The world population has been on an emotional journey for almost five months. It still seems like a bad dream. However, I have come to terms that life in Elsewhere is the real McCoy, and I have no choice but to live within its perimeters… but on my terms. This experience represents a major life change and a significant change for everyone, reshaping how we live and interact. I had hope that our world landscape would return to normal, that Elsewhere would disappear… But over time I realize that what was… was. It is perplexing and shocking to realize that 7.8 billion people, the population of the world, is on a transformational journey together to a new way of life because of a virus, COVID-19, and in my Country, upheaval compounds the situation.

Sitting in my apartment in the sky in my beloved Chicago with my pooch America asleep by my side and my Ultimate Concierge in a chair across from me, reading a spy novel, I listen to soft Hawaiian music in the background as I pen my thoughts. I am finally comprehending the enormity of the emotional journey the world population is on and after a phone conversation yesterday, I know I have to wave good-bye to the normalcy of the life I have led and move on in a positive way. This moment of realization feels emotionally impactful, marking a turning point in how I process and accept these changes.

Life Transitions

Life transitions are a natural part of our journey, shaping the course of our lives in both expected and unexpected ways. Whether you’re facing a career change, moving to a new city, or adjusting to an empty nest, these significant life events can deeply impact your mental health, personal development, and overall well-being. It’s normal to experience a mix of emotions—excitement, fear, uncertainty, and hope—when navigating such changes. Each transition brings its own set of emotional challenges, but it also offers a unique opportunity for self-awareness and growth. By embracing the process and seeking support, you can turn even the most daunting life changes into stepping stones toward a more fulfilling and positive future. Remember, every transition is a chance to rediscover your sense of purpose and to nurture your health and happiness along the way.

A Wake Up Phone Call

Yesterday afternoon, my iPhone rang and I saw my daughter’s name light up my phone. I was in my office that overlooks the skyline of my beautiful Chicago and Lake Michigan, a lake so grand in scope it reminds me of the Pacific Ocean that was outside my backdoor when I lived in Honolulu. The sun was shining as I picked up and said, “Hi! So happy you called.”

Our conversation was normal until I heard my daughter say, “Mom, I cannot sleep at night.”

Startled,  I asked, “Why?”

“Because I am worried about your safety living where you live in Chicago. Protestors could come into your building and take it over and hurt you.”

Her comment said it all. That my daughter, with much on her mind, was worried about harm coming to me because of the building I live in. It hit a nerve because she could be right.

“You love me that much!” I said trying to lighten the conversation.

“Yes,” was the reply.

We spoke for a long time and when we said good-bye we were laughing again.

Life transitions often bring new challenges to relationships, and navigating these changes can strengthen or test the relationship between family members.

That evening my Ultimate Concierge and I left our building for an outdoor dinner with friends. I remember asking one of our great doormen, “Do you have a plan if violent protesters try to take over our building?”

“Don’t you worry, Mrs. Good. Don’t you worry.”

I worried that I had to think about being worried.

The Main Disrupters, COVID-19 and Unrest

The main culprits are COVID-19 with an added disruptor; Violence across America. Every American has seen a life change. Thousands of families have suffered lost loved ones, millions of hard-working people have lost jobs and businesses, many millions are rethinking careers, and millions of people in Elsewhere are escaping cities, states, and countries for several reasons; mainly safety. World wide populations are suffering as well and suffocating from loneliness. Many people are struggling to adapt to changes in their daily life during this period. Parents and grandparents are fearful of their family’s futures as well as their own. Children are worried about their parents and grandparents, as well.

Understanding the Process of Transition

The process of transition is often marked by a whirlwind of emotional responses—anxiety, fear, and even moments of self-doubt. It’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed or to struggle to maintain perspective during significant life changes. Acknowledging these feelings is the first step toward healing and growth. Simple practices like deep breathing, mindfulness, and self-compassion can be powerful tools to help manage negative emotions and reduce stress. Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or a trusted therapist for support and guidance; you don’t have to navigate these moments alone. By understanding that emotional upheaval is part of the process, and by taking proactive steps to care for your mental health, you can move through transitions with greater ease and resilience. Remember, it’s okay to feel what you feel—what matters is how you support yourself through the journey.

How Will We Cope?

The first stage on this emotional journey has been shocking. I think we have all completed this phase of our journey. We get it. It is real. Life in Elsewhere will not vanish anytime soon so we have to plan for our futures.

This second stage is muddied with disbelief, anger, confusion, fear, and sadness. We understand we have choices to make. We can put our positive coping skills to work in order to think through our situation and formulate a plan on how our future can be constructive and eventually optimistic or continue to be shell shocked and paralyzed. Developing the ability to adapt is crucial here; stepping outside your comfort zone can help build resilience during these transitions.

