Today is World Cancer Day. I am a survivor, but I never dwelled on the “Why me?” I never thought about how and why this insidious illness attacked my body. Dealing with cancer in a positive manner requires a body and mind healing process… I know.

My thoughts when I heard the news from my doctor, twelve years ago, that I had been diagnosed with cancer—two forms of deadly cancer—were never burdened with self-pity. The initial feeling was a mix of shock, fear, and uncertainty about what lay ahead. Being diagnosed with cancer brings an overwhelming sense of facing an uncertain future, as the illness changes everything in an instant. Life is a great teacher and I learned early on as a child that I had two choices in my life. I could sink or I could swim. Darling, I preferred swimming. So, I began developing the capacity to recover from unpleasant difficulties. I had not only the will, but I was fortunate to have the gene for positivity. Having a positive attitude and resilience make for a great partnership.

Why Did I Survive Cancer?

Now, with these two great qualities in my corner, I still did not have a home run recovery. Why? Because I was terrified and still am of cancer.

I do ask myself, “Why did I survive cancer when I shouldn’t have? Was it meant to be?” I ask myself this question often. My only answer is I was lucky. It was accidentally caught and I was proactive and resilient from that day forward. When considering cancer survival, I know that factors like early detection and medical treatment play a major role, but I also wonder about the influence of attitude and personal choices. I wanted to return to good health, believing that the way we approach challenges can impact our own lives and perhaps the lives of others facing cancer.

Are situations meant to be? Is one’s luck written in the stars? I tend to think, because I want to, that they may be.

My Advice Regarding a Cancer Diagnosis

What advice can I give you if you or your family have been threatened by cancer? A cancer patient has to deal with healing their body and their mind. The mind is as important as the body, even more so because your attitude lingers; your body usually mends. Managing both the physical and emotional aspects of cancer is crucial for overall well-being.

Choosing your doctor’s is as important for your mind as much as for your body. So take your time doing your research and even if you have to travel to another city or state for the best care, do it. Selecting the right treatments is a key part of this process, as it can significantly impact your recovery and quality of life. This is your life. You are important to your family. You are loved by many. Social support from friends, family, and support groups can play a vital role in coping with a cancer diagnosis. Additionally, strategies such as relaxation, meditation, and guided imagery can improve quality of life during and after cancer. So, love yourself. Here is an example.

My Daughter Jenny’s Story

My daughter Jenny has been through so much this past year. Her daughter Skylar had Thyroid Cancer, caught in time, and is doing well. Her hubby, my son-in-law, had surgery less than a month ago (on her birthday) for an aggressive form of cancer. Like many people with cancer, they faced not only the diagnosis but also the emotional and physical challenges that come with treatment, including managing pain and uncertainty. Fortunately, it was Stage 1 but heading toward Stage 2.

He did not stay in his city for the surgery. Why? He was given advice by another doctor to travel out of state to USC Hospital in Los Angeles because the surgeon specialized in his form of Cancer. He listened and had surgery this month. His mind is far more positive because he traveled out of state for the surgery. He knows he went to the Crème de la Crème of surgeons. What a psychological plus for his physical and emotional healing. He feels safe. And, he feels the Cancer will not return. During his recovery, engaging in light physical activities helped him regain strength and manage stress, which is often recommended for people with cancer. So, take your time and make sound decisions.

The Positive and Resilient Me

I was terror-struck after my surgeries. I had two surgeries within two weeks of each other. The results were positive, both Stage 1. But, the emotional circumstances and trauma were too much for me to bear. I felt extremely anxious about my future and recovery. Every night when we turned off the lights, for a very long time, I would whisper in my Ultimate Concierge’s ear, “I am so terrified.” And, when it was time for future CAT Scans, weeks before I still tell him, “I am terrified.”

The positive and resilient me did not stop living my life. And, no one would have ever known my fears unless I shared them with them. I knew I had to work on my mindset, focusing on positive aspects and strategies to help me cope.

So, what did I do? I went to a trusted friend who had Stage 2 of my type of cancer. She passed away a few years ago, I remember sobbing. Jennifer worked at the Chanel Boutique and I could not hold back my tears while we sat together on the couch. She helped me. She sent me to Jennifer, a psychologist who was helping her. If I trust someone and they give me good advice, I follow through. And hopefully, you will too; whether it is for you or a family member. Surrounding myself with positive people during recovery made a significant difference in my emotional well-being.

Jennifer taught me to see my cancer as grey, not black. She knew my case and told me to be realistic and the reality was: the chances of my cancer returning was slim to none. She helped me feel fully understand and supported during my most vulnerable moments. Jennifer also emphasized the importance of positive thinking, while acknowledging its limits. And, I have tried to practice her theory. I saw her for two years during my time of emotional healing from fear. Seeking counseling and support brought me many benefits, including reduced anxiety and a greater sense of hope. Looking back, I realize that overcoming these challenges has contributed to my personal growth.

