Many women after 50, and under 50 for that matter, have lost contact with friends and acquaintances over the last two years. The shutdown and restrictions caused by the Chinese Virus have been a huge culprit; causing a forced loneliness and lethargic epidemic that left many women feeling lonely and disconnected. On a positive note, those hours of alone time have given women the opportunity to reflect on their joys, sorrows, and how they wanted to move forward after, and one of those natural questions has become: how do we make friends again in a changed world?

What the pandemic has done to women and friendships

First, you’ve likely questioned your current relationships, ultimately deciding to make changes for political or health reasons. I know I learned much about my friends personalities during the last two years. Did your friends choose to totally self-isolate? Or did they choose to follow the guidelines but live their best life possible outside the box? And which was more attractive to you?

Second, though no fault of your own, lethargy has likely set in with your current relationships. A new and unpleasant sluggish and apathetic feeling for every woman in the world whether over age 50 or younger. I bet you’ve thought to yourself, “I want friends but I don’t want to work at friendship. I have lost my get up and go!”.

And, lastly, women over 50 are finding they no longer have the building blocks they once had as younger women. The empty nester syndrome, retirement, moving, and widowhood are all in the mix; all of that coupled with the isolation caused by the pandemic, relationship changes, and general lethargy, I find it no wonder that women are asking themselves how to find new friends after the age of 50! Never despair, darling. When you have a will, you will find your way!

Let’s be honest,  it is both easier and harder to make new friends at this stage in life. The ball is entirely in your court. Gathering women into your life is easier on one hand because time is in your favor. On the other hand, it is harder because you have to make an enormous effort. Forming new relationships is a job, but it is ‘work that is worth it’ because WOMEN NEED WOMEN.

Let’s take the lucky woman who has had the same best friend since childhood. She is rare. Most of us have lost friends along the way, or our friendships have changed as we’ve moved through different phases of life. Some friendships have lasted for decades, enduring through various life stages and changes, showing just how strong and lasting these bonds can be.

Why women do not have friends

Ask yourself why you do not have friends? Every woman has her unique reasons but here are a few maybe you…

• Are shy, a loner, or avoid social situations altogether
• Move often
• Can’t find women with the same interests as you
• Try too hard
• Can make friends but you’re not good at maintaining them
• Don’t let women get too close to you
• Feel life is too busy with other commitments
• Don’t know where to look!

Remember, all friendships begin with strangers. Reaching out to strangers is the first step to building new connections.

Darling, it is time for you to see the social benefits of having new women in your life!

Let’s take the lucky woman. She has her same friends from childhood and young adulthood. They likely car pooled together, went to each other’s children’s birthday parties, attended weddings, anniversary parties, traveled, gossiped, laughed and grew together like the roots of trees. They are entwined for life and this is just the cat’s meow!

But what about us! What can we do? We must realize the benefits of having women in our lives. It is a proven fact that friendship increases happiness, personal development, reduces stress, and even reduces the risk for illness!

How to make new friends

First, ‘commit’ yourself to a plan. And, stick to it. Period!

All friendships must begin with a first step, so don’t hesitate to take initiative. Don’t worry about rejection. You are not going to connect with every woman you meet. It is OK, darling. More relationships are temporary than life long. I have heard this saying,“A woman knows within seconds when she meets a ‘new face’ if there is a special rapport.” I believe that to be true. When your heart instantly tells you ‘to go,’ go darling!  Pursue her.

The best thing you can do to build relationships is to be yourself; be authentic, open, and honest. Most importantly, just be a friendly face! Making friends after 50 can feel awkward for all women – so decide to be the smiling face in the crowd that compliments other women and makes them feel good. Start with a smile and a nice hello. You never know which acquaintances may turn into friends.

If you’re looking for a simple answer to how to make new friends after 50, try reaching out to acquaintances or joining a group to start making connections.

Rekindling Old Friendships

Have you ever wondered what happened to that good friend from years ago—the one you used to laugh with over coffee, or the work friend who always made your lunch break brighter? Rekindling old friendships can be one of the most rewarding ways to bring new joy and connection into your life after 50. With a bit of effort and the help of modern tools like Facebook, it’s easier than ever to find and reconnect with old friends who once meant so much.

Start by reaching out to an old friend you’ve been thinking about. A simple message or phone call can open the door: “I was just thinking about you and all the fun we had. Would you like to meet for coffee or lunch and catch up?” This gentle approach shows you care and makes it easy for your old friend to respond. If you’re both active on social media, don’t hesitate to send a friendly message or comment on a post to break the ice.

When you do meet, take time to talk about your lives, families, and interests. Share stories from the past, but also discuss what’s new—your job, hobbies, or even a recent book you’ve enjoyed. This helps you both connect in the present and create new memories together. Sometimes, you’ll find that your old friendship picks up right where it left off; other times, it may take a little patience and understanding to rebuild your connection.

