This is International Women’s Month. It is an opportunity to reach out to a friend in need with some tender loving care. Or a friend or family member who deserves some praise or a well-deserved compliment. There are many ways to do this. Lunch for two, a note in the mail, and even a token gift of appreciation for their friendship. How about a ‘just because’ note asking them how they are?

I loved living in Honolulu. Everything about life in the Islands suited me. The women in my life were from all over the world. My closest friends were from all over America. An eclectic group of all ages. I am still friendly with many. These women taught me lessons that I value to this day.

One of my closest friends was ten years older. She grew up in Kansas, moved to LA and then Honolulu. We would often take walks together. She did most of the talking. One day she discussed how much time and energy she put into her friendships. I never forgot her words.

“It is not easy to be a very good friend. It is a job. If you take this job seriously the pay is far beyond monetary.”

In the Islands it was easier to be a worthy friend. The Island’s natural mood was caressing. In today’s world, it is far harder. In the far-reaching communication world of today, there does not seem time to ‘just be.’ To enjoy the peace and laughter with women friends.

Ways To Support Women Before After 50: Women Need Women

It is necessary because women need women. And, now is a good time to begin your ritual of reconnecting with women you admire. Those who mirror you and who peak your fancy in meaningful ways.

The masks are off! We can see smiles and facial expressions. There is so much to catch up on. In midlife, women are often juggling all the things—responsibilities, emotions, and changes—that can feel overwhelming. Over the past two years, many women have felt lost or disconnected, and are now realizing how important it is to reconnect with others and themselves. Two years of living in fear, cooped up in our homes, and masked up when we ventured outdoors is over. As women step out of isolation, many are left wondering what comes next and how to move forward. For some, the weight of recent challenges has left them feeling broken, emotionally or mentally exhausted. Americans have spoken up. Now it is time to commit to the wonderful ‘job’ of rekindling your friendships.

This will take discipline because every job you undertake requires self-discipline. Reach out to a few women and support them. For many, being half way through life brings a moment of reflection on what has been accomplished and what still lies ahead. But remember… Reaching out can help women who have felt lost realize they are not alone on this journey. Decide for yourself how you want to move forward in this new chapter.

Support Networks

As women journey through life, the importance of a strong support network becomes ever more apparent. Whether you’re navigating the excitement of a new chapter or facing unexpected challenges, having friends, family, and like-minded women by your side can make all the difference. Many women find that these connections are the foundation of good health, mental health, and self esteem, helping them embrace life with confidence and joy.

Support networks do more than just offer a listening ear—they help us feel seen, valued, and understood. When we surround ourselves with positive, supportive people, we’re more likely to pursue our passions, make healthy choices, and maintain our physical health. The encouragement of friends and family can inspire us to try new things, break free from old patterns, and live a more fulfilling life.

At every age, women benefit from the sense of belonging that comes from being part of a caring community. These relationships can lift our spirits, boost our happiness, and remind us that we’re never alone on this journey. By nurturing our support networks, we empower ourselves and each other to live life to the fullest—embracing every moment, every feeling, and every opportunity for growth.

SOME WOMEN FIND COMPLIMENTS UNCOMFORTABLE

Last week I wrote a story on the importance of giving compliments to other women. Upon probing, I learned there are women who prefer not to receive a compliment and the reason why. Read my story on The Power of a Compliment

I was surprised yet not surprised. So often, women are told how they are supposed to feel about receiving compliments, as if there is a right or wrong way to respond. After all, when you don’t feel worthy of a compliment you may perceive the person extending the remark as speaking with a forked tongue. In other words, she is not authentic. But here is another thought. When we take the time to hear and truly listen to women’s experiences and stories, we can better understand the complexities behind accepting compliments. Being honest about our insecurities and feelings not only helps us accept compliments more genuinely, but also fosters deeper connections and trust with others.

Many women may have heard that accepting compliments is a sign of vanity or weakness, but embracing self-worth is an important step toward authenticity.

THE POWER OF MENTAL WELLBEING IN WOMEN’S COMMUNITIES

Mental health is at the heart of a fulfilling life, and nowhere is this more evident than in the communities women build together. As we move through different stages—whether juggling a new job, raising two kids, or embracing the wisdom that comes with age—our mental wellbeing shapes how we experience life and connect with others. Many women, especially those in their 50s and 60s, are redefining what it means to live their best life, focusing not just on physical health but also on self esteem, self care, and meaningful relationships.

