How To Take The High Road

October 19, 2018 Published by
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Take The High Road

Do you know how to take the high road? When we are falsely accused, professionally or personally, we are faced with three difficult choices. We can let it go and allow the problem to continue. Or, we can let it go because it feels right. Lastly, we can fight to clear our name! In all cases, I believe we are best served when we choose to take the high road.

I typically take the high road because I feel it serves me best. I am now of the opinion, from personal experience, that there are times to roar back to protect one’s reputation, legacy and daily happiness. This takes great thought and depends on the situation.

Of course, I struggle and weigh my options and take the high road even when springing into action. I see the glass half full and choose to make sweet lemonade out of lemons. I’m glad I forgive because I don’t like to carry negative baggage.

I have no problem forgiving. I don’t carry grudges.

And yet, I must admit I have a problem holding people accountable who I know have wronged and hurt me, and I struggle with the ‘good person syndrome.’ I still feel taking the high road better serves me. But to my joy, I began making headway in another manner that still serves me well: I slowly disengage myself from the relationship. I move on and hit ‘delete.’ You all know my word, delete, darlings!

I experienced one major situation in which I allowed my reputation and my legacy to be tampered with… and actually tarnished. This is because, I thought that coming from love would end the problem because I believe in the ‘good person syndrome,’ to keep the peace. Darlings, I learned this is not always the case. To sit idly by hoping a severe situation will pass only allows your perpetrator to ignite his or her blaze. But never-the-less, at this juncture, I have still decided to take the high road and be silent.

The first question we should ask ourselves is ‘why is this happening?’ It usually happens by surprise when someone takes an intentional, damaging and hurtful shot at you.

Take The High Road

How to take the high road: Find your salvation in ‘The Lesson’

The lesson: character assassination has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with the other person. That is why I take the high road, darlings.

The salvation: never lower yourself. Maintain your integrity.

Every person — family, friend or business acquaintance — who maligns another person’s reputation and legacy, i.e. character assassination, unfairly, will eventually be held accountable by observers.

Every person who tries to ruin your reputation or legacy will hopefully learn there are consequences for their poor behavior.

Take The High Road

How do you stop the person?

1. Learn how to take the high road
2. Learn to identify a toxic person and stay away.
3. Examine your role that created their behavior. Did you do something?
4. Stand up for yourself by honoring the you in you.

The warning signs of a toxic person…

1. They create drama by making small problems into large problems.
2. They refuse to take responsibility.
3. They are cunning and devious.
4. They have up and down behavior patterns.
5. They are jealous and angry.
6. They are envious.

I have gotten angry with myself for taking the high road. I want to lash out and defend myself. I don’t. Instead, after I have calmed down, I realize the person who is on the attack is not admired by those in his or her circle. They know the truth. They know who I am and how I conduct myself. So…why would I stoop to the angry person’s level? I won’t because I know who I am. Instead, I will continue to take the high road. I am smiling.

You know who you are. If you are wrong, take the high road and apologize. If you are wronged, still take the high road. Remember, this is not about you…it is about him or her.

Have you learned how to take the high road? Please share your thoughts with me via TwitterFacebookPinterest, Instagram or in the comments section below.

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12 Comments

  • Susan says:

    Dear Honey,
    I couldn’t agree more! Moving on and out of the toxic persons life is the best statement we can make. It hurts when someone has stabbed us in the back and it’s so hard to forget. Forgiveness is difficult too but must be done in order to free ourselves.

    Great article! Thank you for the high road reminder.

    Susan

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      We must remember, this is not about you. It is about them. We keep our integrity, even though it is hard. Warmly, Honey

  • L Porta says:

    Is very bad when people do bad thinks to you but for my self I believe that God no everybody hearths and he no even do hursts but he no my heart ❤️🙏🏻

  • Mary Lou says:

    This is one of your best and most insightful articles. So sorry you had the experience, but by sharing you have made us all stronger. Thank you. Hugs.

  • Connie says:

    Honey, this is so true. Several years ago, I faced the hard fact with relationships that didn’t feel “right”. I to decided step back and assess. I realized that I was doing things to please some others and I was miserable. It took some diligence, but I left those relationships behind. Leaving relationships behind that din’t “fit” with me has been the best thing I have ever done and I am a much happier person.

  • Pauline says:

    I had a friend who stabbed me in the back. Unfortunately she told it to my mother-in-law who warned me that she was not my friend. I deleted this woman from my life even though she asked me for forgiveness. I am more forgiving since I have gotten older.

  • Anonymous says:

    Boy oh boy does this hit home. A few months ago I was accused, with extreme venom, of saying something unflattering about a coworker. The person who accused me refused to speak to me or tell me anything–what I was told was through the grapevine and I am 100% certain it was a lie. It forced me to leave my job. After 2 attempts to talk to my accuser, I walked away. It was clear that he was not interested in the truth and his venom was so extreme that I felt my only choice was to take the high road, move on, and delete him. The people around me rallied and supported me fully–but saying nothing and not confronting him was indescribably hard. Looking back these few months, I know it was exactly the right thing to do. Thank you SO much for sharing your experience, Honey.

  • Dianne says:

    VERY WISE WORDS, THANKS! – “I have gotten angry with myself for taking the high road. I want to lash out and defend myself. I don’t. Instead, after I have calmed down, I realize the person who is on the attack is not admired by those in his or her circle. They know the truth. They know who I am and how I conduct myself. So…why would I stoop to the angry person’s level? I won’t. I never will. I know who I am. I will continue to take the high road. I am smiling!”

  • Mary Jane says:

    Honey, this sure hit home for me! My ex-husband was the issue for me after 30 yrs. of marriage. Such a confusing, painful, bizarre time in my life. You’re so right…it’s not about me. I took the high road and finally have peace in my life. Thank you for sharing this!

  • dc says:

    Taking the high road is the easy part, living with the decision is the hard part. One always wants to figure out why this situation occurred but it is a waste of time. Delete the person and relationship and keep going. Lashing out is not productive as it moves you down to the miserable person’s level.

  • Gail says:

    So true.hank you.

  • Gail says:

    So true. Thank you.

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