This article was written by Karen Harrow
Malodorous Caused by Aging
Malodorous caused by aging is an uncomfortable topic. You may need to read this more than you want to read this. I will not leave you in your discomfort without some practical solutions. I am not a medical professional so if in doubt, see your doctor.
When my mother was around forty years old and I was in my teens she implored me to promise that when she got older I wouldn’t let her become a woman who “forgot her grooming.” She and I both knew exactly what she meant. A woman, who, as she ages, becomes less aware of her hygiene due to her lack of olfactory prowess. And by doing so, unknowingly offends those around her.
While there are many reasons for loss of smell as we age, with many medical reasons to explain–nasal polyps, neurodegenerative disorders, allergies–it remains that we may not be the best judge of what smells less than fresh. Unless we make a concerted effort to know. As peri and menopausal women, we are confronted with actual reasons why we may smell badly, more readily than when we were younger.
Let’s Talk About Clothing
As our peri or menopausal bodies sweat. No amount of deodorant can prevent our clothing from absorbing some of that moisture. It’s when that perfectly healthy sweat hangs out on that garment that bacteria forms and the scent turns from innocuous to obnoxious.
We head out to dinner for a couple of hours and wrongly assume our outfit is only gently worn. The fibers of our clothing may still hold the cooking odors of the restaurant and follow us, unpleasantly into our closets.
Solution: Air out, dry clean or wash your clothing even if you may have worn the item for a short time.
Our sense of smell dulls as we get older. Repeated exposure to our own perfume may render us nose blind. We may not realize that we have over spritzed or used perfume that has turned. Everything we encounter from car seat belt straps to the clothing of a friend we have hugged (pre-COVID) is reeking of our scent.
Solution: Don’t hold onto perfume indefinitely. Over time, the chemistry turns a delicious scent into a rancid one. Keeping perfumes up to date is essential as well as a light touch. Using a one pump rule will prevent us from overdoing our favorite scent.
Take Care of Your Hair
Many of us have thinning hair. We may be afraid to wash it too frequently, for fear that we will lose more of it. Our scalps secrete oils and sebum. This natural smell can turn sour without washing.
Solution: Use a gentle cleanser and handle your hair carefully in order to keep malodors at bay.
A Case of Bad Breath
We may all need a whole Brené Brown Ted Talk on shame when someone tells us we have bad breath. Gum disease, dry mouth due to medications, tonsil stones, failing dental work, negligent dental care, are all reasons for rancid breath. In addition, as we age, we don’t care if our love of garlic and onions leaves us with a bit of halitosis. We have earned the right to eat as we please.
Solution: Regular visits to the dentist, tongue scraping, flossing, oxygenating mouthwashes, and a diligent diet will allow a more inviting environment. And if we know we are going to hang out with people that matter to us, we can lay off the offending foods before seeing those people in our lives that matter.
Below the Waist Care
Our younger, full of natural lubrication vaginas were better equipped to handle daily bacteria. Our peri or menopausal selves can find a diminishment in our vaginal fluid which can cause dryness. Without that lubrication and balance of good bacteria to bad, our vaginas may harbor malodors.
Solution: Try using natural oils like coconut oil, or an organic vaginal moisture replacement to keep things lubricated and comfortable both internally and externally. Fragrances or perfumes aren’t necessary and may cause more irritation than they are worth.
A weaker bladder with unintentional dribbling creates a foul-smelling environment if ignored.
Solution: A discreet panty liner or incontinence pad with a charcoal layer keeps bad smells at bay. Change them often.
An aging body may also include an aging butt landscape. Plain toilet tissue wiping isn’t as efficient as it used to be. A portable bidet of soapy water, wet wipes in our purses, and closer attention to detail are all viable, sustainable solutions.
This is not a conversation I want to have frequently. I am happy to keep my promise to my 79-year-old mother if she needs me to do so. Now, if I can get my daughter to volunteer for the future job, I’ll be all set.
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