How to maintain long-lasting relationships

March 19, 2017 Published by
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Our lives are filled with several types of relationships. Let’s talk about how to keep relationships alive that we have with our partners, children, grandchildren, and girlfriends. Here are the keywords that I’ve learned over the years that keep my relationships alive and well!

Partners

  1. Attention: Your partner should always come first. I learned this from my mother as I observed how she treated my father. He came first, even ahead of my brother and me. She was correct – we eventually left the nest.
  2. Romance: Tell your husband you love him. I tell my husband I love him every day and many days I tell him more than once. Also, dress for your husband.
  3. Praise: Men like to have their mane patted. Come to think of it, everyone does. Give praise.
  4. Appreciation: Don’t take anything for granted. I thank my husband for something daily, even if it’s the smallest thing.
  5. Argue: Fight fair!
  6. Love: Hold hands at the movies. Kiss one another goodnight.

Children and Grandchildren

  1. Unconditional love: Grandmothers are safe love, always. Be a safe haven for your grandchildren.
  2. Time and not money: Send emails and texts during the week, especially if you live apart. Be the one to make the phone call every Sunday, so it becomes a habit. Money will bring love for a moment, but time will bring love for a lifetime.
  3. Support: Always validate your grandchildren’s feelings. You must think about how you felt at their age.
  4. Pass on family traditions and history: Grandchildren love to learn about the history and traditions of their family. Tell them stories with a message and make the stories exciting or thought-provoking.
  5. Stay young at heart: You shouldn’t act like an old fuddy-duddy with your grandchildren.  You should be up-to-date on fashion, technology, and their special interests.
  6. Values and wisdom: This is your ultimate responsibility as a grandmother. Leave your grandchildren with valuable knowledge. They will remember what you taught them.

Girlfriends

  1. Trust: Prove you are trustworthy. The normal rule of thought, “If you tell one person, it is no longer a secret.” Prove your trustworthiness to your friends.
  2. Maintenance: Make an effort. Remember, friendships take a lot of tender loving care.
  3. Share: Share activities and intellectual interests with your close friends.
  4. Like-minded: Choose women who have similar qualities of character.
  5. Self-disclosure:  Disclose who you really are. It is a vulnerable feeling but will create a true bond.

Do something good today — tell those you care about that you love them.

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19 Comments

  • Linda says:

    Really enjoyed reading your tips, esp. the Grandma tips! Thank you!

    • Honey Good says:

      You are so welcome.We leave them with our wisdom, not our money. Our wisdom is the real life long gift. Warmly Honey

  • Laurie says:

    Thank you for your insight…I need reminders why I married this man 35 yrs ago. Many ups and downs in that time frame with 2 boys. ( now 34 &29 )He became an alcoholic and damn near died 3.5 yrs ago…I stayed with him after some hell yrs….but had gone to Alon 1.5 yrs before we dragged him into ER. I was prepared to leave him after getting my bearings through help from Alon. Letting go was huge for me at that point. I am happy with my decision, I have my husband back, in a limited way. He is on liver transplant list, but is so LUCKY he is alive, with medication and some surgeries. He is not the same physically, but still is horny and I have lost that desire…too many hurts from the past. But I do love him, just don’t care to have sex or even be naked in bed with him ….it has been so long….Too much detail! Anyhow, I CAN tell him those gentle reminders you posted and that will help deepen our relationship. Laughing is part of our daily ritual and that is what made me love him in 1978….. I will try some of your suggestions and see if that can improve the years we have left. ????

    • Honey Good says:

      What a story. I am happy you are happy with your decision. It was a huge one and reading you open letter to me makes me feel you made the right move. There is no perfection in our lives. Loyalty is a great value, so is tenacity. You have both and I applaud you. He is probably going to be wild in the bedroom after he receives his new liver. Be prepared!!! And keep laughing and maybe a little loving, too? Warmly, Honey

  • Lori says:

    This is excellent! Thanks for the reminders!

  • Rita says:

    Thank younger the suggestions particularly about the grand children. These are words I will archive for future reference. My grandparenting adventures are jus beginning!

    • Honey Good says:

      What a wonderful compliment. Thank you and thank you for being a part of the Honey Good sisterhood. Warmly, Honey

  • Linda Springman says:

    Absolutely the best advise I ever received. Thank you!

  • Dawn says:

    Enjoy your anecdotal experience/advice much better than the ‘experts in their field’ that give boilerplate advice.

    • Honey Good says:

      Living life is the best experience. I have earned my phD in life. We are not like the travel agent sitting behind her computer who plans a trip and has never traveled. We have traveled down the road of life and ‘we get it.’ Warmly, Honey

  • Terri Maracle says:

    Wonderful post! I think I will print out your ‘list’ and post it on the cork board over my desk! I agree that the ‘couple’ relationship must take priority. We show, by example, to our children and grandchildren what a strong respectful relationship can be. I also agree that we need to give our time, not our money to our precious grandchildren. Finally, lifelong friends are the result of prioritizing them during the years. Like everything that matters, your girlfriends are an invaluable part of a happy life. …..hence why I will be printing out your list!!

    • Honey Good says:

      I love your note to me. Thank you. You and I are on the same page.
      Thank you for being a part of the HG community. Warmly, Honey

  • haydee says:

    dear Honey Good—what a wonderful post this was—thank you
    haydee

  • Janet says:

    Thank you for this post ,it was what I needed to hear today thank you again

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