The Benefits of Being an Observant Woman Over 50+
I observe everything and every one with great detail. Darling, I began my study of observing in the first grade. I usually walked 11 blocks home from my elementary school, with my girlfriend, Sandy. On the few occasions I walked alone, I remember I observed nature and architecture and sounds. As well, I remember I never felt alone because I had so much around to observe.
I noticed for the first time during those early walks how much there was to see and learn just by paying attention. That first time I realized the power of being observant, it felt like a whole new world opened up to me. My mother was a true role model for curiosity—her inquisitive spirit and zest for life inspired me to keep exploring and asking questions.
Because of this, I learned soon after that I was not simply observing with my eyes; I was also “observing” with my ears. This thought came into play as I began to listen to the words of my family and friends. They provided me with detailed and learned information. Such as behavior, perception, values, scrutiny, and best of all, ‘newness of thought.’’ People, good and bad, were all teachers. These observations deeply affected my feelings, helping me grow emotionally and understand myself and others on a more meaningful level.
How to Be a Joyful Observer
In order to do this, you have to tune in. What do I mean by this?
Years ago, as the new year of 2018 was around the corner, I observed the number 18 and became ecstatic. Why? Because in the Jewish religion the definition of the number 18 is to live. The Hebrew word for “life” is chai. The word reflects the importance of life in Judaism. Faith in God often brings deeper meaning to these spiritual milestones, reminding us that joy is a gift that can be found through trust and prayer. And I wondered how many of my Jewish friends had the time, because of life’s distractions, to think about this marvel. The last time the number 18 appeared on a year’s date had been over 100 years ago: 1918. In my mind, I will always refer to 2018, as the Year of Chai; of life. My first joy in the New Year. Just as weeping may tarry for the night, but joy comes with the morning, the new year symbolizes a new beginning and the promise of light after darkness.
As an observant woman, I have learned to appreciate the moments of observation that life offers. Each moment, no matter how small, can be transformative and contribute to personal growth. Through this practice, I have found hope—an emotional and spiritual renewal that inspires resilience and curiosity for what lies ahead.
The Shape of Water
I also observed by ‘listening’ intently to the lines in a movie. We viewed The Shape of Water, on December 31st of 2017. One line so moved me that I made it my New Year’s toast to my husband, Sheldon Good, my Ultimate Concierge. So, I raised my glass in front of my friends and said to him, “You are all around me.” This wonderful phrase will stay with me all the days of my life.
Some months ago I wrote a poem. Writing, for me, is both an act of observation and a form of self-expression. There is a unique feeling that comes from translating what I see and sense into creative work—a mix of wonder, vulnerability, and fulfillment. My interest in the world and my desire to understand and express it have always fueled my creative pursuits. The idea for my poem was sparked by a moment of deep reflection, and my dream of expressing myself authentically led me to write poetry. As a person who values being observant, I find that sitting quietly with my thoughts and observations allows for meaningful introspection and growth. I encourage you to sit with your own thoughts and let your desires guide your creativity. I was once afraid to share my creative work, but through observation and self-acceptance, I learned to speak my truth—whether through poetry or conversation. And, it is interesting that the poem on the topic of dealing with cancer was inspired by my ability to observe.
Life Changed After Cancer
Life Changed After Cancer
The sun is sunnier.
The leaves on the trees, greener.
The flowers smile and… I smile back.
Each star shines brighter
The Seas are calmer
I follow, woman, the moon.
My empathy keener
And, my appreciation greater
My thoughts run deeper
I am wiser.
My laugh is heartier
And my clarity keen.
I forgive and forget
And, I am calm.
I live life to its fullest
Passion and fierceness
are my middle names.
I ride ‘my wave of positivity’
Cancer brought me to a higher plane.
So, my Darling, delve into the wonders of observation, starting with yourself. You will be all wiser and, I must add, happier women over 50. Why not start with bringing a fresh bouquet of cut flowers into your home to observe with joy.
Building Meaningful Relationships as an Observant Woman
As an observant woman over 50, you may find that your ability to notice the little things—an encouraging smile, a thoughtful gesture, a moment of shared laughter—plays a significant role in building meaningful relationships. At this stage in life, many women realize that true connection is essential for overall well-being and a deep sense of self-worth. The friendships and bonds we nurture not only bring joy and happiness, but also help us overcome fear and embrace the freedom that comes with aging.
In our younger years, life often moved at a dizzying pace. We were busy raising families, building careers, and meeting the world’s demands. Now, as older women, we have the gift of time and perspective. This is the perfect moment to be curious and interested in the lives of others, to reach out to friends, family, and even new acquaintances with an open heart. Many women over 50 discover that by embracing new ideas and being willing to learn from others, they continue to grow and thrive.
Baby boomers, in particular, have shown that staying socially connected is key to mental and emotional health. Whether it’s a heartfelt conversation with a friend, a walk with a family member, or joining a group that shares your interests, every interaction is an opportunity to enrich your life. Volunteering for a cause you care about not only benefits others, but also brings a sense of purpose and fulfillment to your own days.
Technology, too, can play a wonderful role in keeping relationships strong. Video calls, social media, and online communities allow women to stay in touch with loved ones near and far, and to meet new friends who share their passions. The world is full of possibilities for connection, if we are willing to be aware and take that first step.
As women over 50, we have the knowledge and experience to mentor younger women, offering guidance and support as they navigate their own journeys. This exchange of ideas and wisdom is a beautiful way to give back and to feel inspired by the next generation.
Ultimately, building meaningful relationships is about being present, engaged, and willing to invest time and care into the people who matter most. Every moment spent nurturing these bonds is a moment that adds richness and depth to our lives. As one wise woman mentioned, “Relationships are the key to a happy and healthy life, and I make sure to nurture them every day.”
So, my Darling, as you move forward, remember that the benefits of strong relationships are immeasurable. Embrace the joy, laughter, and sense of belonging that come from connecting with others. Whether you’re talking with a friend, spending time with family, or meeting someone new, let your observant spirit guide you to deeper, more meaningful connections. In doing so, you’ll find that your life is filled with happiness, purpose, and the kind of love that only grows richer with age.
Honey, thank you! I am a professional fine artist. I grow a few roses and always lament when I cut them into a bouquet and then don’t have time to paint them..because that’s the reason I began growing them. Recently though when that happened, I realized hey, I can just love them because I love them. They’re beautiful and smell awesome! You are so right. I’m a new subscriber and enjoying your blog. Thank you!
Dear Honey,
Your poem is beautiful and inspirational. Thank you for sharing it.
Thank you very much, Carol. I am glad you found the meaning. I am smiling. Warmly, Honey
I, like you, am an observer of life. My husband and I are blessed to live on four acres in the middle of a busy Atlanta suburb. Our property was once a small horse farm. There haven’t been horses here for many years, but we have observed and enjoyed sixteen generations of deer, who come to graze in our pasture daily, and a bounty of beautiful birds. We have often talked about how blessed we are to see and share with each other the beauty all around us. For my birthday last week, my husband gave me a lovely Willow Tree statue of a couple entwined with each other. The title of this statute is “All around you”.
Each night before I go to sleep I stand outside and look up at the universe and think back on my day and all the wonderful things I have seen and experienced and say thank you .
Beautiful!!!!
Honey,
Your poem is beautiful and thought provoking.
Thank you for sharing.
I am glad you enjoyed reading my thoughts. Have a lovely week-end. Warmly, Honey