Women Need Women – An Advice Column from Honey GoodNovember 12, 2019
Women need women. I say this all the time. And, I think women over 50 need women even more. I am here to give advice on everything I can – and that is a lot I hope.
We all share space with unresolved problems. Most problems we face in our lifetime remain unresolved at the moment, but are solvable. I call these unresolved, but solvable problems my ‘grey’ problems. Knowing how to coexist in a calm manner with your unresolved grey problems has great value. No one lives through a day without something irritating happening! Right, Darlings?! We also may have to coexist with problems and need the help of trusting friends.
“Once you are real you can’t become unreal again. It lasts for always.” – Margret Wallace
I believe a woman becomes real when she grows into her authenticity. This is a gradual process that takes living through a long list of life experiences to achieve. Over time we all have mountains to climb, and life lessons to learn. A woman becomes authentic when she feels a strong emotional freedom to be who she really is. It is the realization of trusting her wisdom based on what she knows is right with the knowledge of who she is and what makes her different from all the others that makes her a woman with authenticity.
Many of you have reached the serene state of authenticity. Many of you continue to search. However all of you face daily grey problems, and hopefully serious issues far less often. During these times you need a friend who understands another woman’s feelings because she has gone through the same or a similar situation.
I am a Problem Solver
I am a problem solver, and a good one. My expertise does not come from reading books or attending classes; my knowledge comes from living and learning. How to pick myself up and start all over again with a smile; that’s how I have learned.
As I look back to my childhood, my teen years, college and young married years, my mothering years, widowed and then newly married again years, blended family years, moving years, world travel years, facing illness years and my giving back years, there have been so many experiences. All of these have made me real; authentic.
I’ve been through suicide in my family. I have embraced and welcomed gay grands. I have survived widowhood, and handled failure. I’ve received my PhD in life. That is why I created HoneyGood.com. And now I’m starting a Thursday Thoughts column, where I want to answer specific questions from my Darlings.
I’ve gone through seeing other women feel invisible after 50, so let’s form lasting connections and get real. You can ask me anything – how to simplify your life, the importance of understanding others, how women feel when they retire, how to shop wisely, helping women find their way out of loneliness, the belief that age is just a number, financial security, how to pack and unpack wisely, how to buy good shoes, how to wear high heels with bunions, entertaining, the importance of multi-generational friendships and groups, learning boundaries, or how to juggle a marriage, a family and business career wisely.
My experience has given me the ability to answer your questions with honesty, sound advice and positivity. I would love you Darlings reading the column to write in with your opinions because two heads are often better than one.
The first Thursday Thoughts advice column will be this Thursday on my website, HoneyGood.com and on my Honey Good Facebook page. I have curated some recent comments and questions from the blog and social media
Please write your questions to me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I will personally answer each and every one with a straightforward answer, humor, a reality check and the compassion of a good friend. Women need women.