Taking time to reconnect with myself

November 28, 2017 Published by
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Why reconnecting with yourself is vital to your well-being

I walked in on my ultimate concierge. He was sitting at his desk.  I blurted out, “Shelly, I have been married to you for 26 years and you have never heard me say, ‘I am so very tired.’ Everything and everyone else comes first and I have forgotten about myself. I want to get away and reconnect with me.” He stared at me with a worried and shocked look on his face. I continued with some drama-rama, darlings.

“I would like to go to a mythical and magical place, like Shangri-La, where people live a long, healthy life.” First, he laughed, saying, “You are so dramatic.” I continued, “I feel I am wilting.” He was now speechless, this talkative husband of mine.

He finally said, “Would you like me to take you to the Golden Door?” My eyes opened wide and a big smile spread across my face as I replied, “You would take me to the Golden Door?”  I told him I would love that. Just then my iPhone rang. It was Leila, my manicurist. reminding me I had an appointment in 15 minutes. The one weekly pleasure I give myself and I have to be reminded by a phone call to come darlings? Something was not right. I had lost my way.

My health and well-being used to be a priority. I rarely missed a day on my treadmill. I peacefully had a quiet breakfast with my husband. I took Orchid for an early morning walk that always ended with a run up the Museum of Contemporary Arts’ 25 steps, where we plopped ourselves down, Orchid nestled tightly into my body, to watch as the world went by. Taxis and buses and people racing while we relaxed in our aloneness. I was happy. I escaped into great novels and talked on the phone with girlfriends. I shopped at the market and in stores with deliberation. I took my time with planning our calendar, now I forget to send back the reply envelope and call at the last minute. My life was out of balance. I knew it.

I needed to slow down and calm down and figure out how to combat the negatives dismantling my lifestyle. At the Golden Door, I accomplished my mission. I was deliberate. I knew the lack of nourishing the inner and outer me had taken its toll.  I knew who and what my culprits were because these type of culprits that throw off one’s lifestyle don’t occur overnight. They build. You know that. The issue was to attack these culprits with solutions and come up with a new plan. I accomplished this at the Golden Door.

I spent much of the week, because I had the time, thinking about how not to be ‘last on my hit parade.’ How could I live a more peaceful life without giving up everything I loved? I committed myself to living a healthier emotional and physical lifestyle.  I found my way at the Golden Door.

And, because I share my private thoughts with you (it makes me happy) I will share my solutions whereby I can ‘still have it all.’

  1. I blocked a few people off my phone, email and text. I had never done that before. I feel so much better and I might add, powerful, because I took a proper stand.
  2. A wonderful woman who I have known for years and who makes everyone’s heart sing is going to become my personal assistant because Honey Good is growing and I cannot keep up. I want to spend my time doing what I love most at HoneyGood.com. Writing my musings and answering your comments.
  3. No more personal trainers for me. I will take classes at a gym in stretching and whatever else I might enjoy. I will also begin walking on my treadmill 45 minutes daily. I can no longer walk Orchid. She is too ill and I would not enjoy walking alone.
  4. Calm breakfasts with my ultimate concierge and my new Robot, Alexa, playing Hawaiian music or Mozart while I munch on my daily avocado, pomegranate seeds, one egg or a bowl of steel cut oatmeal with raisins and slivered almonds.
  5. I’m adding a facial, a body scrub, and a monthly wax as well as a weekly massage to my routine. These are healthy habits that should become part of our lifestyle. Darlings give up material possessions and pamper the outer you.

I hope my story is teaching you how to treat yourself. I hope you are getting an idea of honing in on who and what is actually worth the investment of your physical and emotional time. I know you know when things are too much for you or not right for you. Respect your body. Respect yourself to leave relationships, a job, a friendship, a lifestyle that is no longer healthy.

My ultimate concierge came to my rescue and I am grateful and appreciative he understood what was going on in my life and could afford the luxury of the Golden Door. I am a most fortunate woman and I am fiercely thankful. I take nothing for granted. I find joy in nature, in the quiet of the day, a kind word from a friend or associate, a text from my grands,  a lesson learned and now my darlings… please come along for the ride, a meaningful relationship with myself.