This second stage can turn out to be very creative and fulfilling. Transitions in one’s life can prove to be very meaningful. You are probably very disheartened and disoriented as you begin the journey, but when the breakthrough(s) occur you will create new attitudes and aptitudes; maybe new friends, new careers, and even a new place to live.

Every transition is a challenge. This one coming from nowhere to Elsewhere is a corker. Therefore, it is very important during this second stage to stay in close contact with your families and friends for discussions and support.

Navigating Mid Life Transitions

Midlife transitions often arrive with a unique set of challenges, from caring for aging parents to reevaluating your career path or sense of identity. These significant life changes can stir up feelings of uncertainty, but they also open the door to profound personal growth. Focusing on self-care and prioritizing your physical and emotional well-being are essential during this time. Building resilience, whether through new routines, hobbies, or simply allowing yourself space to reflect, can help you navigate these changes with confidence. Remember, seeking support from loved ones or professionals is a sign of strength, not weakness. Midlife transitions are a normal part of life’s journey, and by embracing them, you can emerge with a renewed sense of purpose, direction, and well-being.

Career Change and Transition

A career change can be one of the most significant transitions in life, often accompanied by stress, anxiety, and a sense of uncertainty. Yet, it also holds the promise of positive transformation and personal growth. Whether you’re starting a new job, exploring a different industry, or launching your own venture, it’s important to approach this transition with self-awareness and an open mind. Focus on your strengths, values, and passions as you chart your new career path. Building resilience and seeking support from mentors, friends, or career coaches can make the process smoother and more rewarding. Remember, career change is a normal part of life, and it’s never too late to pursue happiness and fulfillment in your work. With the right mindset, every career transition can lead to greater growth and a deeper sense of purpose.

Some Good News

I was talking to my friend on the phone and she asked, “What’s new?

I said, “Oh! I am going to wear my new Chanel mask with Swarovski crystals out for dinner tonight. Speaking of masks, more than 75% of people were wearing masks on Michigan Avenue.”

The tone in my voice was so casual, making it seems that wearing masks is simply part of our culture! And then she started to laugh! And I started to laugh because the only person we could relate to wearing a mask was the Lone Ranger.

Creating a Support Network

No one should have to face life transitions alone. Building a strong support network is essential, whether you’re navigating a career change, moving to a new city, or experiencing any significant life event. Surround yourself with positive, supportive friends and family who can offer encouragement, guidance, and a listening ear. Don’t hesitate to seek out therapists, support groups, or online communities—these connections can provide a sense of belonging and help reduce feelings of isolation. Prioritizing self-care and reaching out for support not only helps you manage your feelings but also strengthens your resilience. Remember, the journey through life’s transitions is easier and more meaningful when you have a network of support to lean on. Together, you can face challenges, celebrate progress, and emerge stronger and more connected than ever.

More Good News

I realize I don’t have to leave my home to be happy, loving, and productive. My happiness, like yours, comes from my thoughts. My productivity begins with my internal thoughts, all from within. Love is felt, and I am capable of giving it from afar. I can feed my curiosity and knowledge and enjoy love with my family by putting my fingers on the keyboard of my Apple.

So, step number one is the positive power that comes from thinking about alternatives that will give you positive joy. Incorporating small changes into your daily routine can help support positive transitions and boost your overall happiness, especially during times of change.

Lest we forget, let’s remember the good and positive. Since none of us can leave Elsewhere, let’s use our positive power to walk alongside it. Positive power comes from your thoughts and begins with how you feel about yourself. So, step number one is to like the person you are because it gives you harmonious power over Elsewhere.

In my wildest dream, I never dreamt of wearing a mask when I leave our home. At this time I look at wearing masks as a necessity of choice. I like that I have the power to decide my fate. I don’t have to wear a mask. I chose to. That I have a choice to wear a mask of my choosing gives me options. It makes me feel good. My masks are not Walgreens or Amazon masks, by choice. My masks are accessories that I wear that send a message to others who cannot see my expressions or my smile. It’s a message of who I am. I turned my mask into a positive daily experience. So can you.

We Have Control Over Our Happiness

The way I turned wearing my mask into a happy experience is one example of how we have control of our lives in Elsewhere. I am happy because I feel safer and happy because I reflect on who I am. There are so many tools you have in your mental arsenal. Use them. If loneliness is a problem you can find a solution. Maybe lend a hand? Maybe renew old bonds? Maybe escape into great novels?

When you make intentional choices during transitions, it often leads to positive change, helping you grow and transform even in challenging times.

If you are feeling down without berating yourself, you are better off than a person who ignores their feelings. I believe this will pass when you live in to your answer.

Darling, in essence, we have control over our happiness while we are living in Elsewhere. Elsewhere will eventually go away and a new type of society will appear in its place. After the depression, it was the Roaring Twenties. Now that would be a pleasure, wouldn’t it?

So don’t despair. You will learn much from your journey in Elsewhere if you will it. Remember, you own your power.

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