I'm Honey!

As a woman who has lived through many passages and learned through my larger than life experiences (positive and negative), I’ve discovered how to take a big empowering bite out of life.

Oh My, Ponder This:

Advice

Beauty

Entertainment

Home

Relationships

Style

Travel

Recent Articles

My Thoughts on Gratitude

Dennis Prager says, “Gratitude is the most important element to a person’s happiness.” The dictionary defines gratitude as the quality of being thankful and being ready to show appreciation for and return kindness.

As a woman after 50, I believe gratitude is a mindset that can be learned through one’s experiences. Being thankful and giving back is important for your emotional and physical well-being. I am of the attitude that to fully feel thankful, you must be a grateful and humble person.

Grandmothers have the ability to instill a mindset of gratitude when they share time with their grandchildren. Thanksgiving is a few weeks away; a perfect time to show ‘thanks and giving’.

My Thoughts on Gratitude, Thanksgiving, Being Thankful

 

A mindset of gratitude

I recently received an email from a young woman who has loved reading my stories from halfway across the world (she’s also a writer). She wrote:

“Just a thought before I go to bed. When we spoke I wrote down the power of appreciation in my notebook. I think I did so after you said you choose never to complain about having Cancer, losing a husband, and other things that happened to you. In a way, this is something magical. Perhaps your good luck to survive Cancer and meet your ultimate concierge came to you because you choose to appreciate, to be thankful for what you already had, and not complain. The Universe works that way. It gives more when we stop wanting more.”

It was after reading this message that I had a moment of clarity. I realized that defining gratitude had been plaguing me since I began writing this very blog, not in a bad sense, but in a questioning one. For the longest time I could not put my finger on who taught me to be a grateful woman; to feel utter joy in giving thanks and giving back.

Something in my daily life can occur and I think, “How am I so fortunate to experience such an overwhelming feeling of gratitude? And why is it that others can’t? It was not until I read and reread the young writer’s words that I finally understood. I came to the conclusion that one’s feeling of gratitude is about attitude. It is a mindset.

celebrate life after 50, Honey Good's private Facebook group

The beginning of my enlightenment

Gratitude was learned at my mother’s knee. She never told me to be grateful. She let me experience gratitude when she gave me my first box of thank you note cards with a pretty pink pencil. I printed my first thank you note with her help when I was just 7 years old. Every gift I received from age 7 on, no matter how small the gift, was followed up with a thank you note. I passed the tradition on to my children and they have passed it on to their children.

Have you passed this on to yours?

When we were out with one another I would listen to her say thank you to everyone who helped her and made her happy. I saw her help others. A mother sets an example. A grandmother seals it. A child follows in their footstep.

My mother never told me to be grateful. She instilled a mindset of thankfulness instead. It wasn’t long before I began to feel joy when I expressed my appreciation to others. My mother spoiled me with her teachings. I was blessed to have this mother of mine.

 

Grandmothers can teach children of all ages the attitude of gratitude

  • Ask your grandchildren to name some of their blessings
  • Tell them your stories.
  • Buy them a box of thank you notes, a pen, and a roll of stamps.
  • Write them a note on the importance of appreciation.
  • Set an example
  • Resist the urge to shower them with material items. Shower them with your values.
  • If you are separated by miles send notes to enlighten them about the specialness of feeling grateful.
  • Show them the value of giving back. Buy them books. I still have the book I gave my children, The Giving Tree.
  • Tell them how grateful you are to have them!

 

My Mother

It has been 14 days since I was last with my mother. She passed away on the first day of the Jewish New Year, Rosh Hashanah.

And yet, I am overwhelmed with gratitude that I am the daughter of this mother of mine.

I am overwrought with grief… I will never hear her voice say I love you, see her smile, feel her touch and kisses, hear her hearty laugh.

So I’ve decided to keep her legacy in my home with a candle lit and one fresh flower, delivered to my home weekly, in my beautiful bud vase, to honor this mother of mine …maybe for my lifetime. I am a grateful daughter.

 

How do you show appreciation?

Living life with a thankful heart is one of the best gifts we can give to others and ourselves. Leave a comment below and tell me your favorite way to show appreciation and thankfulness.

 

** Please note that items purchased through links on this site may result in a commission for Honey Good.

 

 

October 9, 2022

Advice

+ show Comments

- Hide Comments

add a comment

  1. Debbie Pennington says:

    Dear Honey,
    I want to express my heartfelt sympathy to you for the passing of your mother. I love your idea of keeping her memory alive with a flower and lit candle. As time passes, you will get use to the idea of her not physically being with you, but she will reside in your heart, mind and soul forever! Take this time to grieve and process your tremendous loss, but remember her beauty, laughter and her smile!XO

  2. Yvette Meshksar says:

    What a beautiful message for today. You have given me some thoughts to share with my little grandson. As I was reading the part about grandchildren, he called me and lifted my day. He told me I was the first person he thought to call. I recently spent two and a half weeks with him. I asked him what special thing did he remember from my visit. He said my hugs! (He’s five)

  3. DeRita Vitto says:

    Hello honey my ways and thoughts are the same as yours I don’t have a whole lot material to give but I can give love I also like receiving love, because Love never fails what I do to show gratitude I send cards bring flowers I keep extra vase to leave at their doors, email , and just keep it in contact to let them know I’m thinking about them I’m here and I love you and your special in myheart🙏😊

  4. DORIS CRIPPS says:

    Oh Honey, I didn’t want this wonderful message of Gratitude to end….I wanted to read more and more. I am so sorry about your Mother, what a wonderful way to honor her. We get to experience her love and wisdom through you. I have 3 Great Grand Babies!! Every time I look at them I am reminded of the miracle of life and health, I am so blessed and thankful for them. You are an inspiration to all of your readers, keep counting those blessings!!

  5. carol douglas says:

    Honey, I feel you should write a book about what
    your mother taught you. My mother has been dead
    some 23 years and I still miss her. This day and age
    I think that a book about gratitude and how to teach
    youngsters would be good….Wishing you well.
    Carol….in Denver.

  6. Attitude is what we can see more clearly about each person’s personality. The things you share are really meaningful.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

instagram

follow along on


@iamhoneygood