Coffee And Social Rituals with Women Friends

September 29, 2019 By
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We are on this earth to connect. Socializing is an unwritten law, a ritual we cannot live without.

For most of us, the first task of the day includes performing the simple ritual of brewing a pot of coffee. I walk into our kitchen and open the cabinet to take out the jar of freshly-ground coffee. Opening up another cabinet and gaze at the assortment of mugs in all shapes, sizes, and colors that my ultimate concierge and I have chosen together on our worldly travels.

This ritual clears my mind with purpose and elicits my first feelings of enthusiasm. I ask myself which mugs I feel like taking out of the cabinet to fill up with freshly-brewed coffee for myself and Shelly. I choose for myself the flowered Monet cup from Monet’s garden and take out a masculine cup in black and white that reads The Met in bold print for my ultimate concierge.

Meeting Up for Coffee

This is my first social ritual of the day. I am not thinking about me, I am thinking about us. I feel a rush of love and enthusiasm as I anticipate sharing a cup of coffee with my husband. This social act, the ritual of ‘coffee for two’ with my husband, extends to relationships with our friends and acquaintances over cups of freshly-brewed coffee.

A shared morning cup of coffee with other women is the connector that can start an important social ritual: a weekly or monthly meet-up or online group. Let’s meet for coffee in person or over the internet is often used as a metaphor for let’s get together to gab about this and that. I want to listen to your opinions, I want to laugh, I want advice. I simply want to share time with other women.

Women Certainly Need Women

I often discuss the fact that women need women. I write about this because I genuinely miss laughing and learning from friends of all ages. Consumed with responsibilities, I put interacting with other women on the back burner.

Last night, I attended the Chicago Association of Realtors’ annual dinner with my ultimate concierge. The highlight of my evening was laughing and sharing conversations with other women, all of them younger. Many I knew and some I met for the first time. My enthusiasm was high all evening because of the exchange of conversation with topics ranging from digital marketing to divorce, we were united and age was just a number. Life experiences and knowledge were the cream in our coffee!

Riding home with my ultimate concierge close beside me in the taxi–I don’t take Ubers, darlings because I support my beautiful Chicago taxi drivers–it hit me my husband was the oldest man in the room and the Icon of Chicago Real Estate in everyone’s mind. His ability to impart his wisdom to young realtors of all ages awarded him his title.

Continue Learning From Everyone

So many women over 50+ let their chronological age define them. The pressures for women, young and older, to look younger and more beautiful is heaped upon us through the media. Perfect images of women with airbrushed skin are not good for any woman’s self-esteem.

Spending time without a tribe of wonderful and supportive women in your life is not good for the soul. I am fortunate to have kind friends who support me, my honey bees at Honeygood.com younger and older who teach me and an openness to let women of all walks of life join me in life. My problem is I want more. Time does not allow.

Different Groups for Women

So, I was thinking about a few options to quell my thirst. I want to create a situation where, over a cup of coffee or tea or hot water with lemon, we can share girly information.

The idea of weekly ‘Coffee Group’ on Facebook Live, Wednesday Coffee with Honey, crossed my mind. I was thinking about having an advice column on HoneyGood.com, and on Instagram through #goodadvice where you could send in questions and I would answer them individually and try and figure out a method for many women to offer you advice. I do have my start-up group, HoneyGoodNetwork.com that still needs technical improvement, but I have my Ambassador, Susan Berman Hammer pr@honeygood.com at your beckon call to help you sign-up if you have problems. There are already over 300 women in groups of all kinds sharing with one another. All of this is free.

My goal is to selfishly spend time with you because it will make me so happy and hopefully keep you feeling happy, grateful and young as well. And to think this story became reality because I opened my kitchen cabinet to prepare my daily ritual of making coffee.

Would you enjoy our Coffee Group on Facebook Live or do you have questions to submit for #goodadvice? I’m eager to learn about your thoughts in the comments below or on Facebook and Instagram.

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16 Comments

  • L says:

    I love it honey !!!!

    Good advice column is fantastic idea

    For people that have face book is a great idea u could do coffee club instead of book club every wed 🙂

    Tx L ❤enjoy your day xox

  • Marcia Robert says:

    LOVE the idea of women connecting! I am 72 years YOUNG, widowed….but have a significant man in my life, love dressing fashionably, am happy and content….but would love to share and learn from other women!

  • Cathie says:

    I do not do Facebook, but would love to connect through Instagram

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      I have an Instagram. Would you like to join my honeygoodnetwork.com? It is free and made up of groups of women on all different subjects. If you are interested contact Susan at pr@honeygood.com and she will help you. Warmly, Honey

  • Margo says:

    My husband gets up and puts the coffe on each morning. He yells when it’s ready and right now we take our cups out to the porch. We had a pair of dark green coffee cups that I bought while we were building our last house. They lasted 23 years and oddly enough, one broke right before we moved. We ditched the other and now use cups we bought for our cottage. His is burgundy and mine is aqua.
    I identify with you and your feelings of needing other women. The loss of my mowas devastating. I always say I lost my audience as she was so interested in my life and always liked whatever I did, whether it was cooking, entertaining, sewing or decorating my house. I have no sister, no daughters, really just no one but my two sisters in law. But they are very close to one another so very often I’m not included in their plans. I end up very hurt most of the time as well as very lonely. Since moving here 3 years ago I’ve had difficulty making friends, I don’t fit in very well in this community. My husband and I are always together and I value our relationship of 50 years more than words can say, but there are times when you just want to talk to another woman, have coffee or a cup of tea. It would be so nice if I could pop in and chat with you.

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      If I am answering you a second time it is because something is not working properly on my computer. Women need women. I spend tons of time with my husband but I still need women just as you do. I am going to put up a FB live Coffee with Honey and an Advice column. What city do you live in? I understand how you feel. Many other women feel the same. Warmly, Honey

  • Martha says:

    You highlight some important points on how connecting with others regularly enhances our lives and emotional well-being. I think a ‘coffee group’ on Facebook live would be a great idea!

  • D says:

    I love the idea! I would love to connect to other women with “much ado about nothing!” I am currently at a place with friends that are complacent in never exploring different things.
    I would enjoy a breath of fresh air from shared experiences in living no matter your age.

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Please join my honeygoodnetwork.com. It is made up of different groups and so far we have over 300 women. It is free. The site is not tech perfect yet but it will be.You can join as many groups as you want and even start one of your own. Please contact susan at pr@honeygood.com for help signing up if you have any problems. She is great and will help you. Warmly, Honey

  • Marion Thorpe says:

    I love your sweet musings Honey and place them in a file ‘Ladies of Leisure’ together with Margaret’s ‘Sixty & Me’ who first put me onto you! Can’t always read/view immediately due to time differences. I love you both and considering, comparing and contrasting all your valuable ideas as admirable strong women of substance. A coffee club on Facebook sounds like fun…you go girl!

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      My mind is racing with ideas about an online FB: Coffee with Honey. I would want all the women to interact with one another. I am excited to do this. Stay tuned and thank you. Do you save all my stories or ones you think are special? I am asking because I want to do an ebook of my favorite stories. Warmly, Honey

  • Mary Jane says:

    I am lucky to have good friends to share coffee with. At home, I’m not human until I have that first cup! lol ☕️ I think I relish that time to just be. It helps to start the day.
    I would love an advice column where we could post questions for advice! Our own coffee group! 😘

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      I am thinking about having a FB Live Coffee with Honey where we can all interact. And, putting up an advice column on my site. yes, you are lucky to have friendships. “Women need Women. Have to rush now…to have my first cup of coffee!!! 🙂

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