Love the Skin You’re In
My darlings, embracing our natural beauty is something we’ve been told to avoid our whole lives. We are constantly bombarded by the media and society telling us that we’re not good enough, that our worth rests on our beauty and our young age. My readers, I am positive that you have felt the pressure to look good at every age no matter what is happening in your lives. I know that I have.
Now darlings, I don’t mean that striving to look your best and having the privilege of nice things isn’t allowed, because it is. If you are a fashionista and love beauty products as I do, that does not imply you are not embracing your natural beauty. In fact, providing myself with the things I enjoy, dressing the way that I do and using the beauty regimens I’ve created only enhance my natural beauty. They help me love myself more.
The Nitty Gritty
This is where we get into the nitty gritty of it all, darlings: self-love. I believe that self-love breeds self-care. The more that you love yourself and the more you know yourself, the more you allow yourself to show the world your true essence.
The way I express myself to the world is how I feel about myself on the inside. Moreso, this vibrancy comes from loving who I am and following my passions. It comes from owning my soul and showing it to every single person I touch within this big, beautiful world.
It Is All in the Process
How does one do this, you may ask? It may not be very simple, my darlings, but trust me when I say that learning to love who you are, all of your beauty marks and scars, is worth it. The time you spend searching your soul for your meaning and your passions will only benefit your life from this moment forward.
Here are a few ways to guide you on your journey to embracing your natural beauty:
1. Attitude & Mindset Shift
My darlings, everything we want to change must start with a shift in your attitude and mindset. We need to change the way our mind works, re-wiring our negative patterns into positive ones. We do this in small ways. I love affirmations. Louise Hay’s book, “You Can Heal Your Life” is a lovely way to get started. Her words will help you begin to shift your thoughts into loving ones. If that is not something you’d like to read, a daily practice of looking in the mirror and saying, “I love you, I love everything about you. You are perfect just the way you are” will make a world of difference. Doing something as small as this will help heal your relationship with yourself. You will and can develop a healthy love for who you are, my darlings!
2. Reframing & Enhancing Our “Imperfections”
I know we all have things about us that we call our “imperfections,” darlings. Although I think these “imperfections” are what make us unique and different, I understand that sometimes it’s hard to love them. To develop a love for your freckles, frown-lines, and wrinkles, start by reframing them as something wonderful and beautiful instead of unwanted. My stretch marks are love marks, my wrinkles are evidence of my laughter and a life well lived. These are things that show I have experienced life and they fuel my vitality. I do not hate them; I embrace them.
3. Exercise & Eat Well
Our bodies our are temples, my darlings and we must treat them as such. If we want to live a long and healthy life, we must not only embrace who we are and love who we are but also treat our bodies with love, kindness, respect and gratitude. Keep yourself moving. Create your meals with love and life. Eat greens and fruits. Give thanks for what you have on your plate and in your belly. Love your body as you would your children or grandchild. Treat it like your best girlfriend. It needs just as much love as the person you adore most. Taking care of your body like an old friend will not only make you feel good but also will help in your process of loving yourself completely.
4. Live in a Judgement-Free Zone
Always live with the forgiveness and love for both yourself and others. When you feel judgment about either yourself or another person, try to reframe it. If you see someone who carries an “imperfection” you see in yourself, how can you learn to love rather than judge that? Take a moment to pause and place warm love and light over your judgment. How does it change? This practice will lead you to a growing love for both yourself and others. Just try it, my darlings!
5. Remember That You Are Enough
No matter what, my sweet readers, remember that you are enough. You are so, so enough, you are never not enough! I declare that you are perfect just the way you are no matter what “imperfections” or judgments others place on us. We were born whole and nobody but ourselves decides who we are or what we do with our bodies and our lives. That is 100% up to us.
All You Need Is Love
Like the Beatles have famously sung, my darlings, all you need is love! Love for yourself, love for others and love for this world. I love you all and I hope this helps you in loving yourself. You are perfect, my readers and I want you to know that.