My goal is to help you create a lifestyle of positivity and possibility. I am smiling!

– Warmly, Honey

Ask Honey – Advice For Women Over 50 (February 13, 2020)

Women Helping Women

Hello Darlings, 

We are a walking encyclopedia of knowledge on many topics but obviously not on all. Darlings, keep this thought in your head when you fear to reach out to another person for suggestions. Remember, Einstein and Jonas Salk were not pros on every subject matter either.

I think women should ponder why they hold their questions close to their chest when they are craving an answer to a deep problem or a solution to a question that can motivate them into action. Are you embarrassed to ask because you feel foolish? Do you feel you are demeaning yourself by reaching out? Please don’t. A GRANDWOMAN would rather feel vulnerable so she can live into her answer.

Women naturally have some fear of reaching out, but a wise woman takes steps forward into positive terrain. She does not allow fear to outweigh discovery.

A GRANDWOMAN with moxie also holds out her hand to another woman in need. She gives her time because she remembers when another woman held out her hand to her. She is a kind, caring and loving woman and is wise to know: women need women. February is the month of love. Helping other women is good for our souls.

Warmly, Honey

 

Ask Honey – Advice For Women Over 50

February 13, 2020

 

Meryl Asks:

Dear Honey,

I became a widow one and a half years ago. I am 59 years young and would like to meet a new partner. I have been on the online dating sites and its just exhausting. Any good advice for me? Should I hire a matchmaker?
Thanks so much.

Best,
Meryl

Dear Meryl,

Matchmaker, matchmaker make me a match…

It is a coincidence that you are asking me if you should hire a matchmaking service. I don’t often notice an ad on television and last week I did. It was a matchmaking company advertisement and it caught my eye because the visuals, the colors, the woman sitting behind her desk and the words appealed to my senses. It reeked professionalism and quality. I believe the agency’s name is, It’s Just Lunch

To help you with your decision I googled It’s Just Lunch and I suggest you do the same. It is a long and extremely interesting and informative article and I was very impressed. The company is 28-years-old and ranked 4.1/5 stars by the Better Business Bureau. The costs are determined by the package of your choice and range from $2,000-$5,000. 

What would I do? I would prefer meeting someone of my dreams through someone I know. I would bide my time but not sit home waiting for my phone to ring. I would actively involve myself in community activities and groups that interested me because one never knows who one may meet.

After an allotted time and no success and a deep desire to have a loving companion I would phone a first-class matchmaking company, It’s Just Lunch for a free 30-minute consult. If I came away from the call with a very positive feeling about investing my time and money I probably would take the leap because it is not only difficult to meet a man, it is difficult to meet the right man!  So excitedly I would say to myself: Matchmaker, matchmaker make me a match…

Of course, it is a gamble. There is no way of knowing your investment will pay off unless you take the plunge. I don’t think you are throwing your time or money away. You are going to a top-ranked company with 28-years of experience behind their belt who know how to make a match! 

You have determined you want a meaningful relationship with a partner. So, if you can afford the investment and your comfort level feels right after you have read their article, pick up the phone and call your matchmaker!

If you are in a quandary over investing the amount of money required, think twice before you answer one. You are investing in a lifestyle you miss very much. You are investing in yourself. You are worth the investment.  

Please keep me in the loop. Good luck if you decide to entertain a new adventure!

Warmly,
Honey

 


 

Lulu Asks:

Dear Honey,

Will I ever find a man that will tolerate my crazy self? Remember I am 82… 

Thank you, Honey.

– Lulu

Dear Lulu,

With a great name like LuLu and the upbeat way you posed your question, I don’t see how you can go wrong with your ‘spark’ finding ‘your kinda guy.’ I imagine you to be a woman who loves life and misses sharing life with a partner. Nothing good happens by accident so you will have to do your homework. 

In order to meet someone, you have to put yourself out there. Search your community for mixed groups that peek your fancy. A dancing group? A mixed bridge group? A Solo Senior Travel Group that cruises would be fantastic… or online dating sites, volunteer groups, and don’t forget multigenerational groups and Senior Citizen centers.

You have to do some research but here are a few starters!

Online Dating Sites:

SilverSingles.com is an exclusive 50 plus community. They check the validity of sign-ups for you. Their goal is to help you make genuine interesting connections between genuine interesting people. The site is very supportive! Don’t worry if you are not in sync with technology. They are hands-on for you. I read from start to finish about Silver Singles. I think it’s worth your while to do the same and then make a personal decision about taking action.

OurTime.com is the largest dating network for singles over the age of 50. Their goal is to help seniors find love, friendship, and romance. The cost for a six-month membership is $106.00 or $4.00 a month. I read all the information on OurTime.com and I do suggest you read it as well.

If you are a traveler, consider taking a solo cruise on the sea for Senior Citizens. Don’t forget River Cruises down the Danube or Thames Rivers in Europe. Of course, let’s not forget our wonderful USA and travel down the Mississippi on American Cruise Line. Explore new sites and make new friends. Here are two travel sites and two river cruise lines to explore for yourself. 

gadventures.com: A travel site for seniors

Vikingrivercruises.com: A river cruise line

AmaWaterways.com: A river cruise line 

Roadscholar.org: Educational travel for adults

LuLu, now you are on your own. I have 100% confidence that you are a curious upbeat woman who will dive right into some of the suggestions and make a plan to meet that crazy partner who will adore your craziness.

Warmly,
Honey

 


 

Nancy Asks: 

Dear Honey,

I am on a very tight budget but love your skincare products… which are expensive. As well as your jewelry and clothing… which are also expensive. I love your style. Please help!

– Nancy

Dear Nancy,

Thank you for the compliment. I think you will be pleasantly surprised when you discover a few of the products I use on my skin. 

Depending on your skin type (my skin is dry), here are three of my favorite products I use as a moisturizer. They are definitely inexpensive. You can buy them in your market of choice.  

  1. Water
  2. Coconut Oil 
  3. Olive Oil

Coconut Oil smells divine and makes my skin feel velvety soft, and Olive Oil was recommended by a doctor. 

Several years ago I was told by a famous skin specialist:

“Dear, remember when you walk into the makeup department of your favorite department store to buy products for your skin, the cost is in the packaging, the marketing.”

Today, products are more scientific, but the cost is also higher. I do use a department moisturizer also. 

The fourth product I have not used, but I did read up on the brand. It ranks high for skin over 50 plus. It is called Olay in the drug stores. I would try Total Effects 7, or Olay Regenerist, an anti-aging moisturizer with an SPF 25 sunscreen. Use an ultra-moisturizing body wash with shea butter as well. Lastly, ProX Microdermabrasion Plus Advanced Cleansing System for your skin. I would choose Olay over other companies. 

For makeup, I do love L’Oreal #4 Black mascara which you can purchase in all drugstores. As well, I know women who wear the Estee Lauder Double Wear Collection. The line is vast and will meet all of your needs and is relatively inexpensive. 

Clothing and jewelry do not have to be expensive. There are several very reasonable clothing, shoe, and accessory lines. My advice is to learn how to accessorize your outfits. A special belt, a special pair of shoes or boots, a cuff bracelet or diamond studs that are not the real McCoy. A scarf wrapped in a clever manner or a cross body red handbag. It is your style, not the cost of your clothes or accessories that makes a woman stand out in the crowd. 

Go shopping on a dime! You can do it! It will be fun. 

Hope this helped.

Warmly,
Honey

 


 

Lynn Asks:

Hi Honey!

Have you ever traveled solo? I’m 60 years young and most of my friends are married. I was widowed at age 45. I want to travel more without having to hope someone will want to see the same places. Any advice?

Thank you,
Lynn

Dear Lynn,

There are solo companies that cater to people over 50 plus.

There are all types of land trips, ocean trips and river cruises that will take you all over the world. There are University trips, cooking trips, African safari trips and there are multigenerational solo trips, too. Whatever you wish for you will find in one or more of these solo travel companies.

www.roadscholar.org is educational travel for adults. I have been told that on Road Scholar trips you become one of a family. It is a nonprofit. 

Here are a few more for you to look at: 

Backroads.com 

Vantagetravel.com 

Tripadvisor.com 

I hope you find an adventure for the summer. Keep me posted! 

Warmly,
Honey

We are all GRANDWOMEN with moxie, and we need to stick together. If you have a question for next week, please ask it in the form below.

 

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