How do you go about reconnecting with yourself? How do you get back on track?

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18 Comments

  • Marie Christopher says:

    How wonderful to hear how you are reconnecting with yourself. It takes a lot of work sometimes to do that for myself. I feel I have to take care of everyone else first…and then myself. I am practicing to put ME first, then I can be a better person and do what I need to do.

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      You are thinking exactly as I think. Now we have to ‘do’ what we say we are going to do for ourselves. Warmly, Honoey

  • Diane Bosch says:

    Just what I needed to hear…music to my ears. I live in the Coachella Valley, semi retired from our wholesale bakery, and I am desperately trying to find and take care of me. It’s hard.
    Thank you your blog. I look forward to your posts everyday.
    Diane

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      We live in the Coachella Valley too. We are snowbirds. I am so glad you enjoyed my blog. Start out slow with adding one new ‘something’ to your list that is good for you. You will be happy and fulfilled.Then add something else. Keep my posted. Warmly, Honey

  • SoCalAllison says:

    When the waters get rougher than I’d like, I sit in my favorite chair & color with colored pencils in one of my chosen coloring books. [Looking forward to getting a new one by Swedish artist Hanna Karlzon soon!] Sometimes I play jazz or classical music. Otherwise I listen to the birds chirping during the day or the sounds of the night. If that fails, I hail my friends by text message and they rally to “talk” me out of my funky state. Good friends are a blessing!

  • Sally Hoover says:

    1. 20 minutes a day just sitting or walking outside
    2. special face creams
    3. listening to my favorite music
    4. reading books that I am interested in (usually novels about Paris and France)
    5. time with my precious granddaughter
    6. watching food movies (esp. old ones)
    7. going out to eat with my husband
    8. sitting on a beach listening to the waves (Outer Banks)

  • Sally Hoover says:

    no..6 should be Good, not Food movies

  • Elizabeth Sheffer-Winig says:

    Honey, thank you for writing this piece. I am feeling out of sorts since retiring and still finding my way. I have been thinking about doing a retreat at Kripalu, which is near me, in the Berkshire Mountains of Massachusetts. Your article has given me momentum to put that wish for a retreat into a reality. Thank you for giving me the nudge.

  • Joyce Torrence says:

    Absolutely one of your best writings; inspiring and so relevant to our age and times. I have followed many of your suggestions in order to get back to center and take care of myself. Who is going to give us permission to be kind to ourselves? WE ARE!!!!

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Right. We are. We are the only ones to give ourselves permission to reconnect with ourselves. Thank you for enjoying. Makes me happy. Warmly, Honey

  • Randi says:

    The Golden Door is a very expensive way to reconnect with yourself! I am wondering if there is room for a spiritual piece to reconnection?
    Randi

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Of course. And, I will write one. And you are so right.The Golden Door is very expensive and there are many other ways to include our home where we can reconnect with ourselves. Warmly, Honey

  • Regina Doar says:

    Love, love this writing, a great gift, Thank you Honey, you inspire me! Finally in the last day of November, I can still say is my favorite month!
    Regina

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      I am so glad. Reconnect or stay connected with yourself. It is a deserved gift to you and all the women of our community. Warmly, Honey

  • Akaisha Kaderli says:

    Honey, you are a gift to all of us. Your honesty, your sincerity, just your whole authentic approach to life. What a blessing that your website is doing so well so that many women can find their way to your “musings”!

    Thank you! Loved this post. What a great reminder to reconnect with ourselves.
    Akaisha

  • Diana Hibbard says:

    Good Morning Honey
    I don’t get a chance to read your post each day but I do SAVE everyone….and in a quiet moment I look for one that might speak to me.
    And you always do…this morning I read about reconnecting with self…such a good reminder and ways listed to do just that!!
    Thank you for being there.. you are such an inspiration!!
    Best
    Diana

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