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Relationships After The Age of 50: Qualities to Look For In a Partner

Are you back in the dating game after a divorce, breakup, or widowhood? If that is you, this information will be of help in finding the top qualities to look for in a partner, specifically if you are dating again after the age of 50.

Relationships After The Age of 50: Qualities to Look For In a Partner

Let Go of the Attraction Factor

1. Let go of the Attraction Factor as the Main Indicator of a Good Guy

I’ve had women share with me that they knew within five minutes whether or not the man they just met was “the one.” But hear me when I say this…

There is NO WAY you know this about a man within 5 minutes!

What you do know is whether or not you have a hormonal connection that we call chemistry. Chemistry feels good and that’s why we use it as the number one factor for identifying the right one.

Both men and women put way too much value on chemistry and just because you’re initially attracted to someone doesn’t mean they’re a good partner for you.

Attraction Builds Over Time

The funny thing about attraction is that it can build over time. I remember meeting a man and going out with him on 4 dates before I felt an attraction to him. Let me share what I mean…

This man and I had gone on 3 dates. I just wasn’t feeling it. For our fourth date, I had tried to break the date but he was persistent in a nice way, so I agreed to see him. During our lunch together, he reached across the table and touched my face. Something inside of me clicked and all of a sudden,  I was wildly attracted to him.

We had a nice relationship for a couple of years and we are still friends to this day. Had I knocked him out of the running on our first, second, or even third date, I would have missed a lot of fun times with a good quality man who cared a great deal for me.

See if you can start opening your mind to the possibilities of a good man that goes beyond his looks and the feelings of hormonal connection.

All About You

2. Look for a Man Who Wants to Make it All About You

Every couple of weeks I go to lunch with my friend, Ron. Years ago, we dated a couple of times but we found that we were better friends than we would’ve been as boyfriend and girlfriend. Ron has taught me a lot about men and has always told me that the most important quality to look for is a man who wants to make it all about you.

What does that mean? He really wants to make you happy and will do everything in his power to put that smile on your face. In looking for this quality in a man, one of the things I discovered was women quickly criticized men for not doing things the right way, which by the way, is often times the way we as women would do it.

When you do this to a man, you are literally cutting him off at the knees, making him feel like he can never do anything to please you and this is when men stop trying to make you happy.

Learn to Recieve From Men

Learn to receive from men even when it’s not quite the way you expected. My friend Ron sometimes rolls his eyes when he thinks of all the times he’s made an effort and women haven’t appreciated him for doing it.

Be sure to always thank a man and appreciate him for trying to make you happy.

Choose Values

3. Choose a Man Based on Values Versus Activities You Share

Part of figuring out the right man for you comes from designing a Quality Man Template. This helps you to be able to identify a good man for you. In the Quality Man Template, you list the qualities and values you want in a man. Qualities are things like bike riding or enjoying fine dining. The issue with qualities is someone can wine and dine you, and yet treat you horribly. And you don’t want that.

It’s why values are so important to identify. Honesty, integrity, monogamy, and loyalty are examples of values.

Values Hold a Relationship Together

Values are what holds a relationship together…they are the glue. I can almost guarantee that values that are important to you were missing from past relationships and that’s why it didn’t work out.

Take the time to make a list of at least 10 values that a man must have to date you. And honor these when you are looking for men.

Finding The Right Man Takes Time

Finding the right man for you at any age can often take time. Don’t be discouraged by one or two not-so-perfect dates. If you are serious about finding a partner, you will. Make sure you hold true to your values and the qualities you look for; be sure of what you want and desire.

Have you listed out the values and qualities you look for and find most important in a partner? Please share your thoughts with us in the comments at the bottom of this page. We’d love to hear from you!

About the Author: Lisa Copeland is known as an expert on over 50’s dating. She’s the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your FREE Report, “5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man,” visit www.findaqualityman.com.

 

 

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