I Took Care of Myself

Lastly, I took care of myself. Twelve years later I will tell you I have never missed a CAT Scan appointment (though I am still terrified of the result.) I have traveled home from wherever I was to use the same CAT Scan machine and see my surgeon immediately after.

Three years ago I saved my life because I was proactive. I had to have another surgery and it was Stage 1. If I had procrastinated or not gone because I was fearful, or traveling, I probably would not be writing this story to you today.

Cancer is a serious illness, and facing it changed my perspective on what truly matters in life. Cancer never stopped me from living life to its fullest. After my diagnosis, I realized there were certain things I wanted to accomplish and prioritize, such as spending more time with loved ones and pursuing meaningful activities. And, if you take care of your physical and emotional wellbeing, you will too. Because of this mentality, I started HoneyGood.com. I authored a book, Stories for my Grandchild, I learned to play Mahjong, I traveled far and wide with my Ultimate Concierge to places like Antarctica, Saudi Arabia, Syria, Iran, India, Africa, and more. As well, I have met interesting people, learned many lessons, watched family members get married and have children. I helped my granddaughter Skylar and my darling son-in-law Bruce through their cancer experiences because we are all survivors. And, I will help you if you need me. It would be my pleasure to give back.

The Importance of Professional Help

Receiving a cancer diagnosis is a life-changing moment—one that can bring a flood of emotions, from shock and fear to uncertainty about the future. Even for those who strive to maintain a positive attitude, the journey through cancer treatment and recovery can be filled with ups and downs. Many cancer patients, including breast cancer patients and survivors, find themselves wrestling with anxiety, negative thoughts, and the persistent worry of cancer recurrence. These feelings are completely normal, and you are not alone in experiencing them.

This is where professional help can make a world of difference. Seeking support from a counselor, therapist, or joining a support group is not a sign of weakness—it’s a powerful step toward taking control of your mental health and well-being. Individual counseling offers a safe space to talk openly about your fears, stress, and the strong emotions that come with a cancer diagnosis. A professional can help you develop coping skills and strategies to manage anxiety, reduce stress, and focus on the present moment, rather than being overwhelmed by the “what ifs” of the future.

Support groups, whether in person or online, connect you with others who truly understand the cancer experience. Many cancer survivors have found comfort and strength in sharing their stories, listening to others, and realizing that their feelings are valid and shared by many. These groups can provide emotional support, practical advice, and a sense of community that helps ease feelings of isolation. For loved ones and family members, support groups can also offer guidance on how to best support the person in their life who is living with cancer.

Professional help goes beyond emotional support—it can also provide valuable information about cancer growth, treatment options, and ways to improve your physical health during and after treatment. For breast cancer patients, specialized counseling can address unique concerns and help navigate the challenges specific to their diagnosis. By working with professionals, you can learn to manage negative feelings, build resilience, and maintain hope, even when the path ahead feels uncertain.

It’s important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to cope with a cancer diagnosis. Each person’s journey is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. The key is to find the support and resources that help you feel empowered, hopeful, and in control of your health status. Techniques like mindfulness, meditation, and keeping a gratitude journal can be wonderful additions to your coping strategy, helping you stay positive and focused on the present.

Prioritizing your mental health is just as important as caring for your physical health. By seeking professional help, you give yourself the tools to manage stress, improve your quality of life, and increase your chances of positive cancer outcomes. Whether you are a patient, a survivor, or a loved one supporting someone through cancer, know that many resources are available to help you cope, heal, and thrive. You deserve support, hope, and the chance to live your life as fully as possible—no matter where you are on your cancer journey.

Cancer Taught Me to Have Gratitude and More

So, am I still terrified? Yes and no. Darling, I have worn myself out being so terrified! I am smiling but it is the truth. But, I am not as terrified as I was. I think of Jennifer and the color grey because for my situations it is the right call and I continue to be proactive and never miss my CAT Scans. I just passed another test a week ago. Whew!

Did cancer change me? Yes and no. But, I was always grateful. In every experience, you can find something to be grateful for. My mother always taught me to write thank-you notes when I was a little girl, this taught me to live with gratitude. And, I always lived outside the box. I have loved life and my family. Because of this, I don’t have to race to do more!

I think because I have been threatened by cancer, I see life differently than some people. I am not putting myself on a pedestal, I just think I sometimes see myself as a wise fairy or angel hovering over people, places, and things and wonder… why?

Have you or someone you love dealt with cancer? As I said, I’m here for you if you need me. Please let me know any questions or thoughts you have in the comments at the bottom of this page.