Three things that may turn a man off during a date

February 22, 2017 Published by
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Ever been on a date where it feels like the conversation is flowing and the two of you are laughing and having fun? Then out of nowhere, the man you’re with abruptly ends the date. There are some simple actions that women take that  can turn men off.

This hurts your feelings because women, whether they like someone or not, want to feel loved by everyone.

And it doesn’t feel very loving when a man does this to you. His behavior can send you into a downward spiral that has you questioning what you did wrong.

It’s not that you did anything wrong. It’s that you may not have known the three biggest dating behaviors that are notorious for turning men off.

In todays blog, I want to share these three “date breakers” with you.

Why men might end a date

Date Breaker 1: Are you asking too many personal questions on a first date?

Want to quickly turn men off on a first date? Ask them tons of personal questions about how he conducts his life.

Here’s what some of these questions might look like…. “What time did you get up today?” “What did you do last night?” or “Where are you going from here?”

These are huge turn offs for emotionally healthy men. Why? Because men love the freedom to do as they please.

When he feels like you’re keeping tabs on his activities, especially when you’ve just met, he starts thinking you’re going to try and control his life in some way. This feels really scary to him so he runs!

Give a man his freedom and space to do as he pleases. When he’s ready, he’ll fill you in on his daily activities.

Date Breaker 2: Are you making his life part of your life too quickly?

Men can feel suffocated by women who want to spend every waking hour of the day with them, especially if it’s after they’ve just met. What does this look like?

When you’re making plans for the two of you to go out again before he’s even asked you for a second date, you’re coming across as clingy and emotionally needy. He’s thinking maybe you don’t have a life of your own and that’s why you want to turn his life into yours.

This sends a huge red flag and can send a man running.

Let me fill you in on something that men have told me over and over again about the women over 50 they want to date.

They love your confidence, your independence and they love when you are passionate about the life you’ve created. Those are hugely attractive for a man.

Date Breaker 3: Are you the first one to say the “L” word?

Ever experience a time where your heart quickly opened and in your excitement, you ended up saying the “L” word before he did?

It has happened to me and I quickly learned that men like to be the first one to say those words. If you say the “L” word before he’s ready, he could run.

I know there are times you feel so much love for a man you want to share with him. Slow down and make sure he’s the one to share this magic moment with you first.

After hearing these three date breakers, can you look back and see if you might turn men off without realizing it? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Until next time.

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Lisa Copeland – Author

Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50’s dating. She’s the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your FREE Report, “5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man,” visit www.findaqualityman.com.

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4 Comments

  • Thyrza Canahug says:

    Hi Lisa,
    You are absolutely positively right in your data about the 3 date breaker.
    I returned to dating after being a widow of 10 years. Luckily I know inherently what those 3 date breakers are. I have been dating and in a relationship with a man who tells me that the one thing that attracts him to me is my confidence , although I kind of jump into saying the L word, but I told him it is a feeling that I have when we are togeher and I do not hold him responsible for my happiness or my life. I love to travel and he encourage me to pursue my passion. Also I realized that men like the woman in their life to be able to empathize. Men however successful they are also need to be told so and in turn they give their attention and date say devotion! And in the end do not expect something he can not give. Just enjoy the moments you share together. So far this works wonderfully well for me.

    Sincerely

    Thyrza

  • Rubies21 says:

    You don’t want to share too much personal information about yourself either. He doesn’t want to hear about your past relationships.

    • Honey Good says:

      You are very wise, A man does not want to know anything about your past relationships. He wants to be the important one. The only one. Thank you for sharing. Warmly, Honey

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