In recent years, there’s been a powerful shift: more women are openly prioritizing their mental health. We’re learning that breaking bad habits, like neglecting our own needs, and replacing them with healthy routines—such as regular physical activity or moments of mindfulness—can make all the difference. Stepping outside your comfort zone, whether by trying a new activity or meeting new people, can foster personal growth and boost confidence. Exercise isn’t just about the body; it’s a proven way to reduce anxiety and depression, clear the mind, and boost happiness levels. Even a simple walk in nature or a few minutes of deep breathing can help us feel more grounded and at peace.

Job security and financial stability also play a big role in our sense of wellbeing. Many women in midlife face unique challenges and opportunities in their careers, from navigating job instability to seeking new professional growth. Knowing we can provide for ourselves and our families gives us the freedom to pursue our passions and embrace life’s challenges with confidence. However, concerns about money can create significant financial stress, impacting mental health and overall wellbeing. For many women, having more money would ease daily worries and provide a greater sense of security and possibility. And let’s not forget the power of a strong support system. Friends, family, and other women who truly understand us can lift us up during tough times and celebrate our victories, big or small.

Many women have realized that self care isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Whether you’re a woman with a demanding career, a mother balancing the needs of children, or someone navigating the changes that come with aging, making time for your own mental health is a gift to yourself and those you love. For women raising a child in midlife, the challenges can be especially complex, from managing single parenthood to balancing work and family responsibilities. For example, a woman raising an 11 years old daughter while working full-time may face unique emotional and logistical hurdles. Practicing self care might mean seeking therapy, joining a group for physical activity, or simply carving out quiet moments to reflect and recharge.

The ripple effect of women prioritizing mental wellbeing is profound. When we take care of ourselves, we become better friends, mentors, and role models for younger women. We show them that it’s possible to live a fulfilling life at any age, and that happiness is something we can nurture, even in the face of life’s challenges. By supporting each other, sharing advice, and encouraging healthy habits, we create communities where every woman can thrive.

Physical health and mental health go hand in hand. Regular exercise and healthy eating not only reduce the risk of heart disease—a concern for many women—but also boost our mood and energy. Many women find that activities like hiking, gardening, or even dancing in the living room with their kids can bring a sense of joy and connection that lasts long after the moment has passed. As women are living longer, they spend more years navigating health changes, menopause, and the evolving demands of midlife. Reflecting on their own age, many women find new perspectives on self-identity and what it means to age gracefully.

Ultimately, the power of mental wellbeing in women’s communities lies in our willingness to support one another and ourselves. By embracing self care, nurturing our passions, and staying connected, we can live our best lives—full of purpose, happiness, and hope for the future. As one woman shared, “I finally realized that my mental wellbeing is just as important as my physical health. By prioritizing it, I’ve been able to find happiness and live a more fulfilling life.” Let’s continue to lift each other up, break the stigma around mental health, and create a world where every woman feels empowered to embrace life at every age.

Health and Wellbeing: Caring for Ourselves and Each Other

Taking care of our health—both physical and mental—is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves and those we love. As women, prioritizing self care and regular physical activity isn’t just about looking after our bodies; it’s about nurturing our minds and spirits, too. Many women discover that even simple habits, like a daily walk, a few minutes of meditation, or spending time in nature, can help ease anxiety, lift depression, and bring a sense of calm to our busy lives.

Physical health and mental health are deeply connected. Engaging in exercise not only reduces the risk of heart disease—a concern for women as we age—but also boosts our mood and energy, helping us feel more vibrant and alive. Self care practices, whether it’s yoga, journaling, or simply taking a break to breathe, remind us that our wellbeing matters.

Supporting each other on this journey is just as important. Sharing healthy habits, offering encouragement, or being there to listen can make a world of difference. When women come together to care for themselves and each other, we create a community where everyone can thrive. By making health and wellbeing a priority, we set the stage for a longer, healthier, and more fulfilling life—one where we feel empowered to take on whatever comes our way.

