We received a great response last week to my new Thursday Thoughts column where I directly respond to questions from you Darlings. So, this week I’m answering 6 questions that were asked this week. This is my advice; woman to woman. I hope it helps in some small way.
I am now separated and in the process after a 4 1/2 year relationship with what I thought was a good Christian man. I had been widowed for 10 years, so I didn’t get into the relationship and waited for a year, yet it still was a mistake. It is difficult to think about another relationship at my age, 73 this month, but would love the companionship. How do I find the courage to begin a dating life again?
Can I wear the Red String on my left ankle? I am a nurse and not allowed to wear anything on my arms.
I’m writing from Mesa, AZ, where we’ve lived since my husband was transferred here, 2.5 years ago. I am really struggling with making new friends. I’ve reached out, made invitations, only to find them not reciprocated. I feel held at arm’s length. Any suggestions? This is lonely!
This is weird… a good weird, but I don’t unusually talk about my sh!t to a stranger. However, I’ve been so confused at 62 where to meet a quality man. And yes, I have girlfriends to hang with and that’s a lot… I’m very appreciative of this.
I’ve had traumatic events in the past keeping me from being available but now I’m more than ready to find “the one.”
I’m semi retired ie: I’m home a lot which is groovy. I like to paint, read, write, exercise, etc., but.. not soooo alone. Note: I don’t mind being alone and would rather be alone than lonely with the wrong person for sure.
I guess I’m asking the invaluable question..will I ever love again..be in love again at friggin 62?
And more importantly, where in the hell are all the older men who are single..on the toilet?
Thanks for your eyes as I would say ear but you’re reading this. 🤔
I have had a very dear friend for 20 plus years! Problem! I am always the one initiating the relationship!! I am always the one to reach out. Most the time she does not return my calls for days and sometimes weeks?? I keep going back for more. My heart is broken that I care more than she cares! Should I give up? Thanks
For years (40 for his brother, 12 for his sister), my husband’s siblings have been estranged from their parents, and us as well. His parents have gone from self sufficient to a nursing home with only our help. There has been no participation, communication or love shown by the others even though they were kept informed of major health moments.
Recently, my FIL passed away in his sleep. What a blessing to have a peaceful death after 88 years of life. When my husband called to inform both of his siblings of the death and of service arrangements they were callous. His sister complained that the date chosen for the service wasn’t convenient for her or her family and they would not be attending. Honestly, we truly believe it wouldn’t have mattered what date was chosen. She wasn’t going to attend. His brother didn’t even respond one way or the other. I know it’s their loss. I know they will have regrets.
Now I need to know how to forgive them one more time and whether or not to open my husband and myself up to more abuse from them. My heart says take the high road but my head says enough already – no more Christmas cards, no more informing them about the health of their mother or eventually her death. How do we get past this dysfunction?
PS: we believe in the 10 Commandments and Honoring your father and mother is what we have done.
Thank you for your guidance and wisdom.
I love your quotes – so real and uplifting. I am wondering how you fly with your pup. Our Goldendoodle looks similar in size, so she is too tall for the usual carriers. We live in Florida and visit Chicago to see fam. Thanks!
Also, if you have questions or comments for me to address in next week’s Thursday Thoughts, please email me at: firstname.lastname@example.org