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How to Regain Your Natural Enthusiasm

Enthusiasm is important to life motivation. I don’t believe anything can be accomplished without enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is getting an enormous thrill out of ordinary events. I know. I used to feel this way daily. Now, only at times.

The opposite of enthusiasm is apathy. I know this feeling. It’s best described as feeling a lack of physical and emotional energy.

Honey Good out shopping

I note the America of today: the solemn faces and slow gait of people, the closed business with dirty windows, the once vibrant shops and department stores now lacking customers. The empty offices without workers who sit at home working part-time in their underwear, the people walking down the street talking or reading into their smartphones instead of conversing with their partner. I notice and I am sickened.

What has happened in my once beautiful Chicago neighborhood and to my neighbors? I know the reason(s) but do not dare say. I know because I am a woman over 50 and I get it!

DO NOT LOSE YOUR NATURAL ENTHUSIASM

On my way to meet a friend for lunch, walking outside, I tune into my gait… it is sluggish. I note I no longer carry one of my fabulous handbags that brought joy; instead, I tuck a credit card case deep into a pocket because of the high rate of crime in my city. Before, I would smile at strangers and say, ‘Good morning!’ No longer.

Today, I am not the person I was a short two-plus years ago. Today I have to push myself to fit that positive mold that used to come naturally. In other words, I have become zombie-like.

“Stop it!” I say to myself. You cannot lose your natural enthusiasm. Your daily awe.

I continue my walk.

The reality of the new lifestyle in America creeps into my once jovial-thinking mindset. I pinch myself…am I walking down a street in Venezuela or Cuba? Am I living in a Banana State instead of my glorious United States of America? The answer is yes.

As I continue my walk I wonder where my friends are hiding. I ask myself the reasons I rarely desire to make phone calls and why I let my phone ring and ring instead of picking it up. I know.

Why don’t I purchase tickets to the opera, symphony, and shows? Why don’t I shop till I drop? I know why.

HOW CAN WE STOP OURSELVES FROM LOSING ENTHUSIASM?

Outside forces are causing me to lose enthusiasm.

I am feeling like you. The entire world, save the oligarchs and elites, have lost their joy de vivre. We were and continue to be robbed of a normal American lifestyle and we are letting it happen right before our eyes. Elsewhere is worse than ever.

As I continue to walk, I ask myself where can I go to escape this horror. The answer…

I escape when I listen to Beethoven and Mozart and write my stories. I escape when I close my eyes each night because I never remember a dream or a nightmare. A good flick and a great read is an espcape… but I cannot escape the truth. And, the truth is blinding. Life has changed and it is putting me in a funk.

As I continue on my walk I think: I could escape to Sanara Camp in Nothern Kenya where people and animals live in harmony. And work in a productive way. I daydream that I could lead a grandmother march with other women over the age of 50, 60, 70, 80, and older across our Country. With enthusiasm, we would say, “Enough!” If I could, I would.

Leading a grandmother march would power- up my enthusiasm and I believe grandmothers would make a difference. But that is a dream. I find myself smiling for a moment.

BRINGING BACK THE LIGHT

Honey Good Shopping

It is Friday. My day. No work. As I mentioned, I am on my way to meet one of my close friends for lunch. As I dressed today. I looked at my beautiful handbags sitting on shelves collecting dust. I thought to myself that I wish I would sling one of them over my shoulder and walk Michigan Ave with attitude.

As I near the restaurant, I pick up my gait. I am eager for conversation with my wise friend. I wonder what I will learn from her today, and this brings excitement and some feelings of enthusiasm. I hear laughter and voices!

Over lunch, I decide I will bequeath myself with a feeling of joy. I am determined to squeeze joy out of our lunch date as if it was the last drop in the mustard container! I feel my face lose its frown. Behind me is the tragic scene of my demoralized city and neighborhood and I’ve now entered a scene of hope.

After lunch with my over 50 friend I know I have to create a new personal pathway in a saddened unenthusiastic world to unpackage my lost enthusiasm. I am angry the new normal puts pressure on me and on you.

As I walk the long walk home I devise a plan, in my head…

I look inward to winning back my victorious attitude aka, enthusiasm.

My new mantra:

“I will not simmer in ineffectiveness. I will reawaken my spirit, my enthusiasm.”

6 WAYS I WILL REAWAKEN MY SPIRIT

Honey looking out of her office window

1. THRIVE AT HOME

Home enlivens enthusiasm. Home is:

  • Talking and watering plants.
  • Listening to Mozart and Beethoven.
  • Filling a vase with water and fresh flowers.
  • Peering into organized closets.
  • My pooch, America, and his licks.
  • Opening the fridge stocked full of colorful avocados, vine-ripened tomatoes, fresh corn on the cobb, and large shrimp.
  • Photographs of family, sentimental presents and heirlooms.
  • Living with my favorite colors.
  • Reading texts from a grand or a friend, reading books.
  • Hearing laughter, having faith, and feeling grateful.
  • My Ultimate Concierge, who is all around me.

My home furnishes me with enthusiasm.

2. CREATE

Tap into daily positive thoughts.

3. CULTIVATE

Cultivate friendships with enthusiastic people. Like measles, they are highly infectious and contagious!!!

4. SPRING FORWARD

Spring into forward. we move our clocks forward; move yourself forward. When life throws you lemons, make lemonade.

5. ATTITUDE

Attitude is latitude. An enthusiastic attitude works miracles. It isn’t a miracle fix like Miracle Grow. You have to harness the concept, you have to ignite your rugged mental attitude.

6. PROBLEM SOLVE

Problems cause confusion, are overwhelming and are not solved quickly.
Stay calm, use your head, make a list, seek the advice of trusted people, and stay on track.
Lean into keeping an enthusiastic mindset and you will have a positive outcome.

MY CHOSEN COURSE OF ACTION FOR ENTHUSIASM

Sounds corny but it is ‘my corny.’

I miss my father every day of my life. When I was a teen he told me a fact and a story. Why I have never forgotten his words I haven’t a clue ( maybe we are soul mates.) I suppose even as a teen I felt they were profound.

On one occasion he said, “I always dreamed of being a gentleman farmer. I would have but Mom would not hear of it.”

On another occasion: “When I was a young boy I would take off my shoes and socks to walk in the dew on the golf course. The feeling I felt on the bottom of my feet was godly.”

THEREFORE…

I am going to have a greater relationship with the forces and wonders of nature because nature and her gifts make me constantly aware of growth and power. This new act of awareness will propel me into enthusiastic action. I am smiling with enthusiasm. Amen.

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April 5, 2023

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  1. Maggie says:

    Your posts are always wonderful Honey. But this one is excellent. Thank you for putting the words to paper. Enthusiasm was once a natural state for me. It seems almost inconceivable that one must now work so hard to grasp something that was so natural.

    Best regards

    • Susan Good says:

      I agree. Natural enthusiasm is no longer in the air in our Country; therefore it is hard to feel it when it is everywhere. It will return. Warmly, Honey

  2. Dana O’Hara Cowdrey says:

    I cannot tell you how you hit the nail on the head of exactly how I have been feeling and could not pinpoint why I’ve been so off.
    I lost my Mom a month ago who embodied enthusiasm. I am going to try and harness some of her magic into my daily life. Thank you.

  3. Vikki Hemrich says:

    Wonderful perspective!! I struggle with this apathy too and my spirits have soared after reading this and knowing I’m not alone. I will refocus on my beautiful, peaceful home. Thank you, Honey!

  4. Sarah says:

    Such good thoughts and so timely. I can feel myself slipping into a nothing lifestyle so easily. My husband passed away in February and it would be so easy to sit at home and read or do nothing. This gives me a push to feel and try to make a new path for myself even at 79.

    • Susan Good says:

      Push! Push! Push! You can do it!!! I am sad for your loss. Did you join our private face book group, Widowhood? Think about it. They really engage. Warmly, Honey

  5. B. Brandt says:

    I hope that you do the Grandmother March. I’d join you.

  6. Carolyn Baum says:

    You said it just enough,and you said it bravely.
    Have a good Passover.

  7. Melody says:

    I would help organize a grandmothers’ march in a minute. I am so frustrated that so many feel like you, and I, but no one seems to want to take it on. I will help you.

    • Susan Good says:

      I am smiling. I am afraid for our safety in this world, though I do believe we would make a difference. If I change my mind, I will call on you for help. I could never forget the beautiful name, Melody. Warmly, Honey

  8. Kat says:

    Great uplifting message. I believe in this crazy world we inhabit we surely need to tap into enthusiasm. Thank you for sharing. Kat in Arizona

  9. Maria says:

    What an uplifting post, Honey. We all need this type of reboot to continue enjoying our lives. Thank you.

  10. Cec says:

    This one is definitely a “keeper” for my saved files.
    I agree totally with you. I have an underlying sadness at what our country has become. But as fast as it turned, it can also turn back. So I am hopeful and prayerful. In the meantime, like you, I meet my lady friends for lunches, talk and our own little therapy sessions. Love it! And this camaraderie keeps us uplifted. There is much to be grateful for and excited about. We can’t let the craziness get us down. Thank you for a lovely blog, as always xxxooo

    • Susan Good says:

      You are very welcome. I love your sentence: “But as fast as it turned, hit can also turn back.” Warmly, Honey

  11. Gina says:

    Oddly enough, my husband and I were talking about this at lunch today. Our world has changed in such a rapid manner since Covid, it was changing, but that whole disturbing event put it in a strangely fast forward motion. Some of the changes had nothing to do with a virus. I’m 66 and have never thought of the things I think about today. Home is definitely where my heart is, my refuge. This article was me. Thank you for nudging me to not give in or give up.

  12. Sandrala says:

    Dear Honey,
    I am so blessed! I was born with a natural “joie de vivre.” Was born Cajun — altho I did not know that as a kid. Can really relate to the challenge of having enthusiasm in our society right now; you give an apt description. I still believe, tho, that we can make a difference — one individual at a time. OK to smile at people — Remember the old adage: “It makes people wonder what you’re up to” & gives them a warm feeling aside, makes for a “ripple effect” where they might just pass it on. Have a dynamite day, all of you beautiful (regardless of age) women!!

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