. I think you also have a lot to say. I am smiling. Warmly, Honoey

  14. Johnnie Barnes says:

    Being positive spoke to my heart.
    Hope you are feeling better!

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      I am so glad it did. It speaks to mine, too. I am feeling better. Thank you for caring. Warmly, Honey

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