Darlings, what if I told you there was one simple thing you could do every day that would help you feel calmer, less worried, and even lower your blood pressure? There is! I recently read a study that said performing one Random Act of Kindness every day can reduce anxiety and feelings of depression. It floods your body with hormones that bring calm, clarity, and joy. Imagine that: doing something for someone else brings healing right back to you. Today, I’m spotlighting spreading kindness as a form of self care, while also making our world a better place.

I decided to write this story after an encounter a few days ago. A man I had never met asked me for financial help. I was caught off guard, but without hesitation, I followed what my heart and intuition told me to do: I sent him the money. The joy I felt afterward was overwhelming. I couldn’t stop smiling. My body relaxed; I was filled with pure delight and a sense of peace that only comes from giving.

I have always enjoyed giving back because the act of giving begets great personal pleasure. In a world where we’re all moving quickly, that small act of intentional thoughtfulness can brighten two hearts at once.

The History of Women and Random Acts of Kindness

As urban lore has it, author Anne Herbert first wrote the phrase “practice random kindness and senseless acts of beauty” on a diner placemat in 1982. Eleven years later, she published a book of the same name, and since then, her message has inspired a global movement of people quietly doing good.

Of course, as women, we’ve always known the power of nurturing and connection. Kindness benefits us as much, or even more, than the person receiving it. Even those who witness an act of kindness feel uplifted. Isn’t that a beautiful ripple?

One small gesture, like holding the door for someone, can make their day. Simple, human moments like these are reminders that we are all in this life together. Acts of kindness brings about more kindness. In the bustle of our busy lives, it’s easy to forget, so here are ten of my favorite small acts that make a big difference.

One Good Deed Leads to More Good Deeds

Years ago, a girlfriend introduced me to Tikkun Tokens. These wooden coins engraved with the words, “You just made the world a better place.” Each token is given when you witness an act of kindness, so the good continues to circulate. Isn’t that lovely?

That idea stayed with me. It reminded me that we can all carry invisible tokens (our words, our compassion, our small gestures) to pass along as gifts.

10 Ideas for Random Acts of Kindness

Here are 10 Random Acts of Kindness ideas that you can begin practicing today! It’s never to early or too late to spread a little kindness.

1. Leave an inspiring note on someone’s car

How many times have any of us complained about how badly a person parked? Sometimes I imagine that the reason this person parked like this is they were having a very bad day. Perhaps they were distracted by bad news, or late to an appointment. I like to lean into that empathy by leaving a kind note. “It’s a beautiful day today and I hope your vehicle transports you to a place that fills your soul with love and connection.”

You could take a stack of notecards and a pen and simply walk around the neighborhood/parking garage. Imagine that you’re sending an entire army of people out with a beautiful smile ready to do something nice for someone else, if not today, then tomorrow.

2. Pay for someone’s food/coffee

This is MY personal favorite act of kindness. It’s as simple as handing the cashier a $10 bill and asking her, “Please use this buy the person behind me a cup of coffee.” Alternatively, you could buy a gift card at a coffee shop and give it to a stranger. I’ve never predicted the sheer joy I’ve received just from buying someone else a simple cup of coffee.

3. Bring someone a special treat

If you’re feeling domestic, you can bake up a special treat, or pick up something nice from a local bakery. Then, wrap your treats up in festive packaging and leave them at your favorite shop for everyone to enjoy.

4. Call someone you haven’t spoken to in a long time

I believe in the power of positive words. Make sure that when you leave a message, tell him/her how much they mean to you and that you were thinking of them. Just knowing that someone out there is missing you is sometimes all they need to hear to brighten their day.

Or, if you know someone (even if you don’t know them that well) that is going through a difficult time, let them know you’re thinking about them and wish them well. This could be someone who is suddenly a full-time caregiver, or someone struggling with a loss or divorce. Or someone who has fallen into a bit of bad luck. You will lift their spirits.

5. Pick up after someone else’s pooch

I love my pooch America and sometimes I see doggie poop in our neighborhood that other pet parents have neglected to pick up. Darlings, I am as disgusted as you when I see this, but I do have a choice. I can pick it up and beautify my neighborhood for myself or others or I can get annoyed. If I pick it up, I immediately know I did my entire neighborhood a favor, and no one even knows I did it, all they know is their daily walk is beautiful.

6. Leave a generous tip and kind word

Service industry workers work incredibly hard for every dollar they make. They run around on their feet all day, they listen to numerous people demand and complain they are rarely complimented (directly) for a job well done.

Next time you eat out, leave a generous cash tip and write a note on the receipt, “It was such a pleasure to have you as my server today. I loved your energy, your smile and I hope your boss appreciates you.” It’s impossible for them not to feel touched. Imagine how delightful your server will be to their next customer! This one has a beautiful ripple effect.

7. Compliment a stranger

Next time you’re shopping or walking your pooch, compliment someone. Notice something about them and tell them, “Love the shoes,” “Your bag is beautiful” or “I love the sweet smile on your dog’s face.” Compliments are an instant confidence boost and you never know, your compliment could be just the thing the person needs to hear.

8. Send a postcard

You can’t beat a handwritten note for an act of kindness. I love a good postcard! When I open the mailbox and see that little piece of handwritten joy upon a nice image of a faraway place, I burst out with a smile. You don’t have to travel someplace exotic to send a postcard, perhaps buy a box of postcards with an inspirational saying and send them out with loving notes to friends/family.

9. Leave a treat in the mailbox for your mail carrier or delivery drivers

Through rain, heat, and snow, our mail carriers deliver our mail every day. They make it easy for us to pay our bills, send our grandchildren Christmas presents, and of course our handwritten notes of gratitude, love, friendship, or apology. Why not put a heartfelt note in your mailbox or a small gift and acknowledge your mail carrier for all the hard work he/she does?

This is an especially nice gesture during the holiday season, when everyone could use a boost. And don’t forget about your trash person, they really deserve a treat!

10. Volunteer or Give Back Locally

Help at a food bank or shelter. Even an hour of your time can bring someone comfort, nourishment, or hope. When my days feel heavy, giving lifts me right back up.

Why Acts of Kindness Heal the Heart

The magic of kindness lies in connection. As women, we are wired for it. When we extend love outward, even in the smallest ways, we are healing ourselves, too.

Lately, as I walk through this new chapter of caregiving, I’ve found that my own peace grows when I focus on giving: a smile, a note, a kind word to a nurse or a stranger. It’s how I keep my spirit soft in a world that can sometimes feel sharp.

Kindness as Self Care

Darlings, I want you to understand something essential: kindness is not only something you give, it is something you practice on yourself. When you choose to be gentle, when you refuse to speak cruelly to yourself, when you allow yourself to rest without guilt, that is also an act of kindness. That is self care.

I have learned (the hard way) that constant stress, constant worry, constant “I must hold it all together” will drain you until you are a shell. But pausing to breathe, to say, “I am doing my best, and my best is enough today,” is a radical kind of kindness. Treating yourself with self care is not selfish. It is maintenance of the soul. The more you are nourished, the more you can pour grace into the lives of others.

So, darlings, practice one act of kindness every day. You’ll feel the change within you… calmer, lighter, more connected. And please, share your experiences in the comments below. Tell me what small acts you’ve performed or witnessed. Let’s fill this world, and one another, with beauty, compassion, and love. Amen