BE AN AUTHENTIC WOMAN WITH SELF ESTEEM

On the other hand, if you respect the person who is flattering you it is time to take stock of how you feel about yourself. Most likely, you are selling yourself short. Take this opportunity to decide for yourself what you are truly worth, rather than letting others define it. After all, we all have personal insecurities, and supporting each other through life’s challenges is a shared journey. During these times, it’s common for women to lose confidence or self-esteem, especially when facing new or difficult circumstances.

But here is another thought. Do you trust the complement of the woman who is extremely confident? Or a woman who is authentic and shows her vulnerable side?

Personally, I don’t think uncertainty has to undermine trust. Actually, I prefer the person who is not always certain. Because they question before they speak and give a compliment or offer their help or advice from the heart. Sometimes, having a clear idea of your own values can help guide your actions and decisions in these moments. Writing down your passions and interests can also help generate new ideas for positive pursuits and self-discovery. The opinion of the overconfident woman, if you ask me, may not be as reliable.

A girlfriend who is open to uncertainty shows her vulnerabilities. One who doesn’t feel insecure doing so. She is worthy of my friendship. I am touched by her authenticity. Imagine the kind of support network you want to build—visualizing your ideal friendships can help you seek out and nurture those meaningful connections. Having a best friend who stands by you through every challenge makes the journey even more meaningful.

6 WAYS TO SUPPORT OTHER WOMEN

• Celebrate an important woman in your life. Celebrate your friend’s achievement. Have a get-together. Whether it’s graduating from school, buying a house, or reaching a personal goal, these milestones deserve recognition. Remember, for many women, owning houses is not just a dream but also a challenge, especially with rising costs and changing generational wealth.
• Inspire and mentor a younger woman. Share your knowledge and encourage a younger woman. Share the stories of your trials and tribulations that eventually empowered and enlightened you. For example, you might support a 50 year old woman navigating new opportunities or challenges.
• Give a little shove. Some talented women are afraid to make a move for fear of failure. Encourage and enlighten them about themselves. They will respect your opinion if they believe you are authentic. In relationships, milestones like getting married or deciding to marry are significant steps that can shape a woman’s life.
• Listen to a friend’s woes. A good listener is an important quality in a relationship. Listen long and hard before jumping into the conversation. Sometimes, just being there to talk openly can make all the difference for someone going through a tough time.
• Connect women to other women. Women need women. Be a connector. Make a call. Give out phone numbers. Arrange a get-together. Call it a celebration of life.
• Participate in her decision-making. Women crave advice from those they respect. If you have something to say, say it. Encourage her to try something new—maybe go for a ride outdoors or take up biking to boost her confidence and well-being.

Reflecting on what has happened in my life to bring me to this point, I realize how much the support of friends has shaped my journey. There have been so many women in my life who supported me. I am grateful to all of them. They know who they are. If you are reading this story, thank you for being by my side through my joys and sorrows.

At one point, I decided to embrace my passion for supporting women, knowing how much it matters to have encouragement during midlife and beyond. The point of having supportive friends throughout your whole life cannot be overstated—they are essential for navigating challenges and celebrating successes. And truly, there is nothing more valuable than having a friend who shares your journey.

Nurturing Meaningful Relationships

Meaningful relationships are the heart of a happy, healthy life. Many women find that their connections with friends, family, and loved ones bring a deep sense of joy, comfort, and belonging. Whether it’s sharing laughter with a best friend, enjoying family traditions, or building new friendships, these bonds enrich our lives and lift our happiness levels.

But nurturing relationships isn’t just about being there for others—it’s also about honoring our own needs and desires. Making time for activities that bring us happiness, whether it’s a favorite hobby or a quiet moment with a loved one, helps us feel balanced and fulfilled. Many women discover that by prioritizing both their relationships and their own wellbeing, they create a sense of harmony that supports their mental health and overall happiness.

Strong relationships help us weather life’s storms and celebrate its joys. They remind us that we are valued, loved, and never alone. By investing in our connections—with our children, partners, friends, and ourselves—we build a foundation for a life filled with meaning, support, and lasting happiness.

Pursuing Personal Growth and Development

Personal growth is a lifelong journey, and for many women, it’s the key to living a truly fulfilling life. Embracing new experiences, learning fresh skills, or even starting a new job can reignite our sense of purpose and passion. Stepping outside our comfort zones, whether it’s through travel, education, or creative pursuits, helps us discover new strengths and possibilities within ourselves.

