This story on how to grow when you feel stuck, was updated March, 2023.

It’s not easy to grow when you are stuck! Trust me, I know. I have been there. I also know from personal experience it is very important to always “grow your world.”

How to Grow When Feeling Stuck

You are very aware when you feel stuck. Often, the emotional experience is deeply felt, making it hard to ignore or dismiss. You are just not happy. Don’t punish yourself but do not feel sorry for yourself. You may be feeling the pangs of an unhappy marriage, possibly you are lonely, (read my post on how to stop loneliness from becoming a habit) you moved to another community, or you are a new empty-nester.

Many people have felt stuck at some point in their lives, unsure of how to move forward. Maybe you are busy but are bored with your busyness. You have no clue what you want to do for satisfaction and gratification. Sometimes, feeling stuck can leave you confused about your next steps or what truly brings you joy. You retired. Or you are lonely for your friends at work and your daily schedule. You want to “grow” and transition but you are stuck. You want to “razzle up your dazzle” but find it difficult, especially at this stage of life over 50. Well darling, don’t despair.

I grow when I get stuck because I have “attitude”… a positive attitude! My attitude is part spirit, part courage, part style. It is my “my Moxie” and I own it.

Remember, sometimes your circumstances—such as changes in your environment or life stage—can contribute to feeling stuck, but your response and mindset can make all the difference.

I Have Been There Too…

I have been in your shoes. If you are lonely for friendship or looking for love, it is difficult to find a new path. When you are in a bad marriage or unhappy in the workplace or have serious family issues it is normal to feel trapped. If you are widowed, the transition from togetherness to aloneness is transformational. I remember when my own journey toward change began; it was a moment of realization that things could be different. And, some of you become frozen. Some of you don’t care and you should. And, some say, I want to get unstuck but I need a little help from a friend. Sometimes, you need a gentle push to break free from that stuck feeling and start moving forward.

It is for your physical and mental wellbeing to grow when you are stuck. Begin by taking one small step, no matter how minor, to initiate change. Look upon this as a new and exciting chapter in your life. Moving forward, each step you take will help you regain momentum and build confidence. It may be making new friends, meeting a new beau, starting a new career, learning a new hobby, moving to a new city or a new home, and even a positive rebirth in a soured family relationship. I have a feeling you are already feeling better. I hope so.

Remember, getting unstuck is a challenge, but it is also an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

Causes of Feeling Stuck

Feeling stuck is something we all experience at different points in our lives. Sometimes, it sneaks up on us when we least expect it—after a big change like starting a new job, or when we realize our days are filled with routines that no longer bring us joy. Often, the root of feeling stuck lies in a lack of personal growth or a work life balance that’s out of sync. When we’re not growing, it’s easy to feel stagnant, as if we’re standing still while the world moves forward.

Unrealistic expectations can also play a role. We might feel guilty for not achieving more, or lost when our lives don’t match the stories we tell ourselves about where we “should” be. This can leave us feeling completely stuck, unsure of how to take the first step toward change. Sometimes, even positive changes—like a new job or a new chapter in life—can trigger these feelings, especially if we haven’t taken time for self care or to reflect on what truly matters to us.

The good news is that recognizing these causes is the beginning of breaking free. When we become aware of what’s holding us back, we can start to focus on what we need for our own growth. Whether it’s making time for ourselves, reevaluating our priorities, or simply acknowledging our feelings, each small step is progress. Remember, darling, you have the power to create a life that feels fulfilling and forward-moving—one honest moment at a time.

How To Grow When You Are Stuck

It begins with your attitude. A good life is about a woman’s positive attitude. It’s about viewing life through rose-colored glasses, which is what I like to do!

“I grow when I get stuck because I have “attitude”… a positive attitude! My attitude is part spirit, part courage, part style. It is my “my Moxie” and I own it.

Now write yours. It does not have to be positive if you are feeling negative. It has to be an honest assessment so you can grow. Embracing the truth about your feelings and situation is essential for real self-awareness and progress. As you write, brainstorm ideas for personal growth and consider how each idea might open new possibilities for you. Reflecting on a new idea can help you see different paths forward. Building confidence in your abilities is key to moving ahead and overcoming self-doubt. Take this opportunity to explore new options and pathways that could lead to meaningful change. But, I would like you to end your statement on a positive note.

