My goal is to help you create a lifestyle of positivity and possibility. I am smiling!

– Warmly, Honey

How fairies brought me comfort and hope this week

I have always been in love with fairies, a small imaginary being in the form of a woman with magical powers. In human form, I know of one fairy… my mother. She guarded and protected me and taught me my values. Her personality, her mindset, is etched within me for eternity. At age 96, I fear the end may be near. She was released from the hospital just a few days ago. She had pneumonia.

Last night we talked. She pointed to a small white fairy who holds a sign that reads: “Mothers are like angels on earth!” I remember the day, years ago, I excitedly gave it to her and watched as she hung it on a hinge on her television cabinet where it has fluttered suspended in space all these years. She told me it was her favorite gift from me.

During the course of our conversation I told my mother I was leaving for our home in California within the next few days, but would travel back to Chicago, monthly, to visit.

I said to her as I say each year, “Mom, you have to wait for me.”

In the past she has always responded, “I will wait.”

Last night she said, “I will try but cannot promise.”

My heart sank as tears welled up in my eyes and I said again, “Mom, you have to wait for me.”

Her eyes caught sight of the little white fairy and she said, “Hopefully the power of my magical fairy and the red string you tied around my wrist will guard and protect me.” She smiled. Her smile gave me strength.

But we both knew.

She then changed the subject and inquired about my day.

I told her I connected with two women strangers because of my love of fairies and began to tell her the story…

Fairies at the hospital

My husband had a doctor’s appointment. We walked up to the information booth to ask the floor.

I said to the woman behind the counter, “I love the fairy you are wearing on your lapel. She is beautiful.” The fairy was made of silver and designed to appear flying.

She was taken aback and replied, “I wear it every day and you are the first person to ever make a comment. Thank you.” I smiled, said good bye and we walked away to the elevator bank.

After the doctor examined my husband, he wanted him to take a test. He said, “You will have to take it in California because I am sure you will not get an appointment in the next three days.” I did not like what I heard so when we left I told my husband I was going to try and arrange for him to take the test. You know my saying, darlings: If you do not try, you will never know.

There were several cubicles with women sitting behind desks. I sat down at one. The young woman behind the desk was from India and I would guess in her 40s. She had a beautiful engaging smile and was wearing a fairy. I couldn’t believe it and said, “I love your fairy. You are the second woman today that I have seen wearing a fairy.”

She replied, “I have worn this fairy every day for four years because I had surgery three times for brain cancer.”

I looked at her and said, “I understand how you feel. I had two surgeries for lung cancer and surgery for a melanoma. “

With that our outstretched hands reached for one another across her desk and with our hands entwined and tears ran down our cheeks she said, “Thank you so much for understanding.”

We talked about her for a while; my husband got an appointment and then I showed her my red string and said, “I wear my red Kabbalah string to guard and protect me. May I come back and tie a red string around your wrist to guard and protect you?”

“You would do that for me? Oh, yes, I would be ever so grateful,” she replied with a huge smile.

“I would be happy too,” I said, smiling back.

We both got up from our chairs, reached over her desk and hugged one another and said our good byes, until my return.

As I walked away I felt empowered and grateful for the capacity to be able to connect and feel for others; even a complete stranger. Darlings, the experience with this young woman was one of my most enriching experiences.

My mother loved my story and told me there were not enough words in the dictionary to describe how much she loved me.

I am not a very happy camper leaving my mother for California. As I left her apartment, I remembered one of her lessons: “Your husband always comes first.” I saw flashbacks of my mother and father’s love affair. They always put one another first.

It is interesting the effect that fairies have on me. I am not going to question why. My answer is…just because.

  1. Dear Honey,
    Oh my, this is so beautiful and real. I nearly cried with grief for my own mother who has passed. Your story also reminds me how precious my husband of 47 years is. I don’t have a fairy to wear but I believe I have always carried her in my heart. Thank you for reminding me she is still there.

  2. Dear Honey, this is your best story. So much meaning expressed in a few words. Travel safely and .take care of yourself and Shelly.

  3. Fairies are tiny angels who lighten our hearts & stir our souls. We only glimpse them briefly as they fly in & out of the corners of our field of vision. Dashes of light, filled with the exuberance of life & the essence of courage & the brightness of love.

    Value your glimpses because they lead to an understanding that all things are connected in this universe of being and life goes on in many, many ways … we remain connected before we are, as we are, and when we leave on new adventures for our souls … as bright little lights dancing our way thru the cosmos together forever in love & memory from beginning to end to beyond imagining…

    These are the blessings of tiny fairy angels who wander thru time & space to please, to treasure, to connect us with love. Forever.

