How to Leave a Lasting Impression on Your Grandchildren

March 20, 2018 Published by
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Lasting Impression on Grands

Both of my grandmothers had a positive impact on my life. I can still hear the laughter of my grandmother on my mother’s side. I see her in her summer home, on the beach in Michigan City, Indiana, preparing fresh corn on the cob in her kitchen, adding a drop of sugar to the boiling water for sweetness.

She shared this a legendary secret about her corn… shhh, don’t tell her I’m sharing with you!

At times, I still notice things I say and do that I carry with me, and I marvel at her ability to have managed to leave a piece of her behind with me to this day.

This woman unwittingly taught me that, as grandmothers, there are so many seemingly simple things we can do that will leave a lasting impression on our grands.

The Impressions Left on Me

I lived 60 miles away from my grandmother. I did not see her often, and yet, she holds a big place in my heart and mind. So much so that I was determined to emulate her by leaving a part of my essence with my grandchildren.

A young mother sent me a quote that best describes my feelings on the most important role of a grandmother.

It goes like this, “It is not what you leave your grandchildren when you are dead; it is what you leave them in their head. Your wisdom and your values, Grandma!”

Leaving a Lasting Impression

The question remains, how do we do this when our grandchildren have such busy schedules right up until bedtime? I have experienced the following scenarios; some of these may sound similar to your own:

  • A granddaughter, who is a star pitcher on her college softball team.
  • A grandson in middle school, a hockey goalie, who has private hockey practice every morning and then team practice each afternoon.
  • A grandson who practices daily with his high school football team (who won the Arizona State Championship one season!)
  • A grandson who is a star tumbler on a large cheerleading squad that won first place in the West Coast Region of the U.S.

And that’s just the beginning! Other grandchildren of mine hold lead roles in their class plays, one was an exchange student in Beijing, China, and another studied at Haifa University in Israel! I’m sure many of you are in similar boats!

So, how do we try to be an important part of our grandchildrens’ lives and leave a lasting impression when they are so busy and live so far away?

My grandchildren live in Arizona, Texas, Indiana, California and Chicago. Not to mention, I live six months out of the year in California and the other six months in Chicago. It can be hard to be a grandmother!

I am sad that I am not in the middle of their daily lives, but I have to be creative in finding ways to leave them with “Honey wisdom” and “Honey value builders!”

I have learned, over the years, that by taking an interest in my Grands and their unique and one-of-a-kind interests and gifts, I can stay connected to them despite the restraints of time + distance.

How Will You Leave a Lasting Impression Unique to You?

I am creative with my “Honey messages” and small “Honey gifts.” They seem to stick, and hopefully, they continue to as the years go on. I truly feel that I make a contribution to their lives and that is very important to me. I know a grandmother can always be in the minds of her grandchildren, distance be d*mned!

One last note: I text often, call them on their cell phones, Skype, email and Facebook with them. I know my grandchildren love me, respect me and have learned much from me.

That is the gift they have given me, and it truly is priceless!

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12 Comments

  • Thames says:

    Oh, dear. The camels on the wall behind you left an impression on me.

  • Chele says:

    I love this topic. I have now 4 grandbabies in the last two years. Because of my husbands work transfer we are six hours away from them. We love where we are and have been here now for 9 years however I am now struggling with this every day. I hate being so far away. I need to find a way to deal with it because I am afraid I am becoming depressed. It seems everyone I know spends so much time with their grands

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Oh, my Chele I am so sorry you are sad. So many grandparents are separated by the miles from their grands. I am one of them and it is a loss for both you and me and all our grands. If you Skye, you can see them and they can see you every day. If you do not know how, you have to learn so you can be happier. It is not hard. Also, I do not know your lifestyle but I do know this…it is important to keep busy. You can take classes in so many things or join a book club or movie club or a card club. Maybe learn how to play cards if you do not know how. And, plan trips to visit so you have something to look forward to. I hope I am helping you. Warmly, Honey

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      I am sure you will find a way to deal with this. You know it is impossible to be in two places at once. You are happy where you are and that is great. Learn to Skype and talk to them and maybe make a few more trips a year to visit and have them make a few more visits to you. Where there is a will, there is a way. Warmly, Honey

  • Judi says:

    Thank you for this wonderful setting of your relationship with your grands. I have a grand in California, she moved there three years ago, she is 24, the oldest. All my other grands live here in Texas. I moved last year closer to 3 of them. The oldest will go into high school next year, he played football last year and I enjoyed his games.. he is bright, funny, a prankster. My granddaughter played the violin in ochestra this year that I enjoyed so much, she also does dance. And the youngest did indoor soccer and just finished up basketball. This daughter and family travel quite a bit. The kids are world travelers in away, Jamaica, Barbados, Bahamas and so on. They are privileged to get to do and see so much, para sailing, surfing, skiing in Colorado, swimming with dolphins in Hawaii.

    My other grands all live in south part of Texas. My oldest grandson is in his second year of college, he will be 20, has decided he wants to go into forensics. My next granddaughter is a junior in high school. Is either thinking a vet, absolutely loves animals or a teacher. Then my next granddaughter is a freshman and a cheerleader. And after that they are younger. A preteen after that he loves to read. And is very smart, does so well in school. My one fixing to be 7 is very smart too. She does gymnastics and has played basketball too. Her brother also has done karate and basketball. Others are into basketball, football and soccer. Very athletic. Then the youngest two are 2 and a half and nearly two. My daughter is a foster parent and adopted these 2. But they are my grands. Just like all the others. She has a little foster girl who is 8, she calls me nana, Just like my other grands. We face time and talk often. The 2 1/2 year old loves to FaceTime me. She is so funny. I am going home next month to watch them while my daughter and hubby go to Florida for a few. I’m excited. Then I will stay a while to visit everyone. Then they are going to Disney world so I then will be with just the dogs. Ha! But I love it. I hope to bring a piece of me to them and guide them and help them to know about the Lord and kindness, gratitude. And help others. I pray for my grands everyday that God will protect them and guide their steps. Two of my grands have diabetes so I know that is a struggle at times but they both have handled it a lot better than I probably would. Thank you Honey.

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Thank you, Judi, for sharing your story of your wonderfully talented grands with me. I read every word and must say, they are very fortunate to be blessed with a grandmother like you. And, your daughter is so special too. Two foster children who need love and care are under her roof. You were a great mom, too. Enjoy your time with your grands and your alone time with the doggies. Be safe and God bless. Warmly, HOnoey

    • Susan "Honey" Good says:

      Thank you for your lovely comment. I am glad you are going to teach them, gratitude. That is the best. You are a very special grandmother. I applaud you. Warmly, Honey

  • Geri says:

    You’ve inspired me to write notes of congratulations, little cards, not just texts which are quickly erased!

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