Everyone has at least one confident woman in her life. You know the type, right?  They leave a mark wherever they go. A bold and lasting impression. They have that je ne sais quoi.

No matter their age or body type, they have a style that you want to emulate. If you ask me, confidence is a style. A way of holding yourself. Confidence can make anything look good. Confidence is sexy. Society often sets standards for women, but confident women define their own style regardless of what society expects.

Are you that woman? Do people flock to your conversation?

If your answer is no, worry not. Feeling comfortable in your own skin is the foundation for building true confidence. Change and confidence don’t happen overnight—they happen gradually as you work on yourself. Even if you are shy or introverted, you can have confidence. First, consider the traits and habits that all confident women share. Next, examine what habits you share and which you might want to work on.

What Makes a Woman Truly Confident?

What sets confident women apart in a world that often tries to define them? A truly confident woman radiates self assurance, trusts her own abilities, and embraces a positive self image. She isn’t afraid to take up space, speak her mind, or pursue her dreams—even when life throws challenges her way. But here’s the important thing: true confidence isn’t something you’re simply born with. It’s cultivated over time, shaped by personal development, self reflection, and the lessons learned from life experiences. Every woman has the potential to become more confident, no matter her starting point. In this article, we’ll explore the habits and mindsets that help women build confidence, so you can step into your own power and live life on your terms.

Understanding the Confidence Gap

Have you ever noticed that many women, even the most accomplished, sometimes hesitate to speak up or doubt their own worth? This is often due to what experts call the confidence gap—a real difference in self esteem and self assurance between men and women. Studies show that women, especially in the workplace or leadership roles, tend to underestimate their abilities and second-guess themselves more than men do. This confidence gap isn’t just about individual feelings; it’s shaped by societal expectations, stereotypes, and a lack of visible role models. The good news? By understanding where the confidence gap comes from, women can start to challenge these patterns, build their confidence, and close the gap for themselves and others.

7 HABITS OF CONFIDENT WOMEN

#1. A CONFIDENT WOMAN SEEKS TO IMPROVE HERSELF

In my mind, the best trait someone can have is to understand that no matter how old they are or how educated, there is always more to learn. A confident woman understands this and seeks to learn and improve herself.

Easy ways to work toward self-improvement:

• Read inspiring books (both fiction and nonfiction)
• Listen to inspirational podcasts
• Read self-help books
• Read  biographies, and accounts of historical events
• Try writing in a journal or reflective writing to set goals and track your growth
• Apply the knowledge learned from books
• Surround yourself with women who inspire you

#2. A CONFIDENT WOMAN CAN ADMIT MISTAKES

The next hallmark of a confident woman is that she can admit mistakes. She knows what she knows and, more importantly, what she doesn’t. When she sees the error of her ways, she does not bury her head in the sand and pretend all is well. A confident woman will accept her mistake as an opportunity for growth, admit it without transferring blame, and make amends if possible.

#3. A CONFIDENT WOMAN IS A GOOD LISTENER (AND IS OPEN-MINDED)

Firstly, the best trait someone can have as a person is to understand that they are not the only one with something to say. She listens with the intention of taking in what her friend is saying. She does not only think of forming her response. A confident woman responds thoughtfully and seeks to add to a conversation, not just turn attention back on herself.

Secondly, a confident woman is open to changing her opinion. Confidence does not mean doubling down on a previously held notion. She can take in new information and apply it as needed — or not. This does not make her indecisive. On the contrary, it makes her purposeful.

#4. A CONFIDENT WOMAN SETS BOUNDARIES

The next habit that confident women share is that they create boundaries to protect their time and energy. She understands that her time is valuable and will not waver when someone tries to take advantage. This does not mean she is selfish or uncaring. She gives her time freely to the people and things that she cares about. However, she understands that her time is limited and she will not push herself for unworthy reasons. Setting boundaries is essential for maintaining her self worth.

This woman understands that in protecting her time, she is able to give herself wholly and with full attention when she is in the moment.

