My goal is to help you create a lifestyle of positivity and possibility. I am smiling!

– Warmly, Honey

How women over 50 feel relevant on the internet


A positive lifestyle for women over 50 includes the continuation of being relevant. And one avenue you may want to explore is feeling relevant on the internet

Relevancy begins within each of us. We take pride in our accomplishments because when a woman feels accomplished, she does not feel invisible. Remember: 80 percent of a woman’s beauty comes from within – her personality, her smile and her mind.

As a woman over 50, you should have interests. You should interact with others. You should have an open mind, both to seek new endeavors and to expand on old endeavors. You should not retire from life, but dive into it.

It is important not to be too hard on yourself. If you enjoy what you are doing, don’t give up. Keep trying and expanding your horizons. All of these trials will provide you with relevancy… your inner feeling of visibility.

A rough day on the course

One beautiful day on the seventeenth hole of the golf course I heard the phrase, “I would have killed myself.” It was one of those days where I could not hit the ball. I had taken a minimum of 256 swings at a ball that looks like a hard-boiled egg! I was not a bad golfer. I was just a 22 handicap on that sunny day, but I would not give up.

My hardship continued for more than two hours. I was so frustrated I could have cried. I tried everything my instructors had taught me. I looked at my grip, thought about my stance and posture, eyed my target and continuously missed the shot. It was not a laughing matter for me or for the friends I was playing with that day. Though I got to my ball on time, I was holding them up. Again, I would not give up.

I kept my cool and smiled through the tears without complaining. I wished I could scream, walk off the course and quit. My father, a six handicap golfer, taught me that golf is a gentleman’s game. I never forgot his words and I remained true to his teachings.

On the seventeenth hole I walked up to the tee box, where a friend was standing awaiting her turn. “I can’t believe how well you have contained yourself,” she said. “If I had been you, I would have killed myself!”

I laughed, proud of my good sportsmanship. I felt relevant and visible.

Keeping that in mind, I approached that little white ball and gave it such a crack that it flew far out onto the fairway. Instantly, everyone including myself, looked up in shock and screamed at my perfect shot.

Remembering advice

I was back in action and back in the game. What was the difference between that shot and my other 256+ tries? I recalled two previous lessons I had learned. One was from an older, more experienced woman golfer who, days before, had watched me practicing.

“Susan, turn your ass and hit the grass,” she said.

I was shocked by her statement and couldn’t help but laugh. In other words, a golfer cannot hit the ball unless they make a good turn, and I was not turning until the seventeenth hole.

The other advice I recalled, as I went to take my swing that sunny day, were my husband’s words, “Let the F…er fly!” And dear readers, that ball flew. It only took one second for me to become visible.

I have since put my golf clubs somewhat out to pasture.

The technology takeover

What has taken their place?

Google, my MacBook Air and my iPhone. I am in touch with the world and I am as visible as I choose. I am relevant always. And…

I am infatuated. I have an ongoing romance with my computer and phone. I am like a kid in the candy store when it comes to my email. I come home and rush to my desk where I can be in immediate contact with girlfriends, children, grandchildren, business contacts and you dear readers of mine. It is so easy.

No invention since the printing press, television or golf clubs has been so life-altering for the world… and yours truly.  It is revolutionary. The internet has changed my life, all for the better. I am anything but invisible. I am 100% relevant within my soul.

It saves time. Rather than talking on the phone I simply send an email, “Want to grab dinner and see a movie?” Or I send a text to my children and grandchildren, “Can you talk in five?” It takes less than a minute. I can sign papers, meet business contacts and send my working honeybees at a million emails a day. (It drives them up a wall, but I truly love them and they love me.)

It is a whole new way of being friends with people, whether intimate or not.

Feeling relevant on the internet

I am updating my site via email with drawings, color palettes and wire frames appearing instantly in my inbox. I can have four-way conversations online, visualizing the drawings as I watch my web designer and artist make changes. As I watch in awe, I can make comments in real time. It is fascinating and I am relevant by learning and doing. I am not aging, but rather growing.

Then there is Google. OMG, I am in love with Google. I learn by using it every day. Interested in seeing a resort you’d like to visit? Google it. Looking for an address to a restaurant? Google it. Need a statistic? Google it. Want to learn just about anything? Google it.

As with all good things in life, there are some downfalls.

I have so many emails, I feel as if I am going to drown. When Safari is down, I cannot just Google it. If I lose an email, there is nothing I can do. If I cannot find my iPhone, I feel lost. Yet, I still feel relevant because I have to solve my problems.

My advice to you dear readers is simple: Take up a sport. Join a club. Do charity work. Work on your friendships. Travel. Stay fit. Go back to school. Redecorate your home. Entertain. Be proactive about your health. Need more ideas? Google it… because the world will become your oyster and one path may be feeling relevant on the internet.

Got to go, I have a question to ask Google!

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  1. Honey, I think your grey hair is very pretty. I still color mine. When is the right time to let the grey or white out? How will I still feel attractive and not old? On other people I often admire their hair but I still feel like I can’t do it. Can you do something on that sometime? Thanks, Dixie

  2. Honey,

    Have you posted about physical care and plastic surgery? You look great, and as a 50+-year old I know the benefits of botox and some little nips and tucks. You’ve had them too, and could add your two cents to the women out there who have not done their research and are frightened by it. You go, girl!

  3. Hi Susan,
    I read your stories with deep appreciation of what you have done to me and my life. You validate my relevance to this world.
    I am a widow of 12 years. I have 3 grown kids and 3 grands whom I love so dearly. Two years I met a a man on line who has become my lover, and my dearest friend. I am going on 75 but I feel I am reborn. I feel young and excited with my world. I travel with my friends who are also widows and explore and enjoy the new world before us.
    Your story about your travel was not lost in me. I have some war stories about my travels especially since I travel alone to different destinations and met up with my friends. My man says to me " continue to travel because that is your worl that makes you who you are. And indeed it does make me feel alive, regardless if I miss my flight, got sick on a cruise, got left behind in Talinn Estonia in one of our excursions. But I made the best of the situation, made friend with a stranger and together we explore the town. He even put me in a taxi to take me back to my ship. As it turns out his cabin was just 2 cabins away from mine. I send him a bottle of wine.
    So like you said "be relevant" my new inspiring word. Thank you and looking forward to read more of your stories. Got to pack, leaving this Sundsy to visit my sister in Manila, Philippines and attend a high school reunion.

    1. Hi Thyrza, We are ‘sisters in thought.’ We think the same. Thank you for your story. I read it to my husband! Enjoy your high School reunion and continue to enjoy your life. Keep in touch. Warmly, Honey

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