Living in Elsewhere is as foreign as it gets. At this time, I am beyond grateful for this certain and positive constant in my life. What is it? Well, it’s love.

What do I love? I love my Ultimate Concierge, my family, my pooch America, my orchid plants, my best friends, my memories, a sunny day, my views outside my windows of Lake Michigan and my beautiful Chicago, knowledge, and my hope that my love of life never fails me.

Shower Those You Love With Love

The month of February is the month of love. It seems odd because it is the coldest month of the year. But maybe this was meant to be because with cold weather comes the desire to light candles or the fireplace, turn on music, pour your hubby or partner a glass of wine, spritz yourself with perfume, and shower your partner with love. There is no end date to good sex. Remember, darling, men are hunters!

What I Do To Show My Love

I tell my Ultimate Concierge he is handsome and sexy because I think he is!

I kiss my husband out of the blue more than once a day and every day. And, we both tell each other every day, “I love you.”

I dress for my husband because I want him to be proud of me

We always go to bed together.

I am the instigator and innovator of new plans and he always makes them happen. We share.

I find documentaries and series that we will both enjoy.

We converse. And, we talk about everything. We have no secrets. He is my best girlfriend!

We keep each other posted on the going on with all our children and grands in a blended family.

I always buy him sentimental gifts with a message for Valentine’s Day. One year I bought him a Hermès tie with lions all over it and wrote on the card, “You are the King of my jungle.” I gave him Barry Kieselstein cufflinks that are suns and wrote, “You are the sunshine of my life.” One year, I wrote him a poem and put it in a Tiffany Silver frame. I have given him elephants with the trunk up for good luck.

But the greatest gift I have given him is listening to him, being in touch with his feelings, and giving him my attention. This makes every man feel cherished and significant.

Treating Those I Love With Love

My mother was my role model. She treated my father like a King. He was never demanding or asked anything from my mom. It was my mom. She knew how to treat her man. She never told me how to be a good wife. But, she showed me.

I think I have been a good wife because my Ultimate Concierge is a good husband. It takes two to tango and he is well…. the Ultimate Concierge! You can’t get better than that.

I will admit life in Elsewhere is trying for me. My husband has handled Elsewhere far better. I think the reason I am having a very hard time co-existing with Elsewhere is that I have always been overly positive with optimism. It usually oozes out of my pours no matter what comes my way. Elsewhere has robbed me of my optimism because I have lost my faith in humanity, the human race.

My one positive is my rock, my Ultimate Concierge, Sheldon F. Good; my 365 days a year Valentine who has earned my love in every way.

Elsewhere Has Tested Us

I must tell you that this year’s life in Elsewhere has tested us. There is no romance in the air. I couldn’t put my finger on the reason until very recently. There is no laughter because life in Elsewhere is so problematic. People the world over require engagement rather than isolation. Joy instead of fear. Freedom instead of control.

So, don’t be hard on yourself this year if you are feeling somewhat blah. It’s because you probably have been without laughter as I have. Laughter prompts our brain to release endorphins that make us happy. Happiness ignites a positive feeling that makes us feel passionate, excited, and optimistic.

Gratitude is My Salvation

I must tell you feeling grateful is my salvation. Appreciating the love and kindness I receive from my Ultimate Concierge and others, as well as my capacity to give back, keeps me afloat. I am grateful that love surrounds my private life. I cherish the feeling. And, I am smiling.

So, darling, during this bleak time, count your blessings of the love you are able to give and the love you receive doubly hard. This is how we will survive.

Sending love and friendship across the miles from my home to yours.

How do you keep the love alive while living in Elsewhere? Let me know your thoughts in the comments at the bottom of this page. I want to hear from you!

 

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