I have a reason for writing this story. Under normal circumstances, I would not consider myself the subject matter for a blog. However, I thought it was time to introduce you to the real Honey Good.
A few of my loyal readers have mentioned in their comments that they cannot lead my lifestyle. One woman wrote that she wished that I would speak to you, over 50+, about beauty, travel, home decor, style on a more economical plane. She added she enjoys reading HG. She thought more women would read Honey Good if I did so. For that reason I thought it would be a good idea to discuss who is the real Honey Good.
This story is dedicated to her and others who at times may feel a disconnect between our financial lifestyles.
Let me begin by saying we have so much in common. We are women 50+ who aspire to lead our best life possible.
We bleed the same. We experience the same emotions; joy, sadness, curiosity, grief, and gratitude. Also love, fear, desire, disbelief, anger, loyalty, disappointment, and wonder. I have different experiences than you but we share the same type of trials. Joy of family, friends, work, and tribulations.
When you aspire and wish you could lead my lifestyle, you can! It should not matter that my bracelet is perhaps more expensive than one you can afford. If you like mine, choose one with the same ‘look’ on a lesser scale. Choose something that speaks to you, that you adore. And, that is for everything else you want on a material level.
I FIND JOY IN THE UNEXPECTED
If you asked me to describe my inner style, I would answer, “ Like you, I have more moments of contentment than distress. I wish I had the self- discipline to cultivate a more manageable lifestyle. I love deeply, forgive too easily, and most of my choices are authentic to the woman I am. Do I sound like you? I think so. Therefore, we have much in common.
Going forward, I am grateful for others’ kindness. I am grateful for the serenity of nature, for the unexpected happenings that make my heart sing. Do I sound like you? I hope so.
Yesterday, I learned that plants grow in water and I spent a few hours starting a water garden! I was elated and overcome with joy! This morning at 4:00 am I set straight out to work after watching a Youtube video. (I linked it in the Honey Good Post!)
At once, I ordered more glass containers, fertilizer and colored green rocks ( I adore the color green). Also clear stones for my city water garden from Amazon. Wouldn’t you like to try this? I think so. It is not expensive but a luxurious experience. Do I sound like you? I think so.
I find joy in the unexpected to the point, some would say, is absurd. As a matter of fact, I don’t care what others think. Why? Because I am a woman 50+ and, like you, I get it!
I’VE EARNED MY PhD IN LIFE
Through my life experiences, I don’t run with the crowd. Something I like to say is that I am a woman over 50+ who has earned her PhD in life. I acknowledge that I have been very fortunate to have had wonderful opportunities. But, like you, I have suffered unexpected tragedies, trials and tribulations. I learned, because of my resilience and positive attitude, to maneuver through them. Because of them, I am a wizened woman.
So, you see like you, I have my baggage. I have an adult daughter who wants no part of me. This has robbed a part of me from aging exquisitely. The pain and other emotions are devastating. Do I wish I had handled this estrangement differently? Do I have regrets? Yes. I should have listened to my heart and roared. Instead, I took the high road. So, my dear reader, I make mistakes and have regrets just like you.
I HAVE FRIENDS OF ALL WALKS
I have friends that live on a higher plane than I do. Some are smarter and some have greater talents. There are some more organized and tranquil. Some are more diplomatic and some have more money. I love to engage with these women. I want them as my friends because they bring something to the table that I aspire to. They are my teachers, women I admire and want to learn from.
I have women and men in my life who love simplicity. And, in my opinion, live more grandly than friends of mine with deep pockets. Because their smaller net worth does not stop them from finding joy in life. They are purposeful people.
One of my friends takes trips around the world through books and videos. This is what he can afford. He is my walking travel guide. He knows every nook and cranny in Europe and Asia and has never visited any of the countries!
Another younger friend surprised me with a water plant and this started my newest project — my city water garden. The water plants came from Petco! They are used in aquariums with fish and turtles. What an emotional luxury this has been for me.
INITIATE YOUR PURPOSE
I am trying to make a point. To my readers who wish I would write more about the lifestyle they can financially afford I say this — “I have to be authentic to who I am. You have to be authentic to who you are.” What I want you to take away from my stories are my inner thoughts, not my material possessions.
Remember this: another women’s blessings can look better than yours. There is always going to be someone in your life and mine who has deeper pockets. I say this, hold onto your experiences by taking time to count your blessings and be grateful.
I live a life of luxury because I aspire to. To me luxury is in the pursuit of enriching my life. Of staying curious and trying new things. Time is a luxury. How will you spend yours, dear reader?
Initiate purpose into your life. Use your imagination plus ingenuity to aspire. Make a plan, work your plan. Take care of your body. Take risks. Have role models. Have goals. Dream. This will give you lasting joy.
Lastly, remember as you grow into your life over 50 — there is nothing worth more than to bloom by surrounding yourself with women you respect, admire and aspire to emulate. Amen.