The Impact of Work Life Balance

Work life balance isn’t just a trendy phrase—it’s a cornerstone of personal growth and happiness. When our lives tip too far in one direction, whether it’s all work and no play or too much free time without purpose, we can quickly find ourselves feeling stuck. The energy we pour into our jobs or daily responsibilities can leave us drained, with little left for the things and people that bring us joy.

On the flip side, having too much unstructured time can make us feel lost, as if we’re floating without direction. That’s why it’s so important to create habits that support both our ambitions and our well-being. Prioritizing self care, setting boundaries, and allowing ourselves regular breaks can help us recharge and stay focused on what truly matters.

A strong support system—friends, family, or even a close friend who listens—can make all the difference when we’re facing challenges. They remind us that we’re not alone, and their encouragement can help us regain control and move forward, even when progress feels slow. By being mindful of our work life balance, we give ourselves the space to grow, to reflect, and to create a life that feels vibrant and meaningful. Remember, darling, you deserve a life that’s not just busy, but beautifully balanced.

We All Have the Opportunity for Personal Growth

BE A WOMAN OF ACTION. Don’t get stuck in inaction. Passivity and procrastination are so restrictive. The struggle to overcome obstacles is a normal part of growth, and everyone faces struggles along the way—you’re not alone. Take baby steps, darling. One little step leads to another little step and these little steps lead to progress. Sometimes, pushing yourself forward is necessary, but remember to take a break for reflection and rest to recover and recharge. If you feel afraid, acknowledge your fears and use them as motivation to move forward. Focus on the outcome you desire and start today—don’t wait for the perfect moment. Be aware of your present moment habits and track your progress each week. If you notice a lack thereof in your progress, reflect and adjust your approach. Remember, what matters most is your growth and well-being. Serve others as a way to grow and become a new person through your journey. Even if it feels like your struggles will last forever, know that change is possible. If you fall into negative routines, practice taking care of yourself and prioritize self-care. Express yourself creatively—writing short stories can be a powerful tool for growth. Consider practical matters like money when planning your next steps, and put your thoughts on paper to gain clarity and direction.

BE A WOMAN WHO IS POSITIVE. A positive thinking woman changes things when things aren’t working. How? She stops making excuses.

BE A WOMAN WHO IS FEARLESS. A forward-thinking woman does not allow fear to stand in the way of her goals. Fear defeats more women from starting something new than anything else.

BE A WOMAN WITH A GOAL. Women who make excuses never excel at anything. Why? They never get started! Remember to say to yourself over and over again, “I am capable.”

BE A WOMAN WHO CREATES FOR HERSELF. Don’t get stuck in trying to prove your worth to others. Prove your worth to yourself. Create your own life.

BE A WOMAN WITH A MANTRA. My priority is to grow. I will focus on my goal and work on it until I catch it.

Choice Is the Name of The Game

The easiest way to grow is when you have 100% control of a situation. I am a pro at that, thank God.

My problem is how to grow when you have no control over a situation, a situation that is affecting your happiness. I know the answer: I have to learn to coexist. I am in the process of learning how. Sometimes, it’s just what we perceive about the situation, not the situation itself, that holds us back.

When I am feeling frustrated or upset, I focus on what I have. It makes no sense to pretend things away. I am grateful for my family’s good health, food on their table, and a roof over their heads. And I am grateful for my soul mate, feeling loved, being busy, my pooch, and good health.

Yes, I like to live on the sunny side of the street and make lemonade out of lemons, but it is helpful to acknowledge feelings of unhappiness. Many people feel stuck in life at times, and recognizing this is the first step toward moving forward. Then you can accept them, and move on knowing you are making a choice to grow out of it.

I will not deny my feelings. To deal with feelings is healthy and positive. I have the responsibility to figure out “my way.” I know this practice will add value to my life and help me grow.

Darlings, I just reread what I wrote. I actually without knowing it gave you a start. A tutorial. I am smiling. In the wake of feeling stuck, there is often a new sense of clarity and motivation to move forward.

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