    1. What a heartfelt message. Thank you, Allison. I value my love of fairies just as you do. We are lucky. Warmly, Honey

  4. Thanks Honey for sharing your story about fairies. I love your blog and I look forward to reading it every day.
    Your story was so heartwarming and I felt the love you have for your mother and husband. I am really tired tonight … because I worked from 3 P.M. to 10 P.M. but I cannot go to sleep until I write you a short note.

    My dearest friend Ollie who was in his 80’s would often tell me
    everything will be o.k.
    We talked about everything in life. My husband was a close friend to Ollie as well.
    Our darling Ollie passed away peacefully and well I will never forget his words, Evertything will be o.k.
    I hope you can find comfort with those words, because it is true.
    I feel your sadness leaving your mom today to go to Cailfornia. I hope your husband is o.k.
    Lots of Love and Hugs,
    Ginny Baker

    1. Thank you for taking your time when you are so tired to email me your message. Ollie is right, everything will be OK. I do find comfort in his words and your caring. Have a nice day. Warmly, Honey

  5. Honey your story affected me deeply; what an amazing experience to connect like that with a complete stranger! Surely the angels were watching over both of you.
    My heart also breaks for you, facing the reality of losing your mother. I’m sure you know how fortunate you are to have had her with you for such a long time, but it is never long enough is it? I lost my precious mother 15 years ago at the age of 84, and never a day goes by that I don’t think of her and long to be with her again, even if for only a short time.

    1. There is nothing like our mothers. We carry their values in our heads; therefore they are never really gone. Thank you for writing to me. Thank you for your kind words. Warmly, Honey

    1. The day was a wonderful day for me. I am going back tomorrow to tie the red string around her wrist. I am glad you enjoyed my story. Warmly, Honey

  6. I look forward every day to reading your blog, but, never felt compelled to respond until today. I loved the story of the fairies and your mom. It actually brought tears to my eyes. I really connected to this touching story. I also love fairies, but, I lost my mom 14 years ago at the age of 89. You are blessed to still have her in your life.

    1. Hi Diane, thank you for writing to me. I am most appreciative. I am blessed to have my mother and very grateful. Please continue our back and forth correspondence when the mood strikes you. I love reading and responding. Warmly Honey

  7. Dear Honey,
    I read every one of your articles and they have taught me lessons, consoled me and made me think deeper thoughts. Yet I have never commented before. THIS one took me to a place I have been avoiding yet tormented by.
    My 88 year old mother has decided to return home to Chicago after 1o years in Texas and repeated efforts to bring her back. ” I am not ready” has been her mantra. That has now changed to “it’s time and I’m ready”. I too am saying “wait for me”.
    Thank you Honey for reaching into my thoughts and my heart with this story. I will keep your mom in my prayers.

  8. I am praying for you and your mom as you spend time away for one another. A saving grace that you have is that you have been intentional with voicing your love for your mother and she knows how much she means to you. I lost my mother quite suddenly at the age of 32 and she 56, while on a trip together with my not-quite two year old daughter along. It was heartbreaking, but I had no regrets. My mother knew how much she was loved by me and what she meant to me. Twenty seven years later, she continues to be the best part of my heart. “God is good ALL the time and all the time Ike God IS good!”

    1. I am glad you have no regrets. I loved that you used the word intentional. It is so strong and meaningful. I will use it when I write. I am sorry you lost your mom but glad you have no regrets. You were a good daughter. Warmly, Honey

  9. Your story of Fairies and you Mom warmed my heart. My Mom is also 96 and having many medical issues. She tells me she prays to die in her sleep. I tell her her work here on earth must not be over yet…more family events are upcoming. There will be a great grandson’s wedding in March 2018 and the birth of another great-great grandchild later that same month. Each event wants her presence. But, I , too, fear, it may not be.

    I pray your Mom and your Orchid give you more happy months or years.

  10. Honey, I loved your fairy story. I too have always thought fairies are special. Although I don’t know anyone who wears one, I hope that someday someone bestows a Kabbalah bracelet on me as well.
    Thank you for your inspiration, your thoughtfulness, your honesty and your dedication to, not only women of a certain age, but all women.

  11. Beautiful Post…You are such a determined woman. You are also one that seems to make progress & get things done with compassion & thoughtfulness. I love that you approach and reach out to people that you don’t know. I feel assured that Your Mother will wait for You!!!

    1. I am determined. You are right. And compassionate because both feel good and both feel right. Thank you for your good wishes about my mom. I am most appreciative. Warmly, Honey

  12. Heart warming story which now makes my Swarovski fairy hanging from the rear view mirror in my car all the more meaningful. Thank you!

  13. Dear Honey, we have our connections through fairies…I still have our fairy bracelets charm …remember? I send loving thoughts to your very beautiful mom..She is an earth angel.I know how difficult it must have been to say goodbye this time… your writing is so Betty

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