To deepen your renewed friendship, suggest joining a book club, art class, or community group together. Volunteering for a cause you both care about can also be a wonderful way to bond and meet new people as a team. These shared experiences create new connections and give you both something to look forward to.

Remember, rekindling old friendships is a two-way street. It takes effort, understanding, and a willingness to create space for each other in your lives again. Be open to new interests and changes—after all, you’ve both grown and changed over the years. With a little encouragement and a lot of heart, you can rediscover the joy of old friendships and even create new traditions together.

So, darling, why not take the first step today? Reach out to that friend you’ve been missing, suggest a coffee date, or invite them to join you at a community event. You never know what wonderful new connections and memories you might create—sometimes, the best friendships are the ones we choose to rekindle.

Where to Meet New Women

It is the same ole same ole, but it never hurts to constantly reinforce where to meet other women.

Consider joining a church, which often serves as a community hub offering social groups and opportunities to volunteer. Engaging with your neighborhood by attending local events or joining neighborhood groups can help you meet people who live nearby. Volunteering is another great way to meet new people, build friendships, and find meaningful engagement.

You can also join an online site, such as Meetup.com, to find groups and events that match your interests. Visiting a coffee shop is a casual and accessible way to meet people and start authentic conversations. Book clubs, often held at libraries, bookstores, or community centers, are excellent for connecting with like-minded women who enjoy reading and discussion.

Remember, some activities will introduce you to more people, expanding your social circle and increasing your chances of forming close friendships.

Take a class or join a group and strike up conversation

Take a class then reach out when in need. The others in your class have the same interest you have. There will be someone in that class that you can connect with!

I recall I had to take a History 101 in a huge lecture hall. Graduating from high school in Kankakee by the Sea left much to be desired. I had no idea how to take lecture notes, but the girl next to me did. After class I asked her if she would mind teaching me how to take notes. She said yes, and though we were opposites, we became best friends!

Join social circles other than online. A mixed bridge club, art class, movie group, wine tasting group, gym, dance class, or even a walking group are great options. Walking with others, especially in organized groups, is a simple way to meet new people and strengthen community connections. If you have a dog, consider joining a dog-walking group or simply walking your dog in the neighborhood—dogs tend to attract friendly conversations and can help foster new friendships. You will have something in common with the others in the circle.

Tend to social opportunities by being proactive in group settings. The more you engage, the more likely you are to connect with others who are also open to new friendships.

You can even consider joining a private Facebook group. Mine! Celebrate Life for women after 50. The women really engage and some have met in person.

Explore new things

Get out of your comfort zone. Leave your house and explore museums, restaurants, local parks, the Opera and Symphony. If you’ve recently moved to a new city, take advantage of the unique opportunities and challenges it offers for meeting people—urban environments often have a wide variety of social events and activities to join. You can introduce yourself to a vast pool of women by doing this. What about taking a solo travel vacation? How fun! This is the venue that would peak my fancy, seeing the world and making new friends.

As you meet new acquaintances, don’t hesitate to invite them to join you in exploring new activities or attending events together. Extending an invitation can help strengthen budding friendships and make shared experiences more memorable.

Now, that you have met a few people, how do you keep the friendship burning?

Work. Work. Work.

Be with them consistently. Make dates for lunch, dinner and events. Work on the relationship. Be a better friend by being a good listener. Women love to talk. Talk less and listen more. Share your authentic self. Show your vulnerable side.

Stay connected with friends who moved and reconnect with old friends. Don’t forget your work friends—maintaining these relationships, even after retirement or job changes, can lead to lasting and meaningful friendships. Use writing—such as letters, emails, or messages—as a way to nurture these connections and keep your friendships strong, no matter where life takes you.

Be a social minimalist

REMEMBER: you do not have to be a social butterfly. You do not need more than one or two good friends. It is very important to feel connected with others for your mental and physical health, but you do not need an army of women in your life. Family relationships, such as those with your mother or daughter, can also be a core part of your social circle and provide meaningful support and connection.

In other words, you can be a social minimalist, darling. Find your niche with a few fabulous women and think of their value as important as food and shelter, and think of yourself as their food and shelter.

Be selective in who you choose and you’ll find you have a strong network of women you can really count on. Personally, I want to be with women who light my fire; they must be warm and kind, not self centered, give back with joy, authentic (hard to find), and say what is on their mind. My friends must also be loyal, engaging, and live outside the box.

I am absolutely committed to being selective with my friendships, and I’m always glad when I reconnect with or maintain close bonds with those who truly matter.

I am asking for a lot, I know, but that is my mantra. I prefer to be a social minimalist with lots of acquaintances! As the quote says, I’d rather have four quarters than 100 pennies.

How do you find friends after 50? Share your tips with us in the comments section!