I know from my personal experience that women need women in their lives; the right type of women that mirror their lifestyle and values. Joining different groups, I believe, affords women these opportunities. While this article focuses on women over 50, it’s important to recognize that adults of all ages can experience loneliness and benefit from group support.

You know women over the age of 50+ have time to enjoy and benefit from having other women in their lives. Women after 50 are empty nesters, retired, and for the first time in years feeling liberated from commitments. You no longer have the school setting to forge friendships. Several of you have moved to a new city or new neighborhood. If you let it happen this could become a lonely time in your life when it should become a time to thrive and continue your bloom.

You have before you the perfect setting. This is when you have the time to begin luxuriating in what makes your hearts sing. I believe relationships with other women can help you do just that. How? Groups provide opportunities to connect, and the benefits of joining groups include fostering meaningful relationships and reducing feelings of loneliness.

Joining groups can also help combat isolation by fostering authentic communities and emotional connection, giving you a sense of belonging and support, and providing a strong sense of community.

But first a little tidbit from Honey.

Two women strangers are seated next to one another on a flight from LA to Miami. By the time the flight lands, they know how many children each has. They know how many times they have been married, they understand the purpose for their respective trips to Miami. They’ve shared the best brand bra to buy for women with large busts, and even each other’s personal problems! Two strangers in four hours become intimate friends! Sometimes, simply having someone to talk to can help when you feel lonely, and these conversations can quickly turn strangers into friends.

It is a fact that women engage in conversation with like-minded women. Women share. Women love dialogue. At our core, we women are nurturers and love to help and advise! Women love chatter and gossip. There is not a woman alive that does not love to gather information! When women lack opportunities to talk and connect with others, they may feel lonely, highlighting the importance of communication and support. Right?

WOMEN NEED WOMEN

In my experience, women are, by nature, busybodies and it is all good. And, after the age of 50+ with more time on her hands, a woman has been set free to make relationships with her fellow sisters.

My private Facebook group, GRANDwomen with Moxie…Where Loneliness Disappears, is proof that groups work. Members actively support each other, share experiences, and foster a sense of community. Groups also foster a sense of belonging among members, making everyone feel included and valued. In some group therapy settings, a therapist plays a key role in facilitating discussions, ensuring a safe environment, and guiding the group toward healing and connection. Women engage with one another — big time.

Therefore, I know from experience that small private groups of women work, which proves my point that women need women.

I ran my own little group of 10 women for four years. And, I am humbled to say the New York Times ran an article in its Sunday Edition of another one of my groups. This was a multigenerational group of women from the age of 28 to 96 years old. After two hours of non-stop talking they did not want our meet-up to end! These groups helped members overcome feelings of loneliness and isolation.

INTRODUCTION TO LONELINESS

Loneliness is something that touches so many lives, often in ways we don’t expect. It’s more than just being alone—it’s a deep feeling of emotional isolation, a sense that we’re disconnected from those around us. For many, loneliness can creep in during times of transition, after a big life change, or when we’re facing mental health challenges. It can be triggered by social isolation, a lack of meaningful connections, or simply feeling misunderstood.

The effects of loneliness go far beyond our emotions. Persistent feelings of loneliness can lead to negative feelings, depression, and anxiety, impacting our overall mental health and well-being. It’s a struggle that can feel overwhelming, but it’s important to remember that you’re not alone in feeling this way. Many people experience these same challenges, and there are ways to combat loneliness and reclaim a sense of connection.

One of the most effective coping strategies is to seek out support—whether through group therapy, support groups, or simply reaching out to others who understand. These groups provide a safe space to share your feelings, learn from others, and develop meaningful connections that can help break the cycle of isolation. By understanding the causes and effects of loneliness, we can take steps to create supportive communities that foster genuine relationships and promote better mental health for everyone.

If you’re feeling lonely, know that there is hope. With the right support and a willingness to reach out, it’s possible to overcome loneliness, find understanding, and build a life filled with connection and purpose.

MY FIRST GROUP THERAPY

Perhaps you’ve read my post on embracing serendipity? This was just such an occasion. The first time I led a group happened by chance when I met a young advertising executive. He expressed a strong interest in research about women over 50, specifically to better understand their psychology for advertising purposes. A review of existing literature and focus group insights helped inform the group’s discussions and objectives. The group was formed in part to contribute to research and deepen understanding of this demographic.

A SHORT DESCRIPTION OF THE WOMEN

I chose friends who were married or had a significant other, they were moms and grandmas. Many had careers, they were educated, they had taken up activities from travel to sports, to book clubs to classes, etc. Loneliness can deeply affect families, influencing family dynamics and the well-being of everyone involved. Strengthening family connections is essential in addressing the broader impacts of social isolation.

They were from several different cities. These women were not at home sitting on their laurels. They felt ‘invisible’ due to their age. These women had joy and freedom but also shared their struggles and issues within the group. I could feel their gladness in accepting my invitation because they all left my home with smiles and still yaketing. It was all good.

MY REACTION

I thought about the group meeting with the young advertiser on and off for two weeks because of the word, invisible. These lovely friends of mine all felt, in different degrees, invisible. I wanted to know why because it made me feel sad. That word and the word lonely were the driving force behind my desire to start groups. Chronic loneliness can lead to negative feelings and significantly impact mental well-being, making it important to address these persistent emotions. Social isolation and loneliness also increase the risk of physical health problems, mental health decline, and the deterioration of social skills.

I stopped thinking and started doing. I felt empowered. So I phoned my friend, Jane, who has a degree in Family Psychology. She had participated in the first group meet-up. I wanted her opinion. She liked the idea, so… The group aimed to help women cope with loneliness and negative feelings by providing support and connection.

I made phone calls, pooling from different groups of friends, explaining the platform. I imagined some of the women would turn me down … not one woman said no. They were over-the-top thrilled saying, “I would love to be part of a group. This is what I want in my life. I feel invisible and sometimes lonely, too.”

And, so our group was born, ten strong, that lasted for four years. When I left California and Covid reared its ugly head and  Elsewhere was born, the group dissolved.

MY TIME WITH THE GROUP

I was honored to lead the group. I am aware that small women’s groups that discuss our feelings and the passages we enter after 50+ are significant. To have an open discussion about our personal lives — our ideas and challenges — was so enlightening and empowering. We luxuriated in it because it was like a breath of fresh air.

For two hours we met at my home at 9:30 am, on the first Wednesday of each month. We were 10 in number. Each week we sat around my dining room table. I served muffins, coffee, tea, dates, and figs, etc. Jane and I led the group. It was informal and we had topics. We had one rule. Our conversations would be kept private within the four walls of my home. Occasionally, conflicts would arise during our discussions, but we managed them respectfully, ensuring everyone felt heard and valued.

Because my group met with such success, I was honored to be interviewed by the New York Times. Because of this serendipitous happening, I started my private Facebook group, and now that I am living full time in Chicago, I will hopefully start a group in my home soon. As of yet, I have not had the time. Sharing our experiences in the group also helped boost members’ self esteem, as we supported and validated each other.

I now understand and realize how important it is to share feelings with other women. To participate in discussions about family, friendships, love, and loss. About individual style, visibility versus feeling invisible as women over 50. Our challenges, goals, and dreams. There are real health risks associated with loneliness, but participating in a group can help mitigate these risks by fostering meaningful connections.

As expressed, I am proud of myself for taking the initiative of starting women’s groups. Though I lacked experience, I felt empowered to take the bull by the horns and try. I am delighted to say, each experience has been enlightening. Group dynamics can greatly affect the outcome and emotional experience of members, shaping how we connect and grow together. The group fostered a genuine sense of shared human experience and empathy, allowing us to relate to one another on a deeper level. Members supported each other through personal struggle, offering encouragement and understanding. We would respond to each other’s stories and emotions with compassion and openness. Activities like dancing were also included to foster connection and engagement among us. You can start with joining a group in your vicinity, or my online groups, GRANDwomen with Moxie and Honeygood.com. If you are interested in joining a supportive group, I invite you to explore these options and consider reaching out. Why not feel enlightened and join 3?! I am smiling.

COPING STRATEGIES FOR LONELINESS

Coping with loneliness begins with recognizing that these feelings are a natural part of the human experience—something we all encounter at different points in our lives. The first step is to acknowledge your feelings of loneliness without judgment, understanding that you are not alone in facing these challenges. From there, it’s important to seek out connections that can help you break the cycle of isolation and negative feelings.

One of the most effective ways to combat loneliness is by engaging in group therapy or joining support groups. These groups offer a safe space where you can share your experiences, talk openly about your struggles, and connect with others who truly understand what you’re going through. In these settings, you’ll find people facing similar challenges, and together, you can develop healthy coping strategies that support your mental health and well-being.

Spending time with friends and family is another powerful way to overcome loneliness. Even small moments of connection—a phone call, a walk, or a shared meal—can make a big difference in how you feel. If you’re struggling to reach out, remember that many others feel the same way, and taking the first step can open the door to meaningful relationships.

Building self-esteem and practicing self-care are also essential parts of coping with loneliness. Focus on activities that bring you joy, nurture your interests, and help you feel good about yourself. Whether it’s pursuing a hobby, volunteering, or simply taking time to relax, these actions can help you regain a sense of purpose and connection.

Ultimately, overcoming loneliness is about reaching out, being open to support, and allowing yourself to be understood. By joining groups, connecting with others, and caring for your mental health, you can break free from negative feelings and create a life filled with hope, understanding, and genuine connection.

BUILDING AUTHENTIC CONNECTIONS

At the heart of overcoming loneliness is the ability to build authentic connections with others. These meaningful relationships don’t just happen overnight—they’re created through shared experiences, open conversations, and a willingness to truly listen and respond to one another. Whether it’s through group therapy, support groups, or simply spending time with people who understand your journey, these connections can make all the difference in your mental health and sense of belonging.

In a group setting, you’ll often find that others are facing similar challenges. This shared understanding creates a safe space where you can open up about your feelings of loneliness, knowing you’ll be met with empathy and support rather than judgment. When we engage in honest conversation, show genuine interest in each other’s lives, and offer encouragement, we begin to create a sense of community that lifts us up and helps us heal.

These authentic connections do more than just ease negative feelings—they can boost your self-esteem, give you hope, and remind you that you’re not alone. By participating in groups that value openness and understanding, you’ll find that your struggles are shared by others, and together, you can develop new coping strategies and a renewed sense of purpose.

Ultimately, building authentic connections is about being present, showing empathy, and making the effort to understand and support one another. It’s a powerful way to combat loneliness, improve your mental health, and create a life filled with meaning and joy. By prioritizing these connections, we can all contribute to a more supportive, compassionate world—one where no one has to feel invisible or alone.

WHAT MAKES A GROUP WORK?

The magic of a truly supportive group lies in its dynamics—the way members interact, listen, and respond to one another. In a well-functioning group setting, meaningful connections are built on trust, empathy, and a shared commitment to understanding each other’s feelings of loneliness and life experiences.

A skilled therapist or group leader plays a key role in creating this environment, guiding conversations, managing conflicts, and ensuring that every participant feels heard and understood. When group members feel safe and supported, they are more likely to engage openly, share their stories, and offer encouragement to others. This sense of security allows for honest conversation, where everyone can express their feelings without fear of judgment.

Active listening is another cornerstone of effective group dynamics. When participants truly listen to one another, they create a sense of validation and belonging. Members respond with empathy, offer feedback, and support each other through challenges, which helps to overcome feelings of loneliness and isolation.

Conflicts may arise, but in a healthy group, these moments are handled with respect and care. Open dialogue and a willingness to understand different perspectives help to strengthen the group’s sense of community. Ultimately, it’s this supportive atmosphere that allows members to grow, heal, and form lasting connections.

By understanding the importance of effective group dynamics, you can seek out or help create groups that foster genuine connection, support, and personal growth. Whether you’re joining a new group or nurturing an existing one, remember that the way members engage with each other is the key to overcoming loneliness and building a sense of belonging.

PERSONAL GROWTH AND DEVELOPMENT THROUGH GROUPS

Joining a group can be a transformative experience, offering far more than just companionship—it can be a powerful journey of personal growth and development. Through group therapy and support groups, individuals have the chance to connect with others who face similar challenges, share their stories, and learn from one another’s experiences.

These group interactions provide a unique opportunity to gain new perspectives and develop emotional intelligence. As you listen to others and share your own feelings, you begin to understand yourself and those around you on a deeper level. This process not only helps to overcome feelings of loneliness and isolation but also boosts self-esteem and confidence.

Participating in group activities and discussions can help you realize the importance of human connection and the benefits of supportive relationships. You’ll find a renewed sense of purpose and belonging, which is essential for mental health and overall well-being. The encouragement and understanding you receive from group members can inspire you to set new goals, embrace challenges, and celebrate your achievements.

As you progress on your personal growth journey, you’ll discover that the connections you make in groups are a vital source of support and hope. These relationships remind us that we are not alone in our struggles and that, together, we can overcome even the most persistent feelings of loneliness.

Ultimately, the benefits of joining a group extend far beyond the meetings themselves. You gain a sense of community, develop lifelong coping strategies, and realize the true importance of connection in your life. By embracing the opportunities that groups provide, you can break free from isolation and create a life filled with meaning, support, and joy.

FINDING THE RIGHT GROUP FOR YOU

When it comes to overcoming loneliness and social isolation, finding the right group can make all the difference in your mental health and overall well-being. If you’re facing mental health challenges or simply longing for more meaningful connections, know that you’re not alone—many people are searching for that sense of belonging and understanding.

Start by considering what you hope to gain from joining a group. Are you looking for support groups that focus on mental health, group therapy sessions to address depression or anxiety, or perhaps a more informal gathering centered around shared interests? The key is to find a group setting that feels safe, welcoming, and supportive—a place where you can share your feelings of loneliness without fear of judgment.

When searching for the right group, pay attention to the group’s focus, size, and the way participants interact. Some people thrive in smaller, more intimate groups, while others enjoy the energy of larger gatherings. Look for groups that encourage open conversation and create a safe space for everyone to express themselves. Support groups and group therapy sessions, whether in-person or online, can be especially helpful for those dealing with similar challenges, offering a sense of community and understanding that is vital for mental health.

Don’t hesitate to explore different options. Many local organizations, community centers, and mental health professionals offer group therapy or support groups tailored to various needs. Online communities are also a wonderful resource, especially if you’re dealing with mobility issues or live in an area with limited access to in-person groups. These virtual spaces can help you connect with others who truly understand what you’re going through, breaking the cycle of isolation and helping you feel supported.

Remember, finding the right group is a journey. It’s perfectly normal if the first group you try doesn’t feel like the perfect fit. Keep searching, stay open, and trust that you will find a group where you feel understood and valued. By taking this step, you’re not only working to combat loneliness, but also creating opportunities to build lasting connections and improve your mental health.

Ultimately, joining a group is about more than just filling your calendar—it’s about creating a sense of connection, support, and hope. With the right group, you can break free from feelings of loneliness, gain new coping strategies, and achieve a more fulfilling, connected life. Don’t be afraid to reach out, try something new, and let yourself be supported. The right group is out there, ready to welcome you with open arms.

Would you agree that women need women? Let’s start a discussion in the comments. I love hearing from you!

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