As we age, it’s natural to seek out opportunities that challenge and inspire us. Many women find that pursuing personal growth not only boosts their mental health but also brings a renewed sense of excitement and direction to their lives. Whether you’re reigniting an old passion or exploring something entirely new, each step forward is a chance to feel more engaged, confident, and alive.

This journey of self-discovery doesn’t have to be taken alone. Sharing your goals and achievements with supportive friends or mentors can make the process even more rewarding. By investing in our own development, we honor our unique journey and create a life that reflects our true selves—full of meaning, growth, and fulfillment.

TWO UNEXPECTED STORIES FROM UNEXPECTED WOMEN

BARBARA WALTERS AND ME

Barbara Walters made me feel special. She made a deliberate gesture not once but twice to call me over to her table at La Grenouille, my favorite romantic restaurant in Manhattan. We had never met.

The first time she gestured with her hand for me to approach her, I turned my head to see who was behind me. The second time she gestured I put my index finger to my chest and mouthed, “Me?” She nodded a yes.

She sat at a table with seven other people. They were Brits, French and American.

When I arrived at her side, she asked me to bend down so she could speak to me. She told me she loved my ‘look, my style.’ I could not believe what I was hearing from the Barbara Walters. Needless to say, I was in 7th heaven and in shock mode.

LIKE IS DRAWN TO LIKE

She was wearing a white silk stunning long-sleeved blouse that matched her short silver bob. Her jewelry was gold but not fancy and I do recall the scent of her perfume. Not flowery, strong but tasteful. She wore clear nail polish. We were actually similarly dressed.

My outfit was winter white wide cashmere slacks with a winter white top loosely draped over the pants. I wore my signature gold band necklace and plain sparkling gold earrings. My hair was short and slicked back. Truth be told, I would like to cut my hair and wear my hair that way again!

I have read that when women complement each other they often are saying, “You are like me or I enjoy you for some reason.”

We conversed privately for a short time. Before I left her side I thanked her for the compliment and expressed how glad I was to know her. I then leaned in very close to her and whispered in her ear, “You are a woman of valor.” She looked up at me as I was standing up, took my hand in hers, and gave it a squeeze.

After leaving the restaurant, I told my husband chances are we would have connected again and become friends.

DEAR ABBY’S DAUGHTER

As you know the new Dear Abby is Dear Abby’s daughter. We spent time together at summer camp. Our bunks were next to each other. During daily rest hours, she would draw on her large drawing pad with charcoals. I was drawn to her but the other girls in our cabin were not. I protected her from my cabinmates.

Fast forward to a few years ago. We had a phone conversation. Our conversation was very warm and fluid. The shocker was she allowed herself to express her feelings in such an authentic manner. Out of the blue, she brought up how I protected her at summer camp and that to this day she considers me one of her best friends. I will never forget those words.

The words of my girlfriend in Hawaii come back to me. What is the meaning of a good job in a friendship? My interpretation of a good job is time and your ability to prove your worth. They are very different jobs. One is hours spent to reach a goal and the other is a woman’s call to take a stand and do her job well.

During International Women’s Month, think about your meaningful friendships and do your job well. I am smiling because I have hopes you will take me up on the worthwhile ‘job’ called friendship.

Achieving a Fulfilling Life

Living a fulfilling life is about more than just checking off accomplishments—it’s about embracing life’s journey with honesty, wonder, and a sense of purpose. For many women, fulfillment comes from a blend of nurturing relationships, pursuing passions, and caring for both mental and physical health. It’s about making choices that align with your values and bring you happiness, peace, and a sense of meaning.

Every woman’s path to fulfillment is unique. Some find joy in travel or volunteering, others in quiet moments spent in nature or with loved ones. What matters most is being honest with yourself about what you need and desire, and having the courage to pursue your best life—whatever that looks like for you.

By staying connected to your sense of purpose, nurturing your relationships, and prioritizing self care, you can create a life that feels rich and rewarding at every age. Remember, the journey to a fulfilling life is ongoing, filled with opportunities for growth, connection, and happiness. Embrace each moment, support the women around you, and celebrate the wonder of living your own authentic, meaningful life.

How do you feel most supported as a woman? Please tell me in the comments!