My goal is to help you create a lifestyle of positivity and possibility. I am smiling!

– Warmly, Honey

Ask Honey – Advice for Women Over 50 (January 2)

Happy New Year! Let’s welcome in 2020 by undertaking things that have never been. January is the month of reinvention; an action or process through which something is changed so much it appears to be entirely new.

We are all GRAND women with moxie, yet nevertheless, we are confronted with forks and curves in our road. As you are well aware, women need women for advice on a million different topics! We share information and seek answers to our woes; large and small. 

I am here to guide and recommend with my advice to every situation or topic that confronts you. My answers will be genuine and based on my experience and knowledge. My goal is to guide you towards your own answer. If you ask me a question that I am unable to answer, I will do my best to send you in the right direction for help.

Warmly and with moxie,

Honey

 

An Anonymous Darling Asks:

I will be spending the month of February with my grand baby and her partner on N. Hutchinson Island. She is 22 and I am 82. Any suggestions besides reading books?

Dear Darling,

I love multigenerational relationships. You both can learn and discover so much from one another, especially a granddaughter and grandmother. Here are some ideas for you to plant in your heads leading up to your month of February together.

1. She will know technology. You have a teacher at your disposal. If you have a tablet, iPhone or computer bring everything and take lessons from her and up your skills. She can teach you how to play games, keep a journal, watch a movie, etc.

2. Buy her a one year subscription to Netflix as a gift this month so it will be up and working in February. Watch movies together. Here are a few good ones that take hours to watch and are fabulous: Yellow Stone, The Crown and The Outlander. I have watched all of them.

3. Bring her a recipe box with your favorite family recipes as a little gift and of course teach her how to make them.

4. Ask to meet her best friend(s) and take them to lunch.

5. Take her shopping.

6. Celebrate Valentine’s Day. Go for a manicure and pedicure together and then do lunch together.

7. Read up on the history of N. Hutchinson Island and ask her to take you to places you would like to see. The weather should be beautiful.

8. Go to the movies with her and her partner. There are some good ones out right now.

9. Spend the time loving each other!

Happy New Year!

Warmly,

Honey

 


 

Lina Asks:

My mother-in-law thinks she can come over and control my kids and my husband says nothing even when she upsets me. Why does my husband not say anything?

Dear Lina,

Living in harmony with a mother-in-law, especially one who is a budinsky, is very complicated because she is the mother of your husband. You and your mother-in-law each play an important role in your husband’s life. She nurtured and raised him. Then he fell in love with you, and you become his second mother, wife and friend. I believe your husband, like many husbands, is caught in the middle of two women. Remember, all men are little boys!

My advice is to be ‘sugar and spice, and everything nice’ to your man, especially in front to your mother-in-law. This is your power as a wife and a daughter-in-law. When your mother-in-law notices harmony between you and your husband you will claim your deserved crown as the mother to her grandchildren and hopefully she will tread lightly. If she doesn’t take her aside without your husband’s involvement, simply explain to her you want her involved in your grandchildren’s lives but she is not to overrule you. You have your work set out for you so make this one of your goals for 2020. After all, you are a ‘Moxie Woman!’ Happy New Year!

Warmly,

Honey

 


 

Susan Asks:

Dear Honey,

This article is so important. Thank you, thank you for reminding us not only to stay positive but not to carry bitterness or hatred in our hearts.

It is so freeing to get to a place where one can let go of negative baggage. I have let go of a lot but am still working on a few deeper things from my past. It is getting better and it truly is much lighter as time goes by.

My sister is full of hatred about the past. I would love to give her your article but don’t know if she is ready. It’s hard to have a relationship with her, and yet I still love her.

I’m going to celebrate 2020 in a positive light. Happy New Year dear Honey.

Susan

Dear Susan,

I think you should give your sister a gift… the opportunity of learning how to rid herself of negative baggage. If you live near one another you can invite her to lunch and have a heartfelt discussion with her on the theory of Positive Physiology. Tell her one of your negative experiences and tell her the positives that came out of a very negative happening. Then, give her my blog to read (Positive Thinking in 2020), along with a Journal to start recording her feelings. If she lives a long distance away, email your story along with my blog and send her a Journal in the mail. If she is open to change, then she will in fact change. However, if she is not receptive, you know that you tried. Now, you must accept her choice and live your life with positivity.

Happy New Year!

Warmly,

Honey

 


 

Margo Asks:

Dear Honey,

I’m seriously considering starting my own blog. I spent a lot of time last year reading blogs, mostly about home decor, and am in awe that so many young women make a living doing this. I started journaling back in 1971 when I was first married and felt the need to talk to someone but found myself alone. So many things I’ve done through the years are now popular practices. At this time of year we are inundated with self help tactics and all sorts of ideas on living a more successful life. But so few of these are geared towards those of us that are retired and no longer trying to conquer the world.

I turned 67 in November and think maybe there could be some worth in what I have to say about daily life as a retired person who has gone through the rigors of downsizing, enjoys travel and loves home decor as well as dressing nicely despite being very overweight.

Your post on how to start a blog has inspired me to try this, although I have no interest in monetary gain. Do you have any suggestions or advice that would be different if doing the blog is not a financial endeavor?

Margo

Dear Margo,

Dear Margo,

I do have an idea if you decide not to invest your time in a blog. But, if you decide to go the blog route I will assist you in every way I can.

My other idea is to consider becoming a contributor on honeygood.com and other blogs. A contributor is a person who writes a story one or two times a month on a topic that will be interesting to women over 50.

In order to be accepted as a contributor at honeygood.com you will have to send a story that is at least 800-words to kayla@honeygood.com. She will review your topic and writing skill and get back to you about working together.

Your story will be read by many women, your name will be at the end of your story along with your email and a short bio that you may send to Kayla. She will explain all other details.

I have given you two entries into the world of blogging. I hope you are as happy as I am about this! Happy New Year.

Warmly,

Honey

 

We are all GRAND women with moxie, and we need to stick together. If you have a question for next week, please ask it in the form below.

2 Comments
    1. Happy New Year!!! Hope you had a wonderful time in ‘freezing’ Arizona. We had a perfect time with our children and grandchildren ( I know everyone says that) but in our case it was true! And, America had the time of his life playing outside with his two Golden cousins. Thank you for messaging me. See you the evening of the 7th and looking forward! Warmly, Honey

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