Why We Feel Stuck
It’s not easy to grow when you are stuck! Trust me, I know. I have been there. I also know from personal experience it is very important to always “grow your world.”
You are very aware when you feel stuck. You are just not happy. Don’t punish yourself but do not feel sorry for yourself. You may be feeling the pangs of an unhappy marriage, possibly you are lonely; you moved to another community or you are a new empty-nester.
Maybe you are busy but are bored with your busyness. You have no clue what you want to do for satisfaction and gratification. You retired. Or you are lonely for your friends at work and your daily schedule. You want to “grow” and transition but you are stuck. You want to “razzle up your dazzle” but find it difficult especially at this stage of life over 50. Well darling, don’t despair.
I Have Been There Too…
I have been in your shoes. If you are lonely for friendship or looking for love, it is difficult to find a new path. When you are in a bad marriage or unhappy in the workplace or have serious family issues it is normal to feel trapped. If you are widowed, the transition from togetherness to aloneness is transformational. And, some of you become frozen. Some of you don’t care and you should. And, some say, I want to get unstuck but I need a little help from a friend.
It is for your physical and mental wellbeing to grow when you are stuck. Look upon this as a new and exciting chapter in your life. It may be making new friends, meeting a new beau, starting a new career, learning a new hobby, moving to a new city or a new home, and even a positive rebirth in a soured family relationship. I have a feeling you are already feeling better. I hope so.
How To Grow When You Are Stuck
It begins with your attitude. A good life is about a woman’s positive attitude.
“I grow when I get stuck because I have “attitude”… a positive attitude! My attitude is part spirit, part courage, part style. It is my “my Moxie” and I own it.
Now write yours. It does not have to be positive if you are feeling negative. It has to be an honest assessment so you can grow. But, I would like you to end your statement on a positive note.
We All Have the Opportunity To Grow
BE A WOMAN OF ACTION. Don’t get stuck in inaction. Passivity and procrastination are so restrictive. Take baby steps, darling. One little step leads to another little step and these little steps lead to progress.
BE A WOMAN WHO IS POSITIVE. A positive thinking woman changes things when things aren’t working. How? She stops making excuses.
BE A WOMAN WHO IS FEARLESS. A forward-thinking woman does not allow fear to stand in the way of her goals. Fear defeats more women from starting something new than anything else.
BE A WOMAN WITH A GOAL. Women who make excuses never excel at anything. Why? They never get started! Remember to say to yourself over and over again, “I am capable.”
BE A WOMAN WHO CREATES FOR HERSELF. Don’t get stuck in trying to prove your worth to others. Prove your worth to yourself. Create your own life.
BE A WOMAN WITH A MANTRA. My priority is to grow. I will focus on my goal and work on it until I catch it.
The easiest way to grow is when you have 100% control of a situation. I am a pro at that, thank God.
My problem is how to grow when you have no control over a situation, a situation that is affecting your happiness. I know the answer: I have to learn to coexist. I am in the process of learning how.
Before I tell you my dilemma I want you to know I am grateful for my family’s good health, food on their table, and a roof over their heads. I am grateful for my soul mate, feeling loved, being busy, my pooch, and good health.
I am not happy about being controlled. Period.
It is May 16th. I am, thank God, home in my apartment in the sky. From my window on the 71st floor, I stare out the windows. I can see it is going to be a beautiful Spring day. My computer clock reads 6:23 am. I am in bed. America is lying at my feet. My Ultimate Concierge is asleep with his hand resting on my leg. Tomorrow is my birthday, my day, my special day, and instead of looking forward to celebrating I am totally miserable. Yes, darlings, I am in a funk because I have lost control over my life and I am a realist, not a gloom and doomer, I see no end in sight. The days on my March, April, and May calendar are blank. My life has been put on hold and I see no respite from this plague I named, Misery.
Misery Is the Name of The Game
I have lost control of living my life on my terms. I miss seeing a person’s smile behind a mask. When will I be able to socialize with my family and friends in the manner I choose? When will I be able to kiss our grandchildren and our children? I know I will always have to take off my shoes at airport security and now I see a sign that says, “Take off your shoes; leave on your mask!”
Will I ever get to laugh with my manicurist, ever travel again and meet people from different countries from around the world, try new restaurants? I have lost control of my life. They even canceled my colonoscopy!
Yes, I am in a terrible funk. I have lead a charmed life because I once upon a time in America had my freedom to choose my lifestyle. But, I am a mixed bag of negative fillings. I am part sadness, part disbelief, part anger, and part fear.
I will not deny my feelings. To deal with feelings is healthy and positive. I have the responsibility to figure out “my way” to co-exist with this Pandemic, the political leaders in my state, and a national government who is more concerned with getting rid of a President then taking care of its citizens. I know this practice will add value to my life and help me grow.
Darlings, I just reread what I wrote. I actually without knowing it gave you a start. A tutorial. I am smiling.
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