Refreshing The Relationships Between WomenJuly 11, 2019
I have not shared my greatest dream with many of you. When I think about my dream, my heart sings. When I daydream about seeing my dream become reality, I actually feel my body take on the feeling of joy.
I dream of welcoming hundreds of women into the Honey Good Network: your home away from home. We would be under my roof of privacy in the warmth of like-minded women. I know in my heart there are beneficial, refreshing and positive benefits women bring to one another in group settings. The proof is in the pudding they say and darlings, I have the proof.
Positive Experiences with Groups I Have Set Up
My first group, an outside group, is still going strong after three years. The group was started quite by accident when a friend of mine said out of the blue to a group of female friends, “I feel invisible.” Her comment opened the conversation and before long, all of the women expressed similar views. These women were married or had a significant other; they were moms and grandmothers, previously had careers, traveled and held collegiate degrees. What they no longer had was a youthful face and body and you know, darlings, youth reigns supreme in our country. Of course, they had other issues that occur at different stages of life.
When they left my home, I pondered and pondered on the uncomfortable word ‘invisible.’ I felt sad for my friends and felt a discussion was in order because I believe every age has its blooming power.
A Safety Net of Friends
Three weeks later, I picked up the phone and asked ten women if they would be interested in starting a group at my home to discuss the issues women face after 50 plus. They all said yes.
Some of the issues we have discussed include money, adult children, what to do with the rest of your life, daughters-in laws and mothers-in-law, retired husbands, moving, traveling solo, loneliness, betrayal of female friendships and the list goes on. We help one another with a problem and always leave my home feeling satisfied in one way or another. The group will be starting its fourth year. One of the women said, “I look forward to our group meetings because I feel I have a safety net with all of you.”
This group is over 50 plus.
This group was made up of women between the ages of 28 and 97. I chose women of all walks of life from a Greek politician to a first-generation Irish woman who started her own beauty business at 18, from a woman in marketing to a young Caucasian woman of 28 with a baby and unmarried by choice but in love with her significant other who is a black man. Another member is a young woman who is married and has one baby. We also have an Interior Designer, a 97-year-old great grandmother and on. All of these women are my friends and came for me. At the end of the first group meeting, I wanted to meet again–for them.
The group met for two hours and talked nonstop. Many of these women had never met each other previously; none were best friends and not one of them wanted to end the group meeting. This was a multigenerational group of women who were grateful for the lessons they learned from one another. They listened, engaged and delivered a spectrum of insights to one another.
Personally, I am turned on to multigenerational groups because I have friends of many ages and enjoy the back and forth communication.
The Benefits of Multigenerational Relationships
Multigenerational relationships provide a younger woman with an older woman’s authentic experiences and a younger women provides an older woman with the freedom to put aside what she thinks she is supposed to do and do what she want to do–and so much more! A younger woman helps the older woman feel her bloom and the older woman helps the younger woman see the forest from the trees.
Yesterday I wrote a story about boxing. I would not be boxing today if it weren’t for my 93-year-old friend who introduced me to this form of exercise. I respected her authentic experience and pushed my button to pick up the phone and make an appointment.
A few days ago, I complimented a younger female friend of mine on how she handled herself in a conversation with an older woman. She turned to me and said, “I copy you. I always listen to what you say when we are together. I admire you so much!” “OMG,” I answered in a voice that sounded quite startled, “Thank you so much! I had no idea you felt that way about me. I want you to know I learn from you too.”
Group # 3
BeMoxieNow (I will be changing the name) is a private internet network group on Honeygood.com comprised of 282 women ages 50+ as of today. The site is alive in beta mode, meaning it is being tested for technical issues and content. There are twenty groups as of now on Moxie. Each group has a leader. The groups are very diversified: there is an art group, a positive psychology group, a dog lover’s group, a yoga group, a grandmother group, a healthy lifestyle group, a writer’s group, a superstars group and more.
Come Join Me!
Soon I will be hiring a new network developer to bring my dream to all of you. I want you to join me in my home away from home. Welcoming you in, I will be there with you to hold personal discussions. I will offer you a place to ‘call home’ where you will bring your cup of coffee or tea and your thoughts.
You will meet and learn from other women from all over the world. We will have conversations on all topics that interest you and you will be able to join as many groups as you choose or set up your own group if the mood suits you. Most importantly, you will never be lonely because you will have a group of women to lean on and you will also be a woman on whom others can lean. I would like to have live webinars where we can talk podcasts and other interesting perks we can all enjoy.
Darlings, I Would Love Your Opinion…
I would love your opinions on the type of online network group that would make your heart sing!
Would you enjoy a multigenerational group of women of all ages?
Would you prefer a 50+ group of women?
Does setting up a group in your home or neighborhood interest you and would you want help with a plan?
Would you like to attend Honey Good events?
Satisfying your needs makes me happy and writing to you fulfills me. I love answering you on Facebook and here on the blog because the interactions feed my soul. I want to be girlfriends with you and learn from you and laugh with you and continue to bloom with you!
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