#5. A CONFIDENT WOMAN WILL TRY NEW THINGS

Another habit of confident women? They try new things. Confident women will not only stick to things that they are already good at. She is open to possibilities outside of what she knows. When an opportunity presents itself, she takes chances. Make a habit of saying yes to things that encourage growth.

Stepping outside your comfort zone and facing your fear can help you build the confidence to take bigger risks, leading to even greater personal growth.

#6. A CONFIDENT WOMAN IS AUTHENTIC TO HERSELF

A woman who is authentic to herself:

• Looks for meaningful connection
• Seeks to understand herself further through exploration and learning
• Leads by example
• Walks the walk
• Speaks well of others
• Compliments others authentically

Accepting oneself and one’s unique qualities is essential to being authentic, as it allows you to embrace who you are without judgment.

Authenticity is not just about your actions, but also about honoring your true feelings. Being genuine means acknowledging how you are feeling and letting that guide your words and behavior, rather than simply following trends or external expectations.

#7. A CONFIDENT WOMAN PRACTICES SELF-CARE

When you are in the habit of practicing self-care, you understand that it makes you a better mother, daughter, friend, and wife. You cannot give from an empty vessel. If you do not care for yourself, it is difficult to be steadfast in your convictions. It will be harder to set boundaries, to have the energy to explore new things. Simply put, it will make all of the other habits on this list harder to maintain.

Simple ways to practice self-care:

• Take a technology break
• Take a social media break (and/or set firm daily limits)
• Read books on self-care
• Get outside/ take a walk
• Dance to your favorite music
• Move your body (even if only for a few minutes)
• Have coffee with a friend
• Schedule regular activities that bring you joy and relaxation
• Prioritize rest and downtime
• Practice positive affirmations daily

Above all, a confident woman understands that tearing others down does not build her up. She is in the habit of giving compliments authentically and freely. A confident woman is there for other women, understanding that women need women.

The Power of Alone Time: Why Solitude Fuels Confidence

Spending time alone isn’t just a luxury—it’s a powerful tool for building confidence and self assurance. When you carve out moments of solitude, you give yourself space to process your feelings, reflect on your life, and reconnect with your true self. Alone time allows you to tune out the noise of the world and listen to your own instincts, helping you develop a deeper sense of who you are and what matters most. Confident women know that regular alone time is essential for personal growth and well being. By making solitude a priority, you strengthen your inner voice and create a solid foundation for confidence in every area of your life.

Overcoming Imposter Syndrome: Trusting Your Own Worth

If you’ve ever felt like you’re just “faking it” or that you don’t truly deserve your successes, you’re not alone. Imposter syndrome is a common experience, especially among women, and it can chip away at your confidence and self image. The inner critic might whisper negative self talk, making you question your own abilities and feel like you don’t belong. But here’s the truth: you are more capable than you think. To overcome imposter syndrome, start by recognizing those negative thoughts for what they are—just thoughts, not facts. Practice self compassion, celebrate your achievements, and remind yourself of your strengths. The more you trust your own worth, the more your confidence will grow.

Who You Surround Yourself With Matters

The company you keep can make all the difference in how you feel about yourself. Surrounding yourself with positive influences—people who support, encourage, and believe in you—can boost your self esteem and confidence. When you spend time with those who lift you up, you’re more likely to feel empowered and motivated to achieve your goals. On the other hand, negative or critical relationships can drain your energy and make you doubt your abilities. Confident women know the importance of building a supportive network and seeking out friendships that inspire growth and self love. Remember, you deserve to feel valued and appreciated—choose your circle wisely.

Building Resilience

Even the most confident women face setbacks and disappointments, but what sets them apart is their resilience. Resilience is the ability to bounce back from challenges, adapt to change, and keep moving forward with self assurance. It’s about learning from mistakes, practicing self care, and maintaining a positive outlook—even when things don’t go as planned. By developing resilience, you build a deep sense of confidence that isn’t shaken by temporary failures. Focus on what you can control, nurture your well being, and remember that every challenge is an opportunity for growth. With resilience, you can face whatever life brings with strength and confidence.

What habit of a confident woman stands out to you the most? Please share in the comments!