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Is age really just a number?

My daily outlook, the manner in which I lead my life, my philosophy that keeps me in the hunt, is knowing that my age is just a number. I decided to muse on this topic because when reading your marvelous messages, some of you, label yourself by a number, unfortunately, in a negative manner. You are permitting your age to hold you back. You allow a number to stop you from exploring. You begin to feel invisible, less relevant. It becomes a vicious cycle. As we approach 2018 I implore upon you to be proud of all accomplishments, walk tall as an older wiser woman, and feel exuberant, lively and excited about your life. Don’t let a number hold you back in 2018.

Do you know the definition of age?

The definition of age is a measure of time set in stone.

As a group of women over 50 we are definitely not women set in stone. We are the wisest of women on the planet because we have earned our Ph.D. in life.

A very popular online magazine wanted me to write for them. I turned them down because at the end of each of my stories I was required to disclose my age. The incident got me thinking: Does my age define me or define my lifestyle? I started to smile as I thought about a day in the life of Honey Good…In the course of a day, I may feel many different ages depending on what is thrown my way. I may feel from 30 to 50 to 100 depending on what is taking place in my life.

A few days ago I looked into our refrigerator. I had been very busy being busy, so busy, I forgot my husband and I needed to eat. Therefore, I had no choice but to drag myself to the market. I parked my car, yanked the stuck cart out of the rack and pushed it into the market feeling 1,000 years old because I was bored with my task. Then, my iPhone rang. It was one of my grandsons needing my advice and suddenly, darlings I was dancing down the aisle, feeling like I was 30 years old. After I hung up I said to myself, smiling, “Age is just a number.”

And for the most part, I know age is just a number. I am a rebel. I step out of the box. It is an intoxicating feeling. Only illness will stop me. I have one life to live and I intend to live each day on my terms. That is my wish for you as you enter the New Year.

Here are my terms for living life in 2018

  1. Age is not a number. It is an attitude.
  2. Practice gratitude. Grateful women are happier women.
  3. Explore and be challenged. Put fear on the back burner.
  4. Choose vital and visible friends. Avoid dull people. You can’t choose your family. You can choose your friends.
  5. Be an independent thinker, a nonconformist.
  6. Spread love and kindness.
  7. Resolve to live through the ebb in the tides of life.
  8. Take care of your body so you can use it for a very long time.
  9. Be passionate. Ride your wave.
  10. Have time for solitude, to connect with the inner you.

So, please delve into positive territory darlings, without any number (age) attached to your persona as you enter the New Year, 2018. Examine your life and your lifestyle. Love yourself. Pat yourself on the back and say “my age is just a number. 2018 will be another year to soar.”


    1. I just celebrated (dec.26th) my 78 bd. Don t feel a day over 50!!! Love my life, love my Significant other, love my friends. Sound positive???. That’s the way I go through each day!! Positive beats negative by a long shot!!! a happi new year to u Shelley & of course orchid!!???????????????? I am Sharon goodhart friend.

  1. I appreciate your first term for living life…..age IS an attitude! Totally the way I live my life at age 75 – with a positive, young outlook. I always say “If I woke up tomorrow and didn’t know how old I was, I wouldn’t act any different.” Your pearls of wisdom are something I can relate to….thank you Honey.

  2. Thank you Honey! I am going to do exactly what you suggest! Age is just a number. Happy New Year and thank you for being you!!!

  3. Dear Susan,

    I definitely love this piece about age being just a number. My boyfriend of 3 years is much younger than me. He knows it from the beginning.
    I am as young as I want to feel which is always. He on the other has an old soul so we compliment each other. If we had look our difference in age a deal breaker we would not have this blissful relationship. So hats off to the women who always look at their age as just a number.

  4. Love this article. Much needed. Turning 60 next year and divorced. Absolutely hate it, depresses me but this message is good timing and context. Spot on so thank you very much!

  5. I just love the way you see things.. …always persuing life with a cool head and warm heart.
    You have made my heart smile so many times while reading your posts……your absolutely right, age is just a number, meaning very little as we move forward in our world…..
    Have a lovely day, Honey.

  6. Just what I needed this morning. Age is really just a number. In the Islands they actually believe this……here in the States, not so much. So your message got me on track again. Excellent!! Thank you for making my day. Plan to print off and read daily and share with my friends.

  7. Dear Honey,
    This article is uplifting. It’s difficult to not let age affect you when from outside sources we are reminded of it every day.
    I agree, illness will stop you. Recently an illness has made me fearful and dreading the future. It is chronic. I love my grandchildren, exercise, fashion and all things to do with living. Keeping positive is a real challenge.


  8. Dear Honey, I love your blogs and read them every day and have saved some that have touched my heart…today’s is a keeper. I recently retired from 44 years in education and unionism, but mentally I am still that 20-something year old that stood in front of 25 7th graders – I’m raring to go and live my new life to the fullest. I am reconnecting with girlfriends from elementary and secondary school and loving every moment we are together. My grands keep me going – I call my 2 year old grandbaby my Zumba class as we are always on the move. I have my days of feeling 90, but they dissapate when I read uplifting articles or walk in nature. I am reading about aging not as a number or the walk to the grave, but as becoming the sage and shaman for younger generations. Thank you for being here for us and for sharing your sage wisdom.

  9. These are the best words of advise that I have heard in a very long time and I intend to print them out and put them on my Vision Board. Thanks so much.. Happy New Year!!

  10. I feel like we are long time friends. I lost my husband at 50, had 4 daughters and a family restaurant when he died suddenly of a massive heart attack. My daughters and my dog (i too love dogs) got me thru the shock. I married a wonderful man (18 years older) he lost his wife the same yeat i lost my husband. Two families joined together like yours. So you see how i relate to your daily posts. Please keep posting and helping all of us. Love, Jane

  11. I am 21 with 50 years experience! That’s what I tell people if they are so indiscreet as to ask my age! It’s soooo true too ! ????

  12. Thank you for your inspiring message! I’m stumped though as to how to feel 30 again when I’m post menopausal. estrogen, lower serotonin, heavier, less energy, no grand kids, unsatisfying marriage….it’s an uphill battle! Keep inspiring us, Honey! ????

    1. Girl, see your physician! There are drugs for that! I don’t want to offend all those who go “natural”, but I take an anti-depressant for serotonin and a small amount of estrogen. Gives enough energy to tackle the other issues!

  13. Just celebrated my 81st. Birthday. I just keep thinking I’m 40. I’m fortunate because I feel good, I’m happy, and I’m healthy. No aches and pains for me yet. Have been doing yoga for over 50 years. My life is wonderful. I have to keep telling my friends to stop